you had a crush on her since the summer?? You shoulda made a move quicker, who cares now anyways?, you got some action, thats great lol
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you had a crush on her since the summer?? You shoulda made a move quicker, who cares now anyways?, you got some action, thats great lol
Alright, it's simple.
Either you do something, opening up the chance for you to win, or you never do anything and sit on the internet worrying about it.
Either you have a chance, or you never will. The choice is simple. Now go.
Good luck for tomorrow! And have an awesome New Years Eve!
See what your astrological signs are first and see if they are compatible. Then try Chinese astrology.
^Don't believe that crap. (no offense). If I compared my sign and my BFs sign, and found out they weren't compatible- would I break up with him? Hell no! Psychics are just bullshitters too, for the record.
hey guys, i just got back from florida, so i didnt have a computer...but i have some bad news... basically she hooked up with her ex-boyfriend, and the day after her friend goes 2 me have u talked 2 her 2day? n i was like yea why? and then she told me that the girl i like hooked up with her ex...so i texted her saying im mad and i didnt talk 2 her until today...then today she texted me asking if i was going 2 this new years party, i said no, but i plan on suprising her there...neways if i feel like shes not into me 2nite, i will prob just find another girl...not seeing her 4 a week made it easy 2 4get about her, i already met 1 other potential girl, but idk how ill feel once i actually see her
if not seeing her for a week made u forget about her, she is probably just that- forgettable. absence usually makes the heart fonder, not colder. lol. although you may just be saying "easy 2 4get about her" because you are upset about her hooking up with someone else....
you could always try talking to her. maybe she made a mistake hooking up with her ex. maybe she regrets it. maybe she was too drunk to know what was happening...etc. And if not- she is not worth pursuing.
yea it would be so much easier for me if i had another girl to like...thats why i keep liking this girl its bc i have no1 else to like
ok, so basically i still like the girl...its really hard wen i see her every day...she went on a date with this guy this weekend but she said she didnt really like him, she just wants a bf...i dont mean 2 be conceted or nething but im prob 1 of the best looking kids in the school and 1 of the most popular, i dont see y she would never think about being more then friends...i think that she mite want to but thinks that i dont like her back, is there nething i can do to hint to her that i do like her besides asking her out?
i have been with you this far 420, but i think it's time to get over her. "she just wants a bf..." those chicks are the ones to stay FAR away from. #1 they are desperate for male attention (this seems to fit especially cause u mentioned much earlier how she flirts with lots of guys) and #2 they are the WORST girls to break up with. almost impossible. they're clingy, jealous, and generally insane once they get a bf.
does anyone else know what im talking about?
i hear u dutch!
Hi , 420purpHAZE420.
I read this first page of this thread and the last. So
I am correct in that you haven't asked her out? Man I feel were you are at.
Basically you are not in a great position. The "friend" thing going on with a girl you are attracted to is a quick prescription for frustration. Buddy ya gots
to be firm. Forget about asking her for a date. It's not a magic solution.
Just tell her. "(insert name) I have got to be completely honest. I DO NOT
want to be "friends" w/you. I'm crazy about you ( or whatever you think is appropriate). This , of course forces the issue. You do need a Yes or No
answer. If she's not warm for your form, It would probably be best to cut and run. You don't need to hear abour her dates or whatever she wants to tell about whoever she's messing with. You will only be depressed.
Be cordial, but it will be tough to remain friends, feeling the way you do.
Also there is lot to be said for not being so attainable. Chicks like aloof.
sincerely,
Bindar Dundat.
I'm going to be the oddball in this thread. I married my best friend, and I wouldn't have it ANY other way on the planet.
He had an extra ticket to a concert here in town, and invited me to go with. We had been best friends at this point for quite a while. At the bar afterwords, he says to me, "I have something to tell you. I am deeply, madly, and hopelessly in love with you." I then immediately responded that I respected him too much to give him the "you're such a great guy" speech. I was with another guy at the time. I didn't talk to my husband for about a month afterwords, because it was so weird. Then, we ran into one another at a party, and started talking again. My relationship at the time was falling apart, and that helped. We got back to "best friend" status, and about four months later, we were dating. (Actually, we skipped the dating process, and went straight to a serious relationship.)
