If my husband gives me one more lecture...

How did that whole telling your mom you're not a virgin thing go over?

I wouldn't bother with research, people will continue to believe what they will. However, if your husband is in COURT APPOINTED AA AND IS STILL DRINKING, maybe he's the one who should be considering the psychological aspects of other, legal drugs.

I drink, not too often. I don't like it, I don't like the way I feel when I'm drunk. I smoke, because I like how I feel when I'm on it. Personally, I think cannabis is much less destructive then alcohol.

So what was I getting at with that less paragraph? That it's all about personal preference. Choose what you like best, and if your husband doesn't agree, well, you can complain about it to us I guess.

Big Homie, you work from home, too? So nice to find someone to relate to! My hubby works all kinds of weird hours and unless I made production out of it, it's unlikely he'd even know I'd been smoking!

Normally, I'm like, "I'm going in the bathroom to smoke cigarettes and read magazines..." which means, I'm going to get high. Maybe I'll just start being more stealthy about it and not letting him know...

I'd imagine I'm easier to deal with when I'm high...I know he is...he's been forced to AA because of some legal crap...he tried to quit drinking but we both decided we liked him a LOT better when he was permitted to drink a beer here and there, so he does...and I don't give him shit..I uphold his lie to his friends, family and everyone else (except you guys, of course!) and I would hope that he extended me the same courtesy with weed, but alas, he is more judgemental and bitchy than I. The funniest thing is...is that when I get the worst lectures out of him, he's torn his way through a twelve pack of cheap beer first..

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Originally Posted by BigHomie

g/f and i have lived together about 5 years. she's never smoked. she doesn't really care that i do, but she'd occasionally hold it over my head.

a few months ago my main connect decided to move on with his life and stop selling. i knew it was coming and told g/f that maybe i should do the same. so i quit smoking. that lasted all of about 2 or 3 weeks. when i started back up i didn't tell her.

for the last 4 months she's had no idea that i've been smoking... and we have never gotten along better. i wish i had tried this little experiment sooner

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I did the exact same thing. :thumbsup:

Except I never told her I was going to quit, she just assumed it since I couldn't get ahold of anything for awhile.

I agree with graph though, what's the big deal? He was born without alcohol and if he's going to let him effect him like that, he's being weak in my opinion.

Though I don't know either of you on a personal level so I can't judge anyone, but I don't understand why people always let the influence of drugs get ahead of everything else.

Moderation.

An addiction is something you can't stop and something that gets in the way of relationships and responsibilities. It sounds like your hubby is headed down a much traveled road..

Graph...my mom was so preoccupied with her Vicodin addiction, her new stoner husband and her newly born (my bro and sis, now 12 and 16, I'm 28) that she didn't care. She was happy to be rid of me, her illegitimate child fathered by a promiscous police officer (no joke...the fucker's still a cop and has fathered several other illegitmate children in our town -- I've actually met a couple of my half-siblings -- who he has no intention of supporting or knowing...he was what you would call a man-slut)

She didn't care to the extent that when I ran away and dropped out of high school, she signed the papers to allow me to marry him. Eventually, he beat the crap out of me, I left, and met the man who is now my husband. I love him...we've been together for 13 years...married for 8 now...and have two totally gorgeous yet mischevious sons...and although we fight about each others' habits and shit we cannot seem to live without one another...

I've made it clear that I've been smoking weed since I was thirteen years old. It's never harmed me, only done me good, and I have NO intention of giving it up. I have sat many a night, even pregnant, wondering where my man was...and he was somewhere with his buddies...getting drunk...so how dare he call me on a habit that does nothing but makes me more agreeable towards him and our boys??? It's that AA propoganda they're feeding him that's poisoining his brain...they're so one sided...they don't dare touch on the benefits of weed...

it can be so frustrating dealing with non-tokers... you can talk about ur own experiences and show them every study ever done under the sun... you might even convince the person all the anti-pot ads are wrong, and that there are much worse legal drugs out there, but the argument still almost always ends with:
them- "well, it's still illegal"
me- "well, it shouldn't be"
them- "doesn't matter, it's still illegal"
me- "go fuck yourself"
lol

Why, oh why...isn't there some sort of dating service that hooks us up with each other before we marry unsympathetic persons??? I am what I would call fairly attractive and guarantee I could find a mate on these boards alone that would live with me in stoned bliss forever more...unfortunately that's not how my life worked out..I guess it's never too late...I dream of when my kids are adults and I'm a hot, stoned grandma with lots of lovers...

lol...

Oh, and may I add...those lovers are stoned, too...I don't care how nasty you people think old people sex is...I'm looking forward to it...no kids, no responsibilities....now I'm 28 and feel like a spinster....maybe when I'm 55 I'll be a hot bitch!!!

Listen you guys...I am in major need of escapism...I am trapped in a loveless marriage with a man who doesn't understand me..although that's just the beginning of my issues...I just wish I could run away...are there any male stoners who would take me in??? Maybe just wishful thinking...but in my utopia, we'd listen to Tori Amos, lay in bed, smoke weed, watch TV and eat pizza...I'm sorry if I offend feminists...yes, I understand the women's movement...I am a mother of two and a successful writer...but honestly, I want a man who I can come home to who will kiss and hug me instead of ignoring me...I need affection, attention, and a man who smokes weed with me...anybody out there who loves kids, chinese food, books and weed? And a chick with baggage?