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Im gunna say it almost seems like your afraid of it, plus you dont really have a great social life, to be honest I don't think your ready for it. Oh this mgiht sound stupid but have you ever tried dumbing yourself down a bit? The girls you go for probably feel intimdated about your intelligence, or just dont want a guy like that, that is just if you wanna fuck a girl not stay with her.
dude go watch that movie hitched
Are we long lost brothers? It seems like you've retold the story of my life in your posts...
Let me just say these aren't the answers, and I know people will rag on me for saying these things.
This is just what worked for me, and since we were in the same boat, it seems like some out of touch advice from a lunatic might help you out.
Stop overanalyzing the situation, stop overanalyzing yourself.
The first thing you must do is accept isolation and understand that you'll die alone. It sounds brutal, but it's a fact. Even if you go out holding someone in your arms, it's still your brain that shuts off and your body that gives out. Chances are, even if you get married to a beautiful woman you love, your love won't last the lifetime our society expects it to. Understand that emotions are just chemicals and you can turn your love on and off like a switch. If you really wanted to, you could feel love for some random homeless guy, so maybe it's not that special (chances are I just haven't felt it, though).
Learn to love and respect yourself. You're all you have.
Now for me, any girl I have intended on having sex with (I fall in love with ALMOST every girl I meet) has stayed far, far away from my penis. The real key was meeting some girls who I ABSOLUTELY could not force myself to respect. This resulted in me acting significantly more confident, which, when mixed with alcohol and weed, caused me to display typical alpha male characteristics (being the asshole both you and I despise). I am ashamed to say the first girl I had sex with I threatened to punch in the face, in front of other people, on multiple occasions. She loved it. But I was serious, this girl was very dumb, extremely slutty, couldn't light a bong right, and was prone to alcohol poisoning every night of the week. My threats of violence somehow endeared me to her, so when I'd see her in public places she would start seeking me out to talk or dance. (Dancing is a great way to get a girl to make out with you... it might have something to do with the fact that you're trying to forcibly shove your penis into any part of her body near it).
Getting girls to seek you out is key, because, sooner or later, she will be alone with you while intoxicated and start making out with you. Run with this. Once in bed, though, you may revert to your more sensitive self. Defeat this urge by attempting to reinact your favorite pornos. For instance, I told a Filipino girl the other day who wasn't giving me oral of her own will to "show me how Filipino girls suck dick." This made me feel very macho, and was ultimately more satisfying than her mouth (which immediately proceeded to my dick). This is your big day, so proceed to fuck the llife out of this girl. Think of a list of positions you want to try and go for as many as you can, just please don't sit there and expect her to do the work because this strategy typically works on slutty, yet extraordinarily lazy women (sigh). Cowgirl and reverse cowgirl are some of my favorites because I am somewhat lazy, and if the girl DOES want to take some initiative, this is her chance to show what she's got, and it's still more sexy than missionary.
Summary: find girls you can't respect and dominate them the tried and true alpha-male way. The stories are usually more rewarding than the sex, but hey, you're desperate, right? I was. Please, for the love of God, if you can possibly find someone you like do it with them because making love is quite different than having sex. However, don't expect a girl to continue loving you after you prematurely bust inside her due to it being your first time, but then again, I've heard from a few people that some guys don't bust at all the first time because they're so blown away that they are actually inside a woman they can't even feel it.
Understand that this is a very cynical method that does not provide satisfaction beyond losing your virginity and making great stories.
I am sorry if I offended anyone, I'm actually a surprisingly nice guy, but this is what I had to do to get my dick wet.
PS - don't waste your weed or alcohol on any girls this attracts.
Peace
Do you mean "Hitch" with Will Smith??Quote:
Originally Posted by sweet jane
I was dragged into seeing that, and actually, *some* of the stuff on there *might* work.
But I mean, come on, it was the King of Queens he was teaching. ~
i was kinda like that but not really for the same reasons
i had MAD females that wanted ta get wit me, but somehow it jus always ended up not happening, for some reason or another, or most of tha females i wasnt even feelin, like i only wanted tha fine ass dimes, all these other females that wanted me jus wouldnt cut it, i coulda los my v-card at like 11(even tho i jus barely hit puberty lol) n it took me til i was 15 ta find 1 fine enough an put in enough work (textin her like 4 times & askin where tha room was an wut room #) idk how it happened it jus did & tha 1st night we didnt even f*** cuz i felt bad about it cuz she was drunk but tha 2nd night i beat that shit up so bad i was like a natural there was cumstains drizzlin down tha side of tha bed (not mines) an she couldnt handle after like 45 minutes even tho she was more experienced then me n eveythang she was like i gotta pee i was so pissed, then after that like 1/4 of tha time she would quit on me cuz she couldnt handle
so jus think positive sumthin will end up happenin
Careful about which advice you accept in this thread, take the girls advice, and im sorry guy but looks really are a big (huge) part of it, get that gym membership and start acting like people owe you somethig, the confidence and rock hard chest will get you a girl, i guarantee it.
Its sad but as humans we are biologically inclined to go after the visually appealing, to produce the best offspring, shallow by nature if you will.
Why is it so crucial that you lose your virginity? just because you stick your penis in a girl doesnt make your life anymore complete. anyways good luck in your quest
OK, I have no experience with chicks (I'm 19), but that is for my own personal reasons. I was basically asleep throughout highschool in every aspect of life, from my body to how girls reacted to me. About a year ago, i took this gal (who's reallllyyy hot) out to the movies and she said, "You'd make such a good boyfriend. No...You'd make a good husband!"-and she wasn't testing me, she meant it, but I was asleep then to such compliments (she asked me out to senior prom, and i said no--boy do i regret that:mad: ). I had basically not had much MEANINGFUL social interaction with girls or even guys until the summer before college, which changed literally EVERYTHING in my life, and I now have great male freinds, and a couple girls who I'm keeping my eye on, and vice versa.
Anyway, i do want to give some advice b/c i can't stand to think of you even thinking of suicide.
1. Work out at the gym. You will feel more confident, and girls with start to pay attention to you (just like you would pay more attention to them if they looked good).
2. WORK ON YOUR SOCIAL SKILLS. this is the most important thing in the world, for both girls and making friends with guys. Might i recommend the Toastmasters program, which is basically public speaking in front of groups. EVERYONE i know who has done it says it has increased their confidence tremendously, as well as their social skills. I took a public speaking class in highschool, and it increased my confidence A LOT, not to mention i can now have conversations on the whim with people (and not just fluff bullshit). Plus, you meet more people.
3. You should read this book:
http://www.amazon.com/Game-Penetrati...e=UTF8&s=books
WARNING: Don't follow virtually ANY of the advice in in regards to picking up women. it is for losers who are just interested in banging as many women as possible. HOWEVER, it DOES give you an excellent frame of reference on how many women do think about men. I will repeat: PLEASE DON'T follow the actual advice in this book. This book, will if anything, teach you that being yourself is the best remedy for your woman problems (and i know you've heard that before, but its true). Trust me, just read it. It will change the way you look at girls.
Lastly, there are PLENTY of years left in your life to get laid and find a relationship. Everything is going to be all right
SL
I was raised to be a peace-loving hippie, and that's the way I'm gonna stay. Besides, I've never been in a real fight before, so I'd just get my ass kicked if I tried. Violence is not the solution. I'm looking for love, not hate.
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Oneironaut I love you already :D My daughters single and pretty. She is divorced actually. Where do you live? :D
But seriously listen to the wise bird woman....
What do YOU like to do?
My son was having trouble meeting people that didn't drink and smoke etc...so he joined a hiking club and volunteered at an Owl hospital....that's all it took and he found girls with the same interest as he has. Maybe you could do that....
i only read about the first page, but i get the gist of your problem. most guys, when virgins, assume sex is going to be some life-changing event. after you have had it, you realize its just another activity, such as smoking weed :) . its not that it isn't great, its just another activity.
your issue here is that you need to put the focus off of getting laid and on the girl herself. become genuinely interested in her and what she's about. sex will come naturally after that. confidence is another HUGE point that cannot be stressed enough. getting a girl interested in you is somewhat like a sales pitch. you have to ACTIVELY put yourself out there as a viable option for her. a couple years back i had this problem. i was always waiting to see if the girl was first interested in me before i made a move, and that resulted in two pathetic (soley on my part) relationships that make me cringe to think about nowadays.
one thing that helped me was to tell myself (self-motivation of a sort) how sexy i was and how a girl should be glad to have me. it sounds ridiculous and arrogant, but it will change your attitude into that of confidence. BE COMFORTABLE IN YOUR OWN SKIN, and everyone will notice. if you aren't, ACT like it, as people only know as much about you as you let them.
being confident is pretty much tha biggest part (apart from looks n shit)