The biggest thing to worry about here is that she's a high school girl. Teenage girls are especially crazy and insecure, with few exceptions. She may be hanging all over you because she likes the attention. Maybe she needs the reaffirmation that she's a pretty girl, and all that sort of high school insecurity. Chances are, if she does like you, she's probably terrified of making the first move.
The reason I avoided my husband for a month after he told me was because of the manner in which he told me. It was a bit too much and too intimidating, scared the crap out of me. So, don't do what he did. He's lucky it worked out alright. lol (actually, I'm pretty damn lucky, too.)
Instead, go with a more subtle approach to feel out the situation. Take her out to dinner, and pay for everything. Sit down with her and talk with her about what she's looking for in a guy. See if you fit the bill. Gaze into her eyes, and see if she gazes back, immediately looks away, or doesn't notice. If she doesn't notice, then that's bad news. There are ways to lead up to that first kiss which leaves plenty of bail time. Do it slowly, and see how she reacts. For GOD's sake, NEVER ask a woman, "Can I kiss you?". They will almost always freak out and say no. Going in for the slow kiss is often times the best and most honest indicator as to whether or not someone likes you back. She may be nuts about you, and not even know it herself until you've kissed. In matters of love, I've found that it's always better to act first, and talk about it later.
kinda makes me wish i had female friends that werent so interested in having sex with me... sounds awkward but sometimes i jus like havin females that will jus hang out wit u n not b tryna do suttin wit u all tha time
like today i was hangin out wit sum friends that hang out wit my ex, n jus bein aroun her was kinda awkward, we both got a b/f an g/f but shes still always flirtin wit me n tellin me she loves me n shit we used ta have feelins for each other but now i dont n she still does idk i should start a new thread n c if ppl had this kinda shit happen
ok, so i either just took a huge step forward or backwards...we were talking online n i was making fun of her about her date that she had on sat nite, but i was like, i wish ud date me or something expecting her 2 take it as a joke (ive done this a lot b4)...n then she was like wait do u want to go out with me?...n i was like who wouldnt want to go out with u (bc i was 2 scared to just say yes)...n then like it took her a while to anser n she said haha...so then i said seriously sometimes i think wat rong with me ur like my only friend thats a girl and u r beatiful, y dont i do something, but then i was like then theres other times wen ur mean...she then said haha i love and went to go shower...idk if this was a good conversation or a bad one, what do u guys think?
see thats the thing all my friends rite now have gfs and i want that myself rite now also...its good knowing u always have some1 instead of having to go out and find a random girl every weekend...ive never actually had a real gf b4 and i think its about time i doQuote:
Originally Posted by dutch.lover
i feel for you....throughout high school i never really had a bf. I had one for a week in gr.9 but that was it. I finally got a bf in grade 12, but at that point i had almost given up all hope of ever getting one. So, don't give up, when you finally do get a gf I am sure she will be worth waiting for. Also, having lots of gfs/bfs is overrated... i mean, because i only had 1 bf in high school (the one i got in gr.12 i still have now), i only had to deal with one breakup. Breakups suck, so less bfs/gfs=less heartache. That's just something else to ponder...if you don't feel totally serious about someone, it's not worth going out with them- it will probably end soon anyways.
Not to mention that VERY few people actually end up with their high school sweetheart nowadays. If you're in high school, then chances are good that, even if you do get together, it'll end badly eventually.Quote:
Originally Posted by dutch.lover
Dude, I missed this post earlier. I think that you had your opportunity right there, and pussied out of it. ;) All I can say is to keep flirting, and wait for your next golden window.Quote:
Originally Posted by 420purpHAZE420
do u guys think asking her out online would b that bad? i mean like if i couldnt say yes i want 2 go out with u online, how can i ever do it in person?
If talking online is a usual and comfortable mode of communication for you two, then it's as good as anywhere. Otherwise, online relationships wouldn't exist. Just break the topic in slowly so you don't startle her with it. I mean, she asked if you wanted to go out, and you said, "no". *chuckles* Bite the bullet, and ignore those tummy butterflies.
yea, but i dont think she was asking me out...it may have been more like wow i never wouldve thought...and how do u guys think i should get into it online...it would b awesome if u all think its ok bc then we can preplan it 2gether
Purplehaze, don't do it online.
Here is my recommendation:
Buy/download the original broadway cast recording of HAIR.
Next time you see your girl, invite her over to get high and listen to music.
Get nicely stoned with her, and try to be clear with your body language that you'd like to be close to her (if you're not already close to her.)
Get comfortable, light a joint, and listen to HAIR.
Just let whatever happens, happen.
If this doesn't get you somewhere, I'll give you another idea ;)
HEY JUST CAUSE SHE SAYS NO ONCE DOESNT MEAN SHELL KEEP SAYING IT..BE PERSISTANT HAHAH I ASKED MY GF LIKW 20 TIMES BEFORE SHE SAID YES
I turned my husband down for MONTHS... over and over and over again... before he finally broke down my resistance. Couldn't help but then marry the guy. Persistance can get a man far when it comes to winning a woman's heart. Just make sure you don't get any restraining orders in the process. :cool:Quote:
Originally Posted by Euphoric
so u guys think that was just a nice way of saying no?
I loled :)Quote:
Originally Posted by OniEhtRedrum781
@topic starter
I can see your point, I mean if she said no she might feel awkward around you later on... and then, well you're fucked.
:( Don't know what to tell you except go eat a box of cheeze its and be happy! (Except if you're fat eat a crisp apple)
Ok, Kiddo... First of all, don't forget to breathe. *chuckle*
Now, it is nigh-impossible to figure out whether or not she'd be interested in being more than friends with you based on her actions and these dance-around-the-topic conversations you two are having. I suspect after that online conversation that she might be interested, otherwise when you semi-joked about the 2 of you going on a date, she would have just blown it off or changed the subject immediately. The fact that she asked could be a good sign.
So here's my advice: Instead of asking her straight out if she's interested (straight-forward is often a good thing, but it has it's place!), just say something like:
"Why do you think you and I have always been just friends?"
This way you are asking the question, but without revealing that you wish it were more. If she doesn't feel the same way, she'll be able to gracefully answer without putting something weird out there in the way of the good friendship you have now.
A) She might say something like, "We just don't think of eachother that way." or "We wouldn't want to mess up our friendship." This is her way of telling you she's not interested in more. Go to D.
B) On the other hand, she might say, "You never asked!" or "I never thought you would want to." If so, this is your opening. Continue in the hypothetical, and say something like, "If I had asked, would you have said 'Yes'?
If she says she would, then it is time to make your move!
If she says No, you have your answer - Go to D.
If she says "I don't know," skip to C.
C) She might just say, "I don't know." Then you can ask her if she's ever thought about it.
If she asks, "Have you?" go ahead and admit it! But be casual and light about it: "Of course. We get along so well, and you know you're beautiful - I'm a guy! Of course I have thought about it."
If she says she's never really thought about it, back it up - She probably doesn't want things to change. Go to D.
D) Be prepared with something upbeat to change the subject so it doesn't get too heavy, like, "Holy shit, did you watch South Park last night?"
You can do this! You'll find out what you want to know without fucking up the friendship.
Good luck!
Thank you, Freez. *grin*
Does anyone remember those Choose Your Own Adventure books?
haha that was good advice! and yes, i remember those books fondly.
should i be like can we talk for a second...or just do it like in the middle of a conversation...i really dont have experience in this most of the girls ive hooked up with either made the move the first time or made it very obvious they wanted me...i was thinking about doing this like wen im drunk or something, but number 1 i hate drinking, so thats not so often, and number 2 like if we want to have a real relationship, do i really wana ask her out wen im drunk?
no no...asking her out when you're drunk is not a good idea. it presents many problems: you won't be enjoying yourself very much cause you don't like drinking; you may not be able to remember her reaction all that well in the morning, or how you presented yourself; she may be insulted that you're drunk and making a move like that; if she's drunk too and says yes, because you're both drunk it doesn't really mean much...it's easy for either one of you to say "oops, i made a mistake, i actually don't wanna go out with you" or something would backfire like that.
