Happy late anniversary! That's so inspiring. We got married Sept 8. When I finish resizing the pics I'll post them on my blog and post a link to it.
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Happy late anniversary! That's so inspiring. We got married Sept 8. When I finish resizing the pics I'll post them on my blog and post a link to it.
I agreeQuote:
Originally Posted by Innominate
Marriage is a piece of paper, that people think that they need to exspress there undying love for each other! Please everyone before thinking of getting this exspensive piece of paprer that binds you finacially to another person, please people make sure you know this person as well as you think you do! don't be blind to your so called undying Love! Listen to your family and friends, see it from the outside. Then maybe purchase that exspensive peiece of paper that comes along with an exspensive wedding Bill! (unless you choose not to have the exspensive wedding, good for you, cause love is not based on money) Years later I hope youyr Love truly lasts, cause if it doesn't, here comes the most exspensive and painfull part: The divorce!...Got kids? Hope not cause if ya think its hard on you, its even harder on the Kids..The fighting is no good either if your unhappy and ya stay together for the kids..
So my Advice, ya can take it or leave it: If Ya wanna get married make sure she/he she is absoulotely the right one!
no i disagree. marriage does work if its the right two people. im only young (19), but i hope someday (not anytime soon tho haha) to be married to a woman who im truly in love with and could never amagine not being with. you just gotta find the right person that's all, which is easier said than done but i belive it would be worth it.
love is a wierd thing, no1 can describe it, its one of those things where you just know.
Marriage is a piece of paper, true. Symbolism is a pretty ingrained nature of the human being, and marriage, along with that certificate, the wedding, and any significant things that might occur in between, symbolize both peoples desire to be devoted to each other for as long as they both live. Seems pretty cut and dry to me. If you dont want to do it, then dont. If the person you are with does and you dont, then find somebody else or change your mind. If you find somebody that you can live with for the rest of your life without being married and you both happily pull it off then Im happy for you, thats beautiful. Ive seen lots of successful examples.
But when your opinion for one thing clouds your mind with disgust for other equally legitimate points of view, you begin to close your mind. Thats not very productive, if you ask me. Stating your opinion for why you dont like marriage, and why it is a waste of time for you, and why you will never do it is cool. Lots of people feel the same way and agree. But theres no sense in allowing one persons bitterness to ruin anothers taste.
Me personally, I agree that marriage is definitely not for everybody, including those with committment issues, and those with bitter experiences towards it. Also mean people and closed-minded people should avoid marriage for a while. Maybe one day if I meet the right person at the right time in my life Ill get married, maybe I wont, Im not sure, and it doesnt really matter to me right now because that decision is a long time away.
Read furthermore in the thread and you'll notice I apologized and agreed that I started this thread sending a different impression than I see. Marriage is an excellent method of support and appreciation for the husband and wife and most importantly the daughter and son. Unfortunately these fantasies a couple pursue have various serious effects that don't always end the way of death doing them part. There is a failure to recognize and react to the possibility of different outcomes of marriage. That's the point I'm trying to get across. If people don't have the fundamental elements to support a family then perhaps the common thing to do is to reassess their selves.Quote:
Originally Posted by GraziLovesMary
You misunderstand me, but that is my fault, I kind of had a feeling you would. I wasnt necissarily speaking to you, as I dont remember who had what opinion exactly. I am not trying to accuse anybody specifically of being bitter, or being negative towards the idea of marriage.Quote:
Originally Posted by Innominate
I agree with most of your sentiments, so Im pretty sure we see eye-to-eye on at least the majority of this topic if not others. I guess I was just throwing a couple pennies out there, and if it applied to somebody that read it, they could either take it for what its worth, or ignore it. The choice is in the air.
Wonderful eloquence, by the way. I always appreciate a well thought out and aptly worded argument.
Best advice ever.Quote:
Originally Posted by potsmokingnome
If you don't his advice, you could end up like the dumbfuck like me after tripping on a night of 2c-i with my gf, who was pressuring me into marriage before that, and just convinced myself because I thought I loved her, why not?
hahaha. I don't have to tell you how the story ended up.
Wait, and see how long you can go without marriage. After all, it doesn't matter how long you are married, but the quality of your marriage. I think sometimes in this society, people forget, and rush in like fools.
Don't be a fool.
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Originally Posted by Innominate
I dont think marriage is for everyone and I dont think people should feel pressured to get married but I dont agree it is hopeless.
I think the main problem is people get married way too young. I think there should be a minimum age for being married... Like 26 or something... When you're in your teens and even early 20s you THINK you know who you are you THINK you know what you want but you CHANGE.
God knows I'm not the same guy I am now at 29 as when I was the age of most of yall. Had I gotten married to some of what I know now was flings (varying degrees of feelings) I no doubt would have been divorced.
My two cents.
What's marriage? Is that legally binding?
I don't know any girl enough to marry. I knew one, inside and out, and, lived with her for six years. I had no reason to marry her. I would've, but, then I'd still be with her.
I'm 23 and been married for 3 years together for 8 and everyday I wake up my life feels fuller and more complete just waking up seeing my wifes face and then getting up and seeing our beautiful son I know it can be tough and we have been through a lot already having my at 17 and there are many more tough times ahead but it comes down to the people and a relationship just like a person doesn't stay the same they are and have to constantly evolve and adapt and if you don't then things start to not work. But marriage isn't for everyone and definately not for the stubborn who are stuck in there ways and see change for love as being miserable or her changing me. My wife hasn't changed me but she has inspired many changes in me. But there are many things I have kept and she has changed and that adaptability is whats makes our relationship so strong, as it is always evolving, growing, and getting stronger as it is tested by all of life's hardships and built up by all of our triumphs together.