i hate kids

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Originally Posted by Ibu Jari

I hope all of you who don't like children don't ever have unprotected sex and end up getting pregnant or getting someone pregnant.

I have two beautiful children, my 5 yr old son, who love him very much. But my GOD, whoever mentioned adopting at 5 or 6 yr old, you might want to read up on your Gentle Discipline starting now. He's a very bright child, but has like NO short term memory
"Please don't touch the nintendo unless mommy says you can"

and I turn around he's trying to shove the cartridge even deeper into the machine. *rollseyes*

I also have a 15 (almost 16) month old daughter, who still doesn't sleep through the night. Yes, it's difficult, and I would really love to get a full nights sleep every night. But when she looks at me with thoes deep baby brown eyes, I melt. And her wet little kisses are just heavenly.

I have given birth twice, the first one was not easy, but mercifully only 9 hours. My second birth was all of 28 minutes from the first contraction to her actual birth. My husband caught her. Yes, she was born at home (planned). I did not ask to be medicated for either birth.

I love my children dearly, and I adore newborns. Being a mother of a newborn you don't really realize how little sleep you've gotten. Especially if your breastfeeding and cosleeping with your warm little bundle. My daughter nursed every 1.5 - 2 hours around the clock for the first 8 months of her life, and I never felt sleep deprived unless we had another night time issue, like teething, or illness. And of course, they're just so darn cute!

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Hi Ibu Jari- Wow, you've got a lot to handle, but it also sounds wonderful! I am sure I am going to have to learn a new level of patience. I have to use "Gentle Discipline" (is there a book on that I could read???) a bit when I teach knuckleheaded college kids, but I guess at 5 or 6 it can be a real challenge! I have already learned about this thing called the "Liberian Pout" which is something many of the kids adopted from there use when they are disciplined- and I have been told that the best way with kids from that culture is not time-outs but rather to take away a toy for misbehavior. Another interesting cultural thing is that many of the children there are prone to lying, and it isn't as frowned upon there as it is here, so that will be a new thing for them to learn.
I'm so glad to hear from others with kiddies, I will be checking in with you!

Oh there are hundereds of books you can read on Gentle Discipline, I will get a list together and PM you ;)

i dislike children also, i have 15 or 16 nieces and nephews and really, I'm over it. I use birth control and condoms so that I don't become pregnant, and if I did I would terminate the pregnancy. I do not think I will ever have children. If I do, I'd have to get everything I want done first. I would need to be in a marriage for quite awhile, have my career in line (an economist probably) and have already traveled and partied and had my fun. Even as a little girl I didn't want children. I just don't think I would be a good parent because I have a hard time with giving love. Which also leads to me not getting married because I have a hard time giving/recieving love and affection. Its not that I dont think I deserve it, I am happy but Its just tough for me. I'm still young though, im only 20 so I have many child-bearing years left. I dunno, i just see a lot of children being raised the wrong way and Im not patient n dont wanna screw up a life of a child. I also have seen both my sisters and my mom go through divorces and I have not been in a serious relationship ever even though I am almost out of college. I think there is something wrong with me. I have been mistreated by many men but I am not solely blaming them in most cases, so I dont think I could have what I need to bring a child into the world, although I worked in the KIDS section of a store and baby clothes are DAMN cute :D

Now that I have kids my life has a higher purpose. I think it's a natural evolutionary thing. I will be gone, sometime soon, tomorrow or in 80 years but they will be my legacy. all the love that i can give them, they can carry on spreading love when i'm gone.
I never felt this sense of purpose before I had them.

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Originally Posted by VaporDaddy

Now that I have kids my life has a higher purpose. I think it's a natural evolutionary thing. I will be gone, sometime soon, tomorrow or in 80 years but they will be my legacy. all the love that i can give them, they can carry on spreading love when i'm gone.
I never felt this sense of purpose before I had them.

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Yes, that is part of the reason I want children, because I do not feel as if I will have learned and evolved enough if I do not have that experience! I feel unfinished-

But to answer Bgirl- if you said you were 20 and wanted kids- I'd say NO, WAIT!
The thing is, I had a wild and crazy life for more years than I can count. I was married twice, travelled all over, had glam career experiences, etc..and didn't meet a guy I wanted to have a family with until I was 39!
I think having kids at an early age might physically be easier, but damn- you have to be awfully mature to do it well, and not feel resentful that the kids are "stealing your youth"- I say sow all those wild oats, but don't be surprized if in 10 or 15 years you do complete reversal :)

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Originally Posted by VaporDaddy

Now that I have kids my life has a higher purpose. I think it's a natural evolutionary thing. I will be gone, sometime soon, tomorrow or in 80 years but they will be my legacy. all the love that i can give them, they can carry on spreading love when i'm gone.
I never felt this sense of purpose before I had them.

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When I can have a sig, that's so going there!

Bentleygirl- While I did want to have children when I was younger (and I had my first at 18), I never thought about the love I'd feel for them. I knew I'd love them, but I never understood how much.

I love them so much it hurt. But it's a good pain. My heart aches with joy to see them learn and grow.

My son was born at 9:53 PM, on 9-24-2001, and ever since that moment, my heart has lived outside of my body. I wouldn't trade my children for the world. Not for the best parties, more money, a better house, better car, more "fun party life' no way. No how. They are my pride, they are my joy.

Basically I guess what I'm saying is never say never, and keep your mind open.

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Originally Posted by Fengzi

The world applauds you MastaChronic, for your thoughtful decision not to contribute to the gene pool.

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The ironic thing is that many intelligent people do not have kids. The societies that have the least children have the highest standard of living and are usually very charitable to other countries that need help - due to poverty.

The world of today may not applaud those who are childree, but future generations will be grateful to those who helped alleviate the population explosion. It's a losing battle, though, since most people have an insatiable need to cave-in to their procreational instinct.

lol i love kids all of them they cant help how they act there suppose to be immature its just growing up

i fucking hate kids...so much

I got kids and one thing is for sure,....they will change your life.
I wouldnt trade them for anytihng......
But I do know of people who cant stand kids,and I think its just that cirlce of life,people was hating us when we was kids.