Well now... I may have just done the dirty deed on my babies...
The plants were getting to big for their box, so I had no choice but to select one and go for it, so I selected the healthier of the two for re-potting. No wonder it's had stunted growth lately, the roots were terribly bound in the pot it was in... I'm an unfit parent, wah!
The plant I selected still wasn't showing hairs, but i'm fairly certain it's female. I think it's growth has been stunted because of the root boundedness, and I think now that it's been re-potted, i hope it'll recover.
I also determined that the ph of the soil I was using was a little low - but when I repotted, I ran out of the soil, so i had to use Miracle Grow potting soil (I KNOW, A BIG NO NO)...
I added some ph-up to the first watering, so hopefully it'll all balance up...
or the plant will die and I'll start over, which is fine too (but kind of a bummer).
please find it in your heart to pray to the gods of cannabis for me...