Girlfriend hates pot :(

I was in the exact same situation with my last ex. (fiance of 5 years)

The best thing I can tell you is if she is unwilling to come around for you, she isn't worth it. When becoming romantically involved with someone they should accept / love you for YOU. You shouldn't try to make drastic changes to yourself to please someone (sure losing a few pounds is ok, or something like that). But trying to cut out something in your life that is a major part of who you are will only make you unhappy, and relationships are supposed to make us happy, aren't they?

Personally I would say "you are a controlling bitch, I choose the weed over you".

Obviously written by someone who has never loved deeply or unselfishly.!! When we love someone we all have to compromise somewhat,,,,its called "working at it" Bud grower, I came on this forum cos I do love my husband very much, I know what it feels like to have a few drinks or heavy duty painkillers as I have a chronic illness...but find it a bit hard to understand the need to smoke hash every day...so want to learn why people do it and what effect it has on people...my hubby says it relaxes him and "turns down the volume on stress senses" Is it like that for you? Can you do your skateboarding safely because you are not feeling "unreal" like when you drink?? I appreciate your reply to me and think you are being very fair with your girl...but maybe it would help her to come on here too and learn/understand as Im trying to do??

Most people do not like pot. Get used to it. We pot smokers are a small percentage of the total population.

I hate girls that drink excessively and I will not tolerate it.

You will either have to compromise (not likely) or find yourself a hottie that smokes weed or does not care.

We all have our values. If you do not like hers you can vote by walking away. If she truly hates you smoking weed that is not going to change.

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Originally Posted by matthiasj

What should i do?

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Dump her.

Sounds to me like all you "potheads" put pot first in your life, above even relationships (real people) very much like alchaholics if you ask me!!!!!!!

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Originally Posted by shyboots

Sounds to me like all you "potheads" put pot first in your life, above even relationships (real people) very much like alchaholics if you ask me!!!!!!!

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oh really.... :wtf:


Sounds like your a door mat if you ask me....

Smoking is a small part of my life, which also includes my friends and family, espesially my girl, my social (eating out and drinking alcahol) life, I also modify my car, build computers, my current job (which takes up more time than I would like) furthering my job through self study, and despite all that, I have two or three foreign hollidays a year......


you sound like your trying to say somthing...
are you an alcaholic, shyboots? its ok, we understand.

Cannabis is something you really have to try to understand. Everyone makes it out to be a horrible, life ruining drug, when in reality it is nothing like that. If anything caffeine, alcohol, and a lot of prescriptions should be illegal and now cannabis. I started putting my girlfriend first and things are better, i still blaze but usually its just a couple times a week, and i just keep it to myself, and she's happy so i'm happy.

Tell her to get stoned at least once with you. Also, if she is a pill-popper, make her a weed pill with coconut oil, and a gelatin capsule. Some cool person took a lot of time to give us the recipe here on the forums.

When my wife worked for the government, she would get annoyed when I would get high because she couldn't.

As far as feeling ignored, that has nothing to do with marijuana. You were hanging out with your friends, doing an activity that she was not involved in.

She would've felt ignored if you guys were let's say, play Halo 3, and she was just sitting there, or watching a Patriots game, and she isn't into football. Sometimes it's just like that if one person is not involved.

To get NPS's to understand weed, I compare it to other drugs, then I compare it to other medicines, then I compare it to other activities, then I compare it to other fuels, and building materials. People begin to see that not only is it the only drug I know of that it is impossible to overdose on, but that it's great medicine, a non-threatening, non-violent hobby (such as watching football), and has many industrial uses including replacing cutting down trees.

If I am repeating others, it's because I only read the original poster's posts.

Actually I`m not addicted to anything...and the people I love come first in my life, Just saying if thats not the case with you, you have a problem, end of! Cannabis is an addictive drug. My husband smokes it but not in front of me and only a couple of times a day...because he loves me. I HAVE tried it, several times in fact but it made me feel kinda drunk in a not nice way. I appreciate it can feel different for different people but if you value your gf/wife then she should come first, not a drug.

Cannabis is something you really have to try to understand. Everyone makes it out to be a horrible, life ruining drug, when in reality it is nothing like that. If anything caffeine, alcohol, and a lot of prescriptions should be illegal and now cannabis. I started putting my girlfriend first and things are better, i still blaze but usually its just a couple times a week, and i just keep it to myself, and she's happy so i'm happy.
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Now this is a man who has his priorities right!! Good on you!!

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Originally Posted by shyboots

Sounds to me like all you "potheads" put pot first in your life, above even relationships (real people) very much like alchaholics if you ask me!!!!!!!

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Nah. It's part of my life, just like video games, comic books, and hiphop. My wife is big into chemistry, books, and punk. Yet, we play video games, share books, and listen to hiphop and punk. Sometimes I ask her questions about chemistry. She smokes with me every once in awhile, but not that much.

Marijuana is great for chronic pain. Why don't you ask your husband to get you some good 100% indica bud. You can bake it into food if you don't want to smoke it. Also, you cannot overdose from it. Try and kill yourself by overdosing on weed. It's literally impossible. Yet, people die every year from perscription and even over-the-counter painkillers.

Just give it a chance and get high together a few times. You may not become a big stoner, but you'll realize it's no big deal.