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Being the "Nice" guy...
Yea I have been in this situation ALL my life...
But recently I met this girl and all her friends are now my friends...
None of the are the "Nice" guy and shes a bitch so yea...
So i am slowly groing out of the "Nice" guy stage...
But basically I am in the same situation as you but slowly growing out of it...
Kinda sucks but I found out I get alot more by being a ass...
Guess life just works in weird ways.
nice guys just get shit.
i got all these cool friends that are girls and ill call them to go
see a movie thinking we had a connection and ill i get is the
"lets just be friends" thing.
I F'IN HATE THAT.
This is what I've found 4 days of not being a nice guy anymore.
Girls love you. Girls who have been indifferent suddenly seem to like me. (3 girls seem to like me which I havn't noticed before, in 4 days) I started dating one of them. Just don't show even a bit of interest in a girl before you are sure she is interested in you.
You get more done. Just be honest and say no if you don't want to do something. I did that a couple times I wouldn't have, and none of them got even a bit angry at me.
It's all about facing fears in the end. Being a nice guy is safe, but it won't get you anywhere. I also faced my fears in other areas of my life.
I really feel like I am in control of my life now. Which I hadn't earlier.
Stopping being a nice guy is one of the best things I've done for myself. Thanks cannabis.com for all of your feedback. Without that I wouldn't have been able to do this step without all the confidence I did it with.
I'm a nice guy and even after I got dumped by my ex I still am a nice guy and nice to her...why? Cause that is how I am and I see no reason to be an asshole. But hey why you guys are saying that nice guys cant defend themselves...thats bull I'd kick anyones ass if the abuse me of some sort.
With that said yes being nice to people who disrespects ya is not being nice its being an idiot. But then again as for me I'm nice to everybody and It seems to work fine with me, no enemies, only smiles as I come by...thats great.
For a relationship well some girls are in to nice guys no doubt about it...dunno if being a ass gets ya a good solid relationship though but being nice helps obviously
be nice and kind too all you meet!
peace
Not being a nice guy doesn't mean being an asshole. It's just looking after your own interests and setting boundaries and not letting people take advantage of you.
Me mum used to, (well still does) tell me that girls only went for nice lads. Like fuck they do, i was a 'nice boy' most of my life, did it get me anywhere?
Now that i've stopped being a 'nice boy' i find it easier to talk to girls an shit.
Not just bein able to talk to girls, i've found that i've got more mates, when i used 2 give a fuck i'd worry about loadsa things and generally be a twat. Now the people i hang round with, say i'm sounder than i used to be
i am a nice guy, and i think its awesome due to the fact that it rubs off on people and hopefully you can make someones day better, but though i do avoid conflict, i hate arguing, smoke up people
I wonder who will agree with this statement:
Girls don't want nice guys, they prefer Assholes 'cuz they're a challenge/fun/exciting. Or maybe a "project" to work on....
Women prefer nice guys that also have a backbone, opinions, and know how to treat a woman well but don't take shit from punks.
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I agree.^
i agree with you 110% my friend you definitely hit the nail on the head..couldnt of said it better!