I need help...

Are you funny haha or funny weird?

Honestly, I might could suggest a little alcohol to take the edge off? I'm really not a good talker myself, I too am very self aware, I might say something that is really over some peoples heads. Probably one of your problems. However, after about 2-3 beers, I can go up to any girl and say "hey I'm mar, I'm jeffs buddy. Whats your name?........."

REMEMBER questions to ask her. Don't make them sucky questions, but something appropriate. If im at a college party, I'll ask who she hangs around with, what she studys, who she knows. If i'm at a bar, i ask about their drinking range, does she get down or is she three margartias and out.

Point is, know what you are going to ask her before you ask her. Don't do it like you are reading a paper, but get information. Get information and use it. Start tailoring her questions. Figure out what she wants to talk about and can talk about. You will find places to talk...she will start asking you questions....just stay calm and whereever the conversation leads, go there. After a conversation is over, its over. Don't try to force it.

Honestly, what i like to do when I meet a new girl, I pretty much ask for the "story". Who are you...who do you know...why are you here....what do you do....

I can spend 30 minutes with any random girl asking those 4 questions. Girls love to talk. Learn to talk...its not that hard especially when your thoughts are your words....which you probably know what i mean by that.

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Originally Posted by IamTheWalrus

Im gunna say it almost seems like your afraid of it, plus you dont really have a great social life, to be honest I don't think your ready for it. Oh this mgiht sound stupid but have you ever tried dumbing yourself down a bit? The girls you go for probably feel intimdated about your intelligence, or just dont want a guy like that, that is just if you wanna fuck a girl not stay with her.

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Well, there's a big difference between dumbing yourself down, and being sure to use "layman's terms" and standard conversational English. My hubby has an I.Q. of almost 200 (not exaggerating), but one wouldn't guess that he was any more than bright or intuitive when speaking with him. He has a huge vocabulary, but he usually saves it for term papers and such. One thing that you definitely do not want to do is intimidate, physically or mentally. You know you're smart, and though you may see that as one of your greatest assets, if you're constantly trying to prove that you're intelligent, it can often times come off as being off-handish or arrogant. It leaves women feeling like they have to, in turn, prove to be your equal on that level in order to interact properly. People do not like others to make them feel ignorant or dumb. Be excited about your intelligence or knowledge, but know that you've got nothing to prove in that regard. It will shine through much clearer if you're not deliberately trying to show it.

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Originally Posted by 420purplehaze420

get that gym membership and start acting like people owe you somethig, the confidence and rock hard chest will get you a girl, i guarantee it.

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best advice on here



whether it's 'sad' or whatever there's no way to respond with a negative on this one, getting in shape is a GOOD thing and the easier time you'll have with girls is just a bonus

Bro Im in the same situation dont feel bad. Im 20 and still not in to dating and sex. Ive had a few teases ya know making out with a few girls and stripper stuff. I never had much confidence my whole life and that was kinda the result up untill a few years ago. I was basicly livn my own world being on my own. The friends I do have gave me so much teaching/shittalk/pressure that I begain to feel like I was loseing what little control I had, geting more insecure like I was getting pressure. I regularly think Im not good enough. I woulda had sex any day I just didnt feel confident enough to go and get it. I started working out a while back, getn in shape made me feel more confident. Just have hope, suicide is selfish.

its not sad to fuck a prozzy its like when ur in amsterdam the saying "when in rome" comes to mind

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Originally Posted by Spanish Leather

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WARNING: Don't follow virtually ANY of the advice in in regards to picking up women. it is for losers who are just interested in banging as many women as possible. HOWEVER, it DOES give you an excellent frame of reference on how many women do think about men. I will repeat: PLEASE DON'T follow the actual advice in this book. This book, will if anything, teach you that being yourself is the best remedy for your woman problems (and i know you've heard that before, but its true). Trust me, just read it. It will change the way you look at girls.

Lastly, there are PLENTY of years left in your life to get laid and find a relationship. Everything is going to be all right

SL

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this warning if very true... alot of advice is just for having sex fast which i rlly dont want to do... im a bit of a hopeless romantic myself, but i listen to that advice and it just kind of helps u get into the rite frame of mind.... that what u need is confidence....
i mean i couldnt believe it... i was rlly unconfident then i just sat down and said to myself "for fucks sake i can do this, i am not pathetic or any of that shit, getting turned down a few times doesnt mean shit... it just happens" and its not like magically i was picking up girls left and right but i noticed a diference jsut talking to them, and i got a girlfriend... i do need to do this every-so-often cause i just naturally have lower self confidence.... wen ur on the right track youll no it.... sometimes after ive gotten out of somthing ill look back at what i did to start it and it just seems illogical, like i dont understand why i did what i did... u just do and feel and thats the only way you can no... everyone is diferent and diferent things will work for diferent ppl... another thing that helps is to be able to read tones, facial expressions, and body language...
if u cant think of what to say just play off things she has said... u can carry conversations for well over an hour just based on things she has said... i have done it several times...

most advice doenst work for any given situation... just the confidence part...

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Originally Posted by LIP

I wouldnt call you sad, infact im going to be getting me a lady friend in the dam next year when i go, smoke a fat doobie and shag her senseless.

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HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH LIPS A DON LIPS A DON!! HAHAHAHAH YOU KNOW THEM ONES BRUV!

when it come to sex its not quanty ,but quitly thats inportant . just because your mates are scoreing dosernt mean there happy or that your reall missout..... if you wont to meet woman you need to go outside !!!!! go to clubs ,parks beaches and chuch groups(never underestamat the chuch going woman...wild ) be confident ,woman love confident guys , before you go out look at yourself in the mirro and tell yourself that your a hot guy who can have any woman he wont . make sure you have something intresting to say about everthing ! this will mean reading news papers , watching the news and reading cosmo . your cloths or hair style is not that inportant but you should make sure you smell good ,as a womans sense of smell is better than mens and they are easly put of by bad smells . work out ..it will make you look stronger which woman like and will also help with your conferdince . when you walk into a room be sure to talk to every single woman ,be conferdint and funny . if you meet a girl you like complement her on her hair ,smile ect and ask her questiond about herself ,listion to her responce . when you get home make a file about her with all the realevent info phone number ,birthday,fav colour,food,flower ect this will come in handy later . be a gentlyman ,open doors ,pull out chairs pay for the meals and always complement her.

Wow, bad advice?^^

Don't act like a pussy, you are already acting that way and its not working. You need to get some confidence. Back when i was a sophomore, I still wasn't really confident, i felt like a small person. By my junior year, i was 6'2" and 200lbs and I could handle people, (in physical situations whether it be fighting or sex). I gained confidence, realized that noone is better than me or really has any advantage over me. I feel smart and strong.

If you have nothing to be confident about, you are in a rough spot.

i already posted this but here it is again enjoy and good luck seducing them ladies. i love this guide yo i read it like every day and like re-seduce my woman every day mwahaha :stoned: http://www.fastseduction.com/guide/