sometimes people need to learn the hard way in life i myself will not tollerate shit from a 17yr old punk
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sometimes people need to learn the hard way in life i myself will not tollerate shit from a 17yr old punk
i agree with the step dad
sometimes we get out of line with the disrespect
your husband set some boundaries with that move
i bet your son wont slam no more doors in his face
tough love is needed in situations like this
your husband probobly does love your boys
theyll get over it
smoke a blunt together and thats it
if your husband was not a step dad and he would do that
you wouldnt say nothing.how do you expect to him to act like a dad
when you dont treat him like one.
life is hard when shit like this happens
hare you fucking kidding me? he stayed out a little past curfew so you say beat the fuck out of him? get help, im having a hard time beleiving you even smoke potQuote:
Originally Posted by invision
... a little ass-whuppin' now and then may keep his smartass out of prison some day ... if he disrespects the parents putting a roof over his head, either clamp down, or throw his ass out ... :smokin:
It was wrong for ur husband to do what he did,
does he have temper problems?
Oh christ I did not read the thread,but I,m sure there is good advice in it... I say go with your gut,the dude was wrong PERIOD!!!
U will never teach a good lesson,via a bad example...
Interesting sitiation. The stepfather can not touch the child in an aggressive way period. I believe that kids need proper discipline but there is a rhyme and a method.
Unfortuanately you have tough circumstances with the biological father. A step-father has no right to put his hands on a child that isn't his period. YOU choose the stepfather, he did not choose to bring that man into his house. Why should he chose to allow him to touch him?
The fact of tha matter is, if the kid doesn't respect the stepfather, he doesn't have to. It is not his father, he is YOUR man.
I understand that he loves, and does things for the boy's but that doesn't give him authority to take over as a father figure if the mutual respect isn't on both ends. YOU have to take priority in the punishments.
This kid needs to learn some hard life lessons it looks like. At his age, it's too late to bring it back down to thelevel of a 6 yr old.
I don't mean to be offensive to you, but it sound slike this noy wasn;t properly disciplined from a young age and now he has bad habits and a bad attitude. Life has to teach him now. He is 17, the time for learning respect from your parents is over at that age, you should have already learned it.
I don't even cuss in the presense of my mother or father out of pure respect. If i was to swear in front of them I'd be ashamed of myself. This is because of the programming they intilled in me when I was a lad.
To be honest, at this pint in life the only way he is going to learn things he should have already learned is by life problems.
Good luck.
Keep the stepfather's hands off the boy. You are fucking with primal instincts here. The other brothers may get involved if that issue isn;t resolved... then you have an ugly situation on your hands.
I had a stepfather of sorts when I was a teen. He started off knowing his place, but eventualy he became comfortable and complacent. Eventualy he started to get in on the discipline. BIG mistake. It wasn;t that we didn;t need discipline, it was that we were not about to accept it from some guy our mom brougt in the house. We did not respect him as an authority figure. Needless to say one day things got out of hand. I was arguing with my mother and he stepped in trying have me end the conversation.
He said "It's over, you understand me? No more out of you." I reply, "Who the fuck do you think you are talking to me like you are my father? You can smoke a cock." Furious, grabbed me by the shoulders and slammed me into the wall. Before the night was over he was in the hospital having surgery on his jaw. He has a full row of fallse teeth and his jaw has metal spikes implanted to keep it stable. Moral of the story..... DON'T FUCK WITH OTHER PEOPLE'S KIDS. OR YOU GET FUCKED UP.
I;m gettin all pissed just reliving this story so that is where this post ends. :P
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Originally Posted by friendowl
Because he is NOT their Dad. Just because a mother brings a man into the house doesn't instill the fatherly respect into the children.
You bet her son won't sla mdoor into his face anymore? Something much worse than a slammed door could result from this, trust me from experience.
I am the eldest brother of three siblings. They live with my mother and her boyfriend. He is a cool guy, but if I ever caught wind of a story like I am reading here the man wouldn't know what hit him. I'd be on my way to their city and at the house within the day with hell to pay. I mean hell. You don;t touch OTHER people;s kids period.
They need to learn respect? YOU are not the one to teach them unless you are the father, OR they RESPECT you as the father figure.
I need to be more strict , and at times I feel I am cause my 17 yr old is always saying mom " chill" grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!! yeah right!!!
Sometimes it takes a man for them to listen, I know as a kid growing up , My mom spoiled me and I took advantage of her, but as it turns out , she has passed ( at 60 ) and I am not speaking to my dad. Like I said me and my husband have been together 8 yrs, this is the first and I am sure the last time he will touch him , other than rough housing. My son is fine right now joking with his friends, he wants his life to be one big party!! He is into smoking pot with his pot head friends, which i feel is better than alcohol cause alcohol in excess can really fuck you and other people's lives up!!
My son does not appreciate all that my husband has done for him ,and when he is working ( my hubby ) in the yard or on his car ---- never once did my 17 yr old say , ya need a hand?? But my 13 yr old does almost ever y time. Now , you tell me, who respects who???
Thanks for all you guys that stuck up for my husband :)
I tend to be too easy - going and it takes ALOT to piss me off (ya know like being a door mat) which is not good! But thats the way I was brought up , respect your elders, and the only thing I did wrong when I was growing up was got pregnant at 17, which I dont regret casue I luv my boys, and I have been working all my life!
So criticize me if you will, but thanks to you guys who support me and my hubby, I still want all 3 of us to sit down and talk this out.........
take care all
WG
I just wanted to add I did graduate from St. Pius X HS in 1982. sO MY SON GRADUATING IS very important to me.
harming a kid is wrong.