im not against gays adopting children at all, but i think, as ozzy said, that it might cause probs to the child coz of his situation, because society isnt still fully accepting gays
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im not against gays adopting children at all, but i think, as ozzy said, that it might cause probs to the child coz of his situation, because society isnt still fully accepting gays
its probly not gonna make the kid gay. the kid will be attracted to whatever sex she/he is naturally attracted to.
if the kidis gay, they're gay, if not they're not
I dissagree partly with this, i believe it is a result of upbringing, but i dont think the parants being gay will affect if the child is gay or not.Quote:
Originally Posted by opiuser
But i do think it will result in the child being bullied and having low self-esteam etc.
I mean i would rather a child be addoped by gay parants then grow up in an orphanage and get kicked out onto the street at 16, but i'd rather see a child with straight parants then gay ones for the childs sake.
I agree that bullying would become a BIG problem because of the ways that some children are raised...which sucks...and I can't really see a way around this bullying, the other children are going to find out at some point.
I've never thought of sexuality being genetic...I always thought it was learn't...but i guess it makes sense that it is genetic, because a gay person can't help being gay as much as a straight person can't help being straight....
I suppose it would have some psychological effects on the child as well cause isn't there a bonding period of time that all children need to have with their mother otherwise it effects somthing (i'll find out after and post).
hmmmm.... I really don't know any more....
yeah, I mean, god forbid the next generation actually self examines their own sexuality and make the best personal choice rather than respond to stereotypes and fear of stigmatization.
"Oh wait, don't misunderstand, I'm all for gay adoption. We just have to protect all the innocent children from the ignorant people in society who would attack them. Not me. The other people. Ignorant people."
Apparently.
Some of you need to stop passively being part of the problem, and start actively becoming part of the solution...
well this is the best i can find....i looked through a couple of books about attachment and this is all I could come up with....
Attachment Disorder -- a mental and emotional condition occurring during the first three years of life where a child does not attach, bond, or trust his or her mother.
The importance of an attachment relationship between mother and child cannot be over-emphasized. Attachment is all about building relationships. Humans need attachments with others for their psychological and emotional development as well as for their survival. Infants need to be physically close to the mother and be able to receive and give affection to form an enduring emotional bond.
So being put in foster care alone can cause problems.....HOWEVER
I recently read a study about attachment and it is possible for a child to lead a perfectly happy life after it has been in adoption.....but only if it is taken by new parents and not it's biological parents...
so I believe (apart from bullying) that it is possible for the child to have a "normal" happy childhood with loving gay parents...
Polymirize that is a very good point...althoguh i don't completly understand all of what you are saying.....
Apologies. I believe I was high at the time of my previous posting. As this is currently the case as well, we'll see how this works out the second time around:Quote:
Originally Posted by Az.
I guess my central point (among others) is that a lot of people seem to think that unfair prejudices towards the gay community need to end. But instead of getting involved, or voting (in our sorry excuse for democracy [US]) these people merely sit back, idly typing on internet message boards about how change would be great but the time just isn't here.
No idea is ever going to have a 100% approval rating. But maybe if we changed the way we treated kids, and raised them, and educated them, some of them would turn out not as ignorant as their parents and we could start working towards this perfect world everyone seems to be sitting back and waiting for.
Gandhi didn't decide to just wait till oppression wasn't convient for the British Empire afterall...
who u adopting :p
i dont like the idea of surrogate mothers. there are plenty of other beautiful children waiting to be adopted, there is no need for more children to take thier places. and as for gay adoption: why not?? i read this hilarious book on just this subject caled 'the kid'
I say no cuz that kid is gonna get the shit kicked out of him when he gets to school. To be honest as bad as this will make me look I think that homosexuality in most hands is bad. Why? Because of disease. Now whereas the Gay foster parents may be together and not sleeping around if that kid now has a stronger chance of being gay and since in general most people straight or not in their teens have multiple partners if they are going to be sexualy active. So bassically that rounds off to if you think gay adoption should be aloud gays should be aloud. I think that it shouldnt be aloud for a gay to have multiple partners and till that is fixed then gay adoption should not be aloud. Now their is still the fact that straight people can have diseases to from sleeping around I think that should be fixed to but not before its fixed gays. Why? Because homosexuality was the beginning of aids where it passed on to straights. So homosexuality is the start of alot. Ok now please dont take this into sum anti gay thing as im really stoned right now and writing down just my personal thoughts when stoned and im not sure if those are my real thoughts.:) hope this made sense PEACE