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I hope that whatever you 2 decide,,,you two will live happily with the decision... I did not comb this thread too hard but,,, what I want to know is,,, how is the Family life in your own Families??? Are they Aware,,,if so what is their response,,,reaction???
how do you know she is Pregnant ???
ok this is how it happend. we was having sex both slightly drunk i took the condom of so she could give me head then she climbed on top of me and started riding me both of us 4getting about the condom, anyways i bust a nut in her as i went to take the condom of i realised it was not there.
hope this answers your questions and im sorry if it was a bit graphic.
birdgirl i know you quoted me on 'i-could-not-bear...' but you didnt include the rest of that sentance 'the-baby-thinking-its-parents-didnt-love-it'.
honestly i think we only have 2 options and thats 1.abortion 2.keeping it
adoption would be best in my opinion
i had an abortion when i was 16 and for me it was really hard but now that i think about it it was the best choice i ever made ... i can't imagine having a child and giving it up for adoption but thats just me ... i personaly think an abortion is the best way to go ... esp. if shes 14 .... being pregant culd ruin her rep. at school ... and even though it doesnt matter wut people think it wuld still be hard being known as the 14 yr old whos pregant
good luck i know its not easy
the main thing is we dont want the baby to think its parents didnt love it, and children can be so crule comments such as your parents didnt love you ect...i wouldnt want to put a human being through this
At 14 it is too hard on a girl's -and yes I mean GIRL not WOMAN-body to carry and deliver a baby. Her bones are not even fully developed yet and the stress of a developing fetus could really harm her... carrying a baby whose own skeleton is developing leaches precious calcium from the mother's body, not to mention delivery will be very dangerous.
In my opinion for what it's worth, she should go see a doctor like YESTERDAY about having the pregnancy terminated immediately.
my aunt and uncle have adopted two kids...and my grandparents have been foster parents and have adopted kids all their lives and i would strongly recomend adoption....give your kid a chance to experience life and give a good couple the chance to have a kid of their own and love it. If you go with abortion ur not only killing an unborn baby....ur effecting MANY people...watch the movie its a wonderful life....after watching that u can see how just one life can affect so many people and things...pleeease put it up for adoption
I would rather see an unborn fetus terminated than see your girlfriend suffer the health problems and yes, the unfortunate but true social stigma that she will carry, from bearing a child at such a young age. Her life is worth the most. You should do everything to protect her... THAT is true honor and responsibility.
nice job ruining her life, my mom had me when she was 16, i think about it now, and at this very moment she was pregnant with me, i ruined my moms life, she kept me but people still gave her bullshit and said that i would never amount to anything because i would be raised on the streets and shit like that, people were complete dicks to my mom, if i was your girlfriend id have an abortion, my mom already had enough torture and thats enough for one teenage mom
Whoa nellie... you make some other good points but that's harsh... I'm not lil josh's biggest fan for other posts, but I understand the terror that he must be going through right now... not really the time to give a lecture on condoms or why exactly a 14 year old girl was drunk... lil josh, my heart goes out to you and your girlfriend, really, I know how frightening it is and I'm sure you've already learned a lesson... any choice you make is going to be painful to follow through with for one reason or another... you are both going to want to talk to a therapist after this whole thing is over. Decide fast because chemical abortion is going to be a lot less emotionally scarring than the traditional sort... I've had 2 close girlfriends who waited too long for it to be an option and they were both pretty traumatized by the experience.Quote:
Originally Posted by Samwhore
I guess the last thing I want to say is that I hope you are both close enough with your families to talk to them about it... as much as the canncom crowd is here 24 hours a day, so are your parents, and I'll bet they love you more than we do.