I hate Christmas

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Originally Posted by maryjanemama

Hahaha! I was going to suggest something like that, too, but I changed my mind. Res, maybe we can find a way so that the lodger won't be a "problem" anymore.

Kidding, of course! (Mary turns her back to sharpen her knife...)

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Is that what your avatar is doing...sharpening knives!!! lol

lots of em bwahahahha

holy sh*t LoL!

so thats what shes doin while she mesmerizes people with the skirt shakin =oP

mayhaps DarkRes can go out and find some hottie to bunk with over the weekend? Pimpin ain't easy... unless you got cha-ching up the yin-yang LoL

that would definetly make ya a happy camper for a few hours (atleast) :D

hell, you would get some excellent exercize if ya had a lady friend with benefits :D Peace

lmao@cha-ching up the yin-yang
:D

Aye, I aint had none for a while, so yups...that'd give me an appetite ffs!!! WooHooooo

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Originally Posted by RESiNATE

Just had a row with the ex-wife over what to do with the children over christmas.
She wants me to go to her house in the morning, so that I can be there when the kids open their presents. She cannot seem to understand why this makes me feel uncomfortable.
Aside from the fact that she has a 'lodger' there, I just don't want to play 'happy families' (a nasty expression ,but one that fits).
She is sooo insensitive - only the other day, she sent me a text wishingme a happy anniversary!
Then, when she came to pick the kids up this weekend, she had said 'lodger' in the car with her.

Now, I don't really care if she wants to shack up with this character, but |I don't appreciate her shoving that kinda thing in my face - something that she is very adept at. And she can't see why I have a problem with it.

Am I being stupid?
Am I making something out of nothing?

I tried to be diplomatic about it, but she pushed the issue, and it turned into a row.
All I wanna do is get on with my pathetic little lonely life, care for my kids as best I can, and be there for them. But she makes an already difficult life, more unbearable.
It's like, take a hint, init!
I feel very uncomfortable around her, because I don't even want to talk to her at all, but I have to becasue of the kids. I also have to keep my sarcastic tongue in check around the kids, because I don't want to make this any more difficult for them. It's bad enough that my eldest (he's 6) keeps asking me why I don'tlive with them anymore. I've tried explaining it to them both (and I would never bad-mouth theur mother in front of them) that it was for the best, but they always ask - evry weekend...

I hate christmas.

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sorry if its already been said but why would your x wife text you saying happy anneversery? shes not over you, clearly...i duno the situation at all man but shes playing those extrogen mindgames.

if i were you i would just tell them i died, then go buy property in mexico, grow weed and retire, then spend the rest of my days happy and high (thats the same thing huh?)

or id kill myself.

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Originally Posted by koshea

sorry if its already been said but why would your x wife text you saying happy anneversery? shes not over you, clearly...i duno the situation at all man but shes playing those extrogen mindgames.

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I'm afraid that she is a bit twisted, Koshea -I could write an essay about the times that she has bad-mouthed me in front of my family and friends, or put me down, or hit me...I thought that I could change her ways, but I guess I was just being niave. Whether she is over me, or not, I don't care..but she fails to see what she is doing wrong - even her own brother has disowned her, and most of her family have little regard for her. I truly feel sorry for her, but what can ya do - some people are just made that way.
That said, the marriage was not all bad, we did have some fun along the way.
She probably thought that she was being humourous.

I'm sad that my marriage failed, and that I broke up the family unit (the last thing I ever wanted to do, coming from a broken marriage myself), but I have my limits as does everyone.

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Originally Posted by RESiNATE

I'm sad that my marriage failed, and that I broke up the family unit (the last thing I ever wanted to do, coming from a broken marriage myself), but I have my limits as does everyone.

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Res, you are saving your kids from a disfunctional marriage and that is the best thing that you could do for them. If they grew up seeing their father abused day after day they would have a twisted idea about what marriage is all about. I believe you have done the right thing. You're kids are too young to understand everything now...but won't it be sweet when one day you're teenage son comes up to you and says, "Dad, mom's a crazy bitch, can I come live with you?" OK, maybe that wasn't worded right but you know what I mean. :p

I'd also keep my eye out to make sure she isn't abusing your kids, too. You don't want them to go what you went through.

lol,MJM, you'd be surprised at how close you would be to the truth of it (re:'mom's a crazy bitch').
I'm always very careful about what I say about their mother, I don't want to alienate them from her, when in the end she will probably do that herself.
And I live for the day :)

That sounded really nasty, but they have three different styles of upbringing; my way, her way, and her family's way.
My way invovles teaching them about respect and compassion (grr I hate that word lol), whereas, her way seems to revolve around the total opposite, and her family...well

And, believe me, my eyes are so peeled for anything out-of-place (especially with this so-called 'lodger'), that it borders on paranoia...but I don't let the kids know, you know ;)

Res you sound like you're a great dad.. Maybe not just yet, but one day your kids will see that, and like MJM said, how seet will it be when they say "dad, moms fucking nuts, can i live with you?".. it'll probably happen.. and even if it doesnt, your kids will see that your treat them right, and they'll ignore their mum and spend time with you if they want.. trust me.. ;)

Thanks GHoST...but I guess that I only have them at the weekend, and it's easier for me to have the time for them.
Even so, the X has none at all, and prefers to shout at the kids, rather than explain things to them.
Like, they will ask to do something that I don't want them to do, but rather than just say "no!", I will take the time to justify my reason for not letting them do those things.
My eldest made me laugh the other day, because I was praising him for doing well at school...lol, he said "Dad, you already said that I was good, why do you keep saying it?", to which I told him, "Look, if you do bad, I will tell you off, but if you do good, I will tell you so...'cos that s the way it is" lol
Bless him lol