A tale of heartbreak, that keeps going.

love might be for some people not for others... if i didnt have the most wonderful female in the world, there are still other things i would love, like cannabis, money, pussy, rap, basketball, etc.

no matter what theres always going to be something you love, whether its a female or not

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Originally Posted by MastaChronic

dude, fuck love
get over the shit, honestly man
kill this feeling, kill the great manipulator called love
i did, fuck love
im better off without it. carnal desire is the way to go man.
love will only get you into trouble, maybe not now, maybe not in 20 years....but it will happen.
you were blinded by your feelings, your emotions got the better of you and you momentarily stopped thinking. not good.

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this guy knows what hes talking about i agree 100 percent mastachronic your the man

If a girl is your friend and you like her, and you tell her this and she says "friends now, maybe more in the future," she's just telling you this to keep you as a friend. She has no intention of there being "more" in the future, and you're just wasting your time and your heart trying to pursue this. If she wanted you, she'd want you now. Since you're such a good listener and nice guy she'll tell you there might be a future, just because she wants you to keep acting nice and keep listening to her -- but she will never want you. That's it.

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Originally Posted by bud luv

If a girl is your friend and you like her, and you tell her this and she says "friends now, maybe more in the future," she's just telling you this to keep you as a friend. She has no intention of there being "more" in the future, and you're just wasting your time and your heart trying to pursue this. If she wanted you, she'd want you now. Since you're such a good listener and nice guy she'll tell you there might be a future, just because she wants you to keep acting nice and keep listening to her -- but she will never want you. That's it.

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This never occurred but I will keep that in mind.

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Originally Posted by Jack the Tripper

Hey dude. I'm same age as you, and I too have suffered through heartbreak and awkward relationships in the past. I know the feeling of how everything piles up. I'm not gonna spam your thread with my own history, but I just want to make it clear that I totally sympathize with your situation.

First of all, if you can, try to let the whole "I want to fuck Mark" thing slide. Obviously this will be really hard for you, seeing as how you seem to be head over heels for this girl, and she's telling you she wants your best friend's body. The reason you've got to let it go is that you don't know what's really motivating her to say that, and therefore acting on the situation would almost definitely cause more problems.

You don't need to tell her how you feel about her right now. As a matter of fact, I'd advise AGAINST expressing your love. Even if she feels the same way, it could scare her a bit. Just ask her out. Don't overthink the matter. If she's going out of her way to talk to you and smacking your ass everyday, there is a 100% guarantee she'll say "yes" if you ask her to a movie, or something. So take her out, and have a good time.

Then, take her out again, and kiss her. It took me 4 years of overthinking everything to realize that just kissing someone is much better than telling them how you feel. It's like the difference between showing someone a movie or describing it to them. If you find a "moment" on the date, then go for it. Otherwise, waiting for the doorstep or a similar place is a good idea, but do it.

You're not cursed, my friend. You just have stronger emotions than most people. This may seem like a curse, but eventually you'll learn how strong your emotions can make you.

I hope this helps... I've been skimming back and forth to your post to try to cover everything. If you want to talk anything else out just let me know.

Peace.

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Sounds like a plan to me. :pimp:

You can try Jack the Tripper's suggestion, but if it doesn't work you should quit her cold turkey. It will be much healthier for you in the long run. Clinging to an overly optimistic idea that she'll eventually want you will hurt you, and you'll miss out on fun you could have had with a girl that does like you. Some girls want to keep your friendship and think they're being nice to you by acting like there's a future with them, when they're actually doing the worst thing possible. Even if she's calling you 5 times a day to talk, it doesn't mean she wants to be with you. Don't mistake her wanting to be good friends with you with wanting to be your girl. Most 18 year old girls want an Alpha male guy that they feel like they have to try to impress. Girls like to impress. They don't respect or want to be with a snivelling "nice guy" that worships the ground they walk on. Ladies, you can feel free to back me up on this one. Once they know a guy worships the ground they walk on, many will lose interest in him romantically.

A lot of girls want to talk to one guy and fuck another. Remember; actions speak louder than words!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Good luck.

Hmmm. IDK. Of course, I'm almost 38, not 18. My dude worships me. I worship him back. It's a win/win situation.

I think as I got older I got less interested in power struggles and more interested in sharing my life and soul.

I totally agree that women change and as they get more mature they want a more stable relationship. I guess you could even say this goes for both of the sexes.

But when girls are 18ish a lot of them are turned on by guys that they perceive as difficult to attain, or whatever you want to call it. Of course there are exceptions to every rule, but I'd bet a bowl that this is pretty common. :rastasmoke:

This is one of the reasons there are so many older guy/younger girl relationships in high school. There are few situations a guy can take advantage of more than being a senior in high school. Let's just say that I wouldn't mind re-living that once or twice. :giggity: :giggity:

of course I'll be the first to admit that women are impossible to fully understand, but I think this is a phenomena that I have pinned down reasonably well. :thumbsup: