How Long did it take you to get over A breakup?

It might take longer to get over a short relationship than a longer one. Of course it really depends on how much was done for each other, how much you loved and truly cared for each other. Not being able to get those things in return is a horrible feeling, but you have to know when to say enough is enough. No matter who it is, you have to remain true to your convictions. Above all, make things very clear from the start. Communication can be tough sometimes because you're not sure how the other will respond, and many times things go unsaid and that will always cause problems down the road. The thing is you both will learn, and hopefully not make the same mistakes that you did again.

The whole "staying friends" thing can be good in most cases, depending of course on how things ended. Though if you say you would like to remain friends, it should also be made clear that you will require space for a while (if you need it). If the other doesn't seem to respect that, wants things to be "friend" status right away and gives up on the friendship right away if you say you need the space for a while, they are playing with you. Bad news.

Basically, don't let yourself get pushed around (no matter how strikingly amazing they are), and don't push others around. Karma is huge in relationships. Just keep it real. :hippy:

I broke up with the only person i've ever truely loved in august 2005 - and i'm still not over her - and in ways i dont want to be over her - i still love her un conditionally.

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Originally Posted by robert42

lol that pic still makes me laught

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quoting urself eh m8? good to see the ol british humor is still on these boards. lol u probably dont remember me but i used to hang around here a lot once upon a time. peace

It can take a really long time to get over someone you really love, you may never completely get over them. It's hard and its going to hurt, but at least you found out now rather than later down the road. Tell her to stop calling for a few months. Being friends with her right now will just be a constant reminder of the hurt and you need time to heal. Good luck. You're still young and there really are lots of girls out there, even if you don't think you want any of them right now.

As a young man, I met my ex wife when we both about 14 years old. We lived together for 7 years then got married, had 2 kids, and lived somewhat happy for the next 17 years.

I worked all over the US, back then, and somewhere in the mid 90's, different clothes started to show up in my closet. Always denined.

I moved out in 96, and for 6 months licked my wounds, drank like an alcoholic, got a DUI, and went to the most violent bars I could find in whatever city I might be in. Got arrested, in a huge barroom fight, and sitting in jail, got singled out by BUBBA, and beat that fuck almost to death...in jail!

Had to go to ARD shit / anger management an decided enough was enough, I listened to what they had to say.

Went back to my first love...no not the bitch...fishing!! Carried my fishing gear all across the USA, (never went into another bar for alcohol...still dont today)fishing some of the beautiful areas in America/Canada.

In 99, I decided to learn how to use a computer to surf the net...found OverGrow. I also found a wonderful lady, who was single, independent, strong minded. Started my own business, working for myself.

Now I grow, and teach others, and set up gardens, make boxes for folks, and write letters to worthless Gov officials to end the war on drugs, end Federal Reserve, Impeach Bush/Cheney, reopen 911.

My silly point is this, dedicate your self, your mind, your body to other endevors, and forget the past. Stay away from painful contact for a time...cause Time heals all wounds!

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Originally Posted by higher4hockey

tuesdays with morrie.

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oh damn... i've seen the movie but never read the book... it was a phenominal movie!

Sometimes never ,
These ppl. -n- experiences mold us and make us who we are later in life .
Crispi :jointsmile:

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Originally Posted by xcrispi

Sometimes never ,
These ppl. -n- experiences mold us and make us who we are later in life .
Crispi :jointsmile:

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he speaks the TRUTH!

It Takes time dude... Its all up to you. I would avoid any contact with her though and Delete the Myspace shit... That will just keep mind fuking you. I had to do that with My Ex,,, MSN Myspace all that stuff.. It was really the best way for me to deal with it. I dropped off all her stuff at her parents house. And never looked back..

I felt sad and upset, But I picked the right times to do so. You control you... Its hard to practice but really If you don't wanna feel sad don't feel sad. Its hard to get cuz its so simple. It took me a good month to fully understand it when I was explained it by the DOCTOR... A few things I took out of those sessions were,,, perscription Drugs weren't the answer...Feeling like somthing was wrong with me wasn't the answer...

I finally understood that.... PERfection does not exsist but there is nothign wrong with striving for it,,,,

and as well If you can live with no Exspectations you can get real far with relationships.. I understand its almost impossible to have no exspectations, But theres alot of things I exspected before from my Lady and when I didn't get it I just felt hurt. I don't do that anymore. I try and not expect things if they happen than its just a bonus.

And when dating again... Cuz you will get there,,, ((((It will happen trust me.. I was 25 as well and 4 years into a relationship almost engaged when it happened to me))) Rember this...

The Hardest part of a broken Heart
Isn't the Ending so much as the Start
The tragity starts from the very first spark
Losing your mind for the sake of your heart

Don't let that happen cuz it wont work out... Have fun chill with some buds again, hit those bars, Go to a rock concert, But most importantly... reflect on yourself and Do some things that you couldn't do while ina relationship.. You know Take that trip to that place that your GF would not dare go to you with or disapprove of you going there.

I started working out like mad when it happened to me I put all my anger into Weights and looking fuking Ripped.. I got in such good shape,,, I made a schedual And I follweed it to a TEee.... Woke up early started swimming before work. After that I wrote ina dairy for 10 mins.,, When I got home from work I lifted weights for a hour,, Then I did whatever till nighttime and Blazed most of the time. and then wrote in the dairy again before I went to bed. I did that for 2 months striaght. It was the most fun I had had in 4 years. Then I started dating again. and the whole cycle began again.

New Gurl serious relationship, Living together taking of Marriage... All that in 2 years after the Big Breakup...

You'll figure it out... You really don't have any other options anyways right?

We all have your back on this one...

kd

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Originally Posted by anycraic

quoting urself eh m8? good to see the ol british humor is still on these boards. lol u probably dont remember me but i used to hang around here a lot once upon a time. peace

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ha i remember u man nice to see u around ;)

all the best