ok fair enoutgh for me,
but seriously sum kids are fucking imagine trying to force your kid to put his shoes and while you do that he/she is trying to smack you in the face shoutng abuse.......surely then u agree a smacking is in order.
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ok fair enoutgh for me,
but seriously sum kids are fucking imagine trying to force your kid to put his shoes and while you do that he/she is trying to smack you in the face shoutng abuse.......surely then u agree a smacking is in order.
Maybe, but the whole point is laying down the foundation so children don't act like that. Of course kids will be kids and go absolutely mental and rage at you at times, but you don't have to deal with it by hitting them and surely less if they have been brought up not to behave irrationally to get their own way.Quote:
Originally Posted by chisme
I would push to say I would agree that a "smack" not "smacking" is potentially in order, depending on the situation. I think you could portray your anger and show them your very :mad:, rather than releasing it upon them.
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Originally Posted by WeedyBoyWonder
true very true, but i am refering to after all this....explaining to the child ...reaosning with the child.........after all that might work might not work phycology(sp?) at the end of the day the kid does something bad he/she gets a smack....he/she wouldnt do it again would they?:D
SO, at the end of ALL of this, we've come to the conclusion that SOMETIMES, a little smack is the RIGHT thing to do, yes?
Good.
Most of my friends now have children, and my brother has three and another on the way. I've watched how different people handle disciplining their children and have to say the majority who try the "time out/ talking" method have children who are out of control. I think the whole "time out" thing has the potential to work, but isn't properly understood or implemented by many parents. I think the main element they are lacking is actually consistency and the will to follow their words with the appropriate action. The few parents I know, who will spank a child that is out of line, have well behaved children that don't act out very often. My parents believed in and used corporeal punishment to discipline my brother and I. I don't think it did me any harm, and I learned quickly with this method. Neither of my parents had to lay a hand on me by the time I was ten. They would just tell me I was out of line and I'd stop whatever I was doing.
When I was a kid I would WAY rather get hit a few times when I did something wrong. It usually come from doing something equally bad, like hitting my little brother in the face with a 2x4. If my parents didn't hit me for that, it was being grounded, which meant being locked in a room all day by myself. If I broke things from being mad, I stayed in longer. When I was REALLLLLLY bad, they locked me in the little toilet cubby room. Oh man did I deserve it though, I was such a bastard when I was little.
Weedyboy...i think all that Lip and Chisme are trying to say is that there is a BIG difference between discipline when your kid is being out of line, and physical abuse.