HEAVEN AN EARTH SHALL PASS AWAY BUT MY WORD SHALL STAND FOREVER
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Originally Posted by braddog10
I wonder, beach if you might concider if more of a geographic separation would also be better. If your life is stagnant there, It would be my opinion that the separation would help you move on with your life,.....instead of losing more years, if thats the case.
She'll move. It's too hard for her to leave Virginia Beach, plus, she's an Angel and won't leave until I meet someone to help me with the bills.
HEAVEN AN EARTH SHALL PASS AWAY BUT MY WORD SHALL STAND FOREVER
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Originally Posted by beachguy in thongs
She'll move. It's too hard for her to leave Virginia Beach, plus, she's an Angel and won't leave until I meet someone to help me with the bills.
It's hard, though. I've fallen in Love with having nothing in common with her. Instead of having everything go my way, I can concentrate on one thing.
HEAVEN AN EARTH SHALL PASS AWAY BUT MY WORD SHALL STAND FOREVER
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Originally Posted by beachguy in thongs
It's hard, though. I've fallen in Love with having nothing in common with her. Instead of having everything go my way, I can concentrate on one thing.
Sounds like a foundation for a solid relationship. If there's chemistry, then you'll know it, the opposite will be equally obvious. A wise man said, "If our choices in life don't require growth from us. Then God isn't in it". Love is a different animal. Of coarse the desire for things to work is required.
Love is a decision, it's a choice. The only time for real love to occur, is when the feelings aren't quite the same. If you want this relationship to work,.......... start on the road of commitment with this girl.
My own heart was smitten, when I observed this in my wife. Her obvious desire for things to work. It put something in me that was large. Everything radically changed. Everything. My affections, our relationship, on and on etc etc....
I was reflecting on this a little bit, and I remembered, that things got started when we started praying together. Just a minute or two every day. We thank him for the gift of life, for His presence, we express our gratitude, ask for His leading. He lets things play out sometimes. The pain gets to be abit much,............Reality gets abit more clear.
How did I get off on this. well, we were also broke until that time. He rebukes the devourer by our gifts to others. Requires a little humility.
The cost otherwise, ............I can not afford!
James 4:10 Humble yourselves in the presence of the Lord, and He will exalt you.
HEAVEN AN EARTH SHALL PASS AWAY BUT MY WORD SHALL STAND FOREVER
I'm not sure if I want this relationship to work. She's not what I always wanted. She doesn't open me up. It's exactly like when you feel funnier when you're around one person than another.
She was born the oldest in her extended family, and I was born the youngest, in a small family. My elders were my Brother and Sister, and, some of the time, when I opened my mouth, I'd get my way. She, on the other hand, opened her mouth to her parents and would get punished for it.
HEAVEN AN EARTH SHALL PASS AWAY BUT MY WORD SHALL STAND FOREVER
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Originally Posted by Garden Knowm
there is only NOW
LOVE is NOW
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Agreed.
NOW....NOW....NOW.
:smokin:
HEAVEN AN EARTH SHALL PASS AWAY BUT MY WORD SHALL STAND FOREVER
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Originally Posted by beachguy in thongs
I'm not sure if I want this relationship to work. She's not what I always wanted. She doesn't open me up. It's exactly like when you feel funnier when you're around one person than another.
She was born the oldest in her extended family, and I was born the youngest, in a small family. My elders were my Brother and Sister, and, some of the time, when I opened my mouth, I'd get my way. She, on the other hand, opened her mouth to her parents and would get punished for it.
You frame things well. Beach. It seems that she is either going thru an introspective time, or needs some major inner healing, becomes much like a program that's constantly running in the background. It boots up on start up. How long has she been like this? She could be evaluating life, which should not go on for an extended time.
She is most likely depressed. An individual can't laugh, and others can't laugh with you. This is fairly easily remedied. Take her to Dr. help her walk out of it. You could be very surprised. It would be a good investment anyway. She would love you for It and would never forget it. It would be a very loving act.
HEAVEN AN EARTH SHALL PASS AWAY BUT MY WORD SHALL STAND FOREVER
Holy Cow! I must've clicked some button, because I had replied to this.
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She's on "vacation" in her hometown, for a week in a half, just south of Lynchburg, VA. Being around people that are close, to her, opens her up.
HEAVEN AN EARTH SHALL PASS AWAY BUT MY WORD SHALL STAND FOREVER
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Originally Posted by beachguy in thongs
Holy Cow! I must've clicked some button, because I had replied to this. ~She's on "vacation" in her hometown, for a week in a half, just south of Lynchburg, VA. Being around people that are close, to her, opens her up.
She's running on empty............I'm noticing that these boards are like a drug. One can be just sucked in. It doesn't mater what. A car hobby was my main drug, actually my mistress. If our mates don't have our affections? .......It just wears them out.
In my life it seems that balance has been rare. Balance to me has been much like a pendulum swing.There's a moment when the pendulum is centered at the bottom. unfortunately ~ it is rapidly on it's way to the other side.
Beach, it is very important that you and I both define the important things in our lives. I need to exorcise and spend time with my "baby girl", For one. I can't let anything stop that routine,......If a habit, compulsion, or a web forum, starts to eclipse anything important......your economics, .........your investment in this girl. If we could figuratively ~ see the cost, of our misdirected time. It would be staggering. I know for me It would encompass well into six figures in just economics alone.
It is staggering, In other areas?.........we can not afford it. Things we would never consider "for sale".
Beach, your writing gift, an absolute gift from god. It is a huge thing in you. You continue to invest there. It Is sure to become a tremendous treasure. Have you considered this? Start making investments here at a professional level. Don't know what your going to do with it? That's not your problem ~ it's "The Old Man's".
If the two of you had a spark ~ Find It ~ .
Invest in your girl. It is common to lose sight of the spark you had - research is rarely done, by our selves, to see why. I don't know your situation, but some People split and say "she's a bitch". and they don't know........ that she is ......of their design..any excuse will do, and a huge opportunity is lost..... Both lose.
The difference here, real quick. When a relationship is easy, that's great and that's cool.....alright? But, when the spark is very low. Liston to this When it's easy the return could be 10-12%, but when things look shot...... to turn and make investments there would yield - 30, 40%? Loose the bong awhile, get you ass a way from this screen, take a look at this chick that you said you loved, spend time, make investments encourage, love. ....man, You would have something you could not have with anyone else. The yield is totally different. It would be hard to have what the two of you could enjoy together,with another. It would require going thru another hard season with this other person. A crazy cycle, many are in.
Put down the Bong, Get your ass out from behind this screen. Just see what short term investment will yield. Talk to her about future stuff, plans,
HEAVEN AN EARTH SHALL PASS AWAY BUT MY WORD SHALL STAND FOREVER
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Originally Posted by braddog10
She's running on empty............I'm noticing that these boards are like a drug. One can be just sucked in. It doesn't mater what. A car hobby was my main drug, actually my mistress. If our mates don't have our affections? .......It just wears them out.
In my life it seems that balance has been rare. Balance to me has been much like a pendulum swing.There's a moment when the pendulum is centered at the bottom. unfortunately ~ it is rapidly on it's way to the other side.
Beach, it is very important that you and I both define the important things in our lives. I need to exorcise and spend time with my "baby girl", For one. I can't let anything stop that routine,......If a habit, compulsion, or a web forum, starts to eclipse anything important......your economics, .........your investment in this girl. If we could figuratively ~ see the cost, of our misdirected time. It would be staggering. I know for me It would encompass well into six figures in just economics alone.
It is staggering, In other areas?.........we can not afford it. Things we would never consider "for sale".
Beach, your writing gift, an absolute gift from god. It is a huge thing in you. You continue to invest there. It Is sure to become a tremendous treasure. Have you considered this? Start making investments here at a professional level. Don't know what your going to do with it? That's not your problem ~ it's "The Old Man's".
If the two of you had a spark ~ Find It ~ .
Invest in your girl. It is common to lose sight of the spark you had - research is rarely done, by our selves, to see why. I don't know your situation, but some People split and say "she's a bitch". and they don't know........ that she is ......of their design..any excuse will do, and a huge opportunity is lost..... Both lose.
The difference here, real quick. When a relationship is easy, that's great and that's cool.....alright? But, when the spark is very low. Liston to this When it's easy the return could be 10-12%, but when things look shot...... to turn and make investments there would yield - 30, 40%? Loose the bong awhile, get you ass a way from this screen, take a look at this chick that you said you loved, spend time, make investments encourage, love. ....man, You would have something you could not have with anyone else. The yield is totally different. It would be hard to have what the two of you could enjoy together,with another. It would require going thru another hard season with this other person. A crazy cycle, many are in.
Put down the Bong, Get your ass out from behind this screen. Just see what short term investment will yield. Talk to her about future stuff, plans,
Ok, that kind of offends me.
First of all, bongs deplete the active cannabinoids. Secondly, I smoke one hit at a time and it doesn't interfere, time-wise, with anything.
Third of all, (well, I'm not sure what to put next, but, here it goes) she's only someone who'll protect me from harm, not, someone who'll provoke me to do better.
Fourth of all, do you get what I mean?
Fifth of all, is your left East and your right West while you sit at the computer? (It's been bothering me for a while... :stoned: )
Sixth of all, do you like an apple better than a pear?
HEAVEN AN EARTH SHALL PASS AWAY BUT MY WORD SHALL STAND FOREVER
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Originally Posted by beachguy in thongs
Ok, that kind of offends me.
First of all, bongs deplete the active cannabinoids. Secondly, I smoke one hit at a time and it doesn't interfere, time-wise, with anything.
Third of all, (well, I'm not sure what to put next, but, here it goes) she's only someone who'll protect me from harm, not, someone who'll provoke me to do better.
Fourth of all, do you get what I mean?
Fifth of all, is your left East and your right West while you sit at the computer? (It's been bothering me for a while... :stoned: )
Sixth of all, do you like an apple better than a pear?
Youuuu Nut,......... Of coarse I forgot about your sig. WoW.......2) sure, been there done that......3)...Boy, I guess, I wasn't clear that the potential relationship, hinged on a contingency of chemistry. Dang..........Ok Ok lets see where are we...Oh 4)....Certainly to avoid any risk of paranoia ~ Right is dead nuts west
OOOOooh Wow, that was 5)... ..4?...yeah........yeah... I'm cool. 6?...ummmm........thats a toughy.
Don't sweat it beach,.........lets see what comes to mind here, ....yes....yes, This ones good....
Proverbs 27: 6 ~ Wounds from a friend can be trusted.
