i did it at 16
i was horny
nuff said
later
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i did it at 16
i was horny
nuff said
later
ok i didnt really read the post before but now i have and i have a few things to say:
gothicblood- ok i have no clue what ur on but i suggest ur go cold turkey for a bit...ur body isnt developed at 16...kids have sex at 12....stop smoking insence!
about mini marriages...ive been with my gf for about 6 months....i love her dearly and hopefully its mutual but just because were in love doesnt mean were gonna settle down and get married...were two kids having fun..
also, safe sex and what not...im not really sure i think it depends on the couple...me and my gf have been having unprotected sex for 3 months now and no pregnancies...so i think it depends on the ppl really..yes i no this is stupid but i dont really care because if sumthing happens i will be man enough to own up to my mistakes.
so, in closing...fuck like rabbits and dont look back
later
Your definitely right on the abstinence message being unrealistic. No matter what you try teens are going to have sex. It's part of nature and our cylces, it's an age old instinct to say the least.
So you can tell them till your blue in the face not to have sex, but they will.
However, there is that huge problem of teen pregnancy then that comes along with this.
It seems to me the best thing we could do is for parents to open the lines of communication. Ensure that your child is not going to be to embaressed or afraid of getting into trouble to talk to you. Because then if they think they can't go to you for all those intimate details and questions(no matter how horrowing an experience it may be for the parent) they then go to peers and get all the facts jumbled up.
Well I feel like i've just repeated what everyone else has been saying :o
Oh well , not deleting all this :)
Not only is the abstinence mesage unrealistic, in my experience it seems to have the opposite effect. I went to a private Catholic school in Florida for my freshman and sophmore years of highschool. Obviously they preached abstinence, pre-marital sex is a sin, blah blah blah. Well, all I can say is Catholic girls were easy. Within the first two months of my freshman year I had lost my virginity. I was 13yo then and by the time I was 15 I had had sex with 3 different girls plus had gotten bjs from 2 more.
Just before the start of my Junior year my family moved to the San Francisco Bay area where I went to a public school. Talk about a contrast, going from the conservative South to probably the most liberal area in the U.S.. Funny thing was, I didn't get laid for my entire junior year. Not that I didn't try. I was reasonably popular and went out with a few different girls but for some reason they just didn't want to have sex :confused:
I thought it must just be some weird California thing. Then just after the start of my senior year my family moved again, this time to Chicago. Once again I went to a public school, and like in California, the girls just weren't all that easy. Out of the 4 or so girls I dated I was only able to get one into bed and that was only after a few dates and a few drinks.
Maybe there were other factors involved but I can't help beleive that the hard core anti-sex message of the Catholic system is what led to my good luck those forst two years of high school. Nothing was taught about sex other than it was forbidden and what's more tempting that forbidden fruit?
I think education is the best way to prevent teen-age pregnancies. Don't tell them it's wrong but make sure they completely understand the consequences
I don't know what they're teaching in the schools these days but my suggestion is to have them all watch a movie showing a woman giving birth, complete with screams and all the assorted bodily fluids that are involved. Then have the movie continue with graphic depictions of STD's- herpes sores, leaking pus etc. At the very end have a statement "It can all be prevented with" and show a condom. If it doesn't stop them from having sex maybe at least it'll scare them into safe sex.
Wow, Fengzi, after seeing a movie like the one you described, I think every girl would be afraid to have sex :p . You make an interesting observation. I also believe that too much preaching about abstinence would make teens have sex more but what do I know...I have a doctor (an expert in this subject) as my boss telling me what I should say. Education IS the key!Quote:
Originally Posted by Fengzi
I'm really interested in hearing about you moving so much during your teen years as I moved around a lot too but that's off topic so I'll have to catch ya some other time ;) .
I was 16. The day before "it" happend, I so freaked my mom out by asking "what's sex like?". All I got was a "don't do it!" I think if her answer would have been somewhat more (ok how would you answer a 16 yr old who asked you that?) I wouldn't have, at least not then. After my bf and I did, I was very unimpressed, won't go into details, but now that I am older I know why. I think talking to kids is the best thing you got, All of us were young and dumb once and that is when this happens. So information is the key feed it to them over and over the nagging does sink in. I had all the information the school was giving including the birthing video, it had no influence on me, I needed to hear it on a more personal level (from my mom).
im 16, and i still haven't plunged the hole yet :(
yea maybe parents dont talk enough bout that stuff. i personnally think theres no problem about having sex before 18. actually i think 15 is maybe the age to start (if you are already mature a bit).
i think the key is just to inform the kids about how to avoid pregancy, not to fuckin encourage abstinence just like this stupid Mr. Bush is doin.
I lost it when I was 15, had 8 partners or so since. about 4 were one-time things, and 4 were mini relationships lol
it was when i was 15... and im 15.5 now... but anyways.. no it had nothin to do with the media... and no... my mom atualy told me when i was in the 6th grade, that she didnt want me having sex. but if i was going to to that i should starp up, and she told me that if the ppls at the store didnt sell me rubbers that she would go and get them for me