As a last resort, you could shoot her( or some other gruesome thing) and carry her around and have sex with her and just do all the talking for her.
sorry that was so gross, i couldnt resist
DIZ IZ WUT U DO.....FUCK EM ALL......SORRY DOGG BUT IT SEEMZ THAT SHE DOEZNT LIKE U CUZ THIZ IZ WUT HAPPEND 2 ME N IF U 2 GO OUT N BREAK UP U WONT B AS GUDD FRIENDZ AZ U USED 2 B...BUT I DONNO DOGG...I SAY U STILL GIV IT A TRY U NEVA KNO
Nah... Don't preface it with "can we talk for a second" - That takes the nonchalance out of it. We ladies know damn well that that is the man-version of "We need to talk." *shudder* *wink*
When you're just hanging out and mellow, toss it out there. If you can't find an opening, make one - Mention a couple you know who just started dating: "Hey, did you hear that Jenna and Mike are going out now?" That way your question will be relative to the conversation.
Yeah, don't do it when you're drunk or high. If all goes well, you don't want either of you to be left wondering the next day if it was the alcohol talking. And in any case, you're less likely to pull off the casual delivery if you're not on your game.
thanks for the advice guys...i wana do what u said mackswell, its just weve had finals this week so i havent seen her at all...so i saw her for a second 2day and she said 2 call her 2morrow nite, and im almost 100 percent sure neither of us have nething to do...so i wana be like do u wana go2 dinner with me? the thing is we do this all the time but she usually invites a bunch of ppl or i do...so i was thinking about saying do u wana go 2 dinner 2morrow nite, and then be like, i mean just me and u
Sure, you could do that.
If she insists upon inviting others, it could be she is sensing your wish to have a talk and is avoiding it.
its not that she always insists on inviting other ppl, its just that ive never actually said just me and u, and like her friends kinda follow her everywhere...also another thing is ppl always mention the fact that they think were basically going out, we both just always laugh it off...is that a good or a bad thing, like if she didnt want me wouldnt she say something like, "never"...but like i talked 2 her friends about it and they say she says that were too good of friends, but thats also wat i tell my friends...so i dunno...girls are confusing lol
I think you need to just 'screw your courage to the sticking place' and try the A B C advice I gave ya... That's the best I've got.
When i started to read this thread, more than 1 hour ago, i could not imagine that at the end of it you would not asked her yet... please man... DO SOMETHING! Dont be SO afraid... Or you will regret later...
I myself did like you... my history is pretty like yours, but i was a pussy coward to tell her i really liked her and wished something more then friendship... so the years passed, and i had to wait some 5 years till get a girlfriend cause i had wasted that one. And she was really beautiful...
So, all in all, is better regret what you DID than what you did NOT. Im the living proof of this. JUST DO IT, man!!!
Dont stall because you're afraid of a 'no'... the 'no' only exists if you ask her. And there is a great chance she will say 'yes'... so, DO IT, MAN!!!
If you knew you would die tomorrow, or the day after tomorrow, what would you do? Ask her, and enjoy what may happens, or die like a coward? Think SERIOUSLY about this... cause you dont know which is your last day... which can be today... we dont know... Death is just at an arm of distance... just stalking us... and waiting the time for touch us... so DONT WASTE YOU TIME WITH PETTY FEARS!!!
I really wish you take my advice seriously... cause i know what is live to regret my petty fears... be more a man than i was...
And always remember... Our Lady Mary Jane can keep you cool in the moments of need! :thumbsup:
Peace, and plenty of weed for all! :jointsmile: :rasta: