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ive never had a dad my whole life
my mom is gay and she and her partner have been together for 15 years or so
im now 18 and heading off to college.
i have no interest in finding out who my birth father was i guess i feel like i have everything i need.
ok i just have to ask cuz i've never had the oppurtunity, what is it like having two moms (or gay parents if you prefer that o.0)Quote:
Originally Posted by ipodguy
i'd think it would just seem normal, cuz it's what you grew up around... just curious tho...
My brother grew up with out his biological dad, and I sometimes wonder if he thinks about it and misses him? Can you really miss someone you've never met?
He did'nt grow up intierly without a dad, I leant him mine. That is, after my mom got pregnant carying my brother (and the bastard that did it to her ran away)she was still educating herself to be a nurse,and when my brother was two years old she met my dad. And as the deasent man I've always known him to be,he became the father figure my brother needed.But still I wonder if my brother wonders about what his biological dad was like and if his even still alive.
I wonder about it.
I too, would say to have and to lose.Quote:
Originally Posted by Runaway Jim
My dad died when i was 17, seven months before that my mum passed away also. During the first 16 years up untill my mums death i never really knew my dad. I mean we lived together, we were a family, but i was closer to my mu. My dad never really spoke in the house. He worked all day 5-6 days a week to provide for us, he loved us, he just couldn't show it.
After my mum died my dad fell apart. He was signed of work sick from the day after my mum dided to the day he died. He had cancer and the symptoms started two weeks after my mums death. The docs didn't seem to care. There opinion seemed to be one of "yeah, he's lost his wife and needs some attention". We had a doc round nearly everyday for months because my dad couldn't wlak or stand. By the time a doctor actually took notice it was too late. If he'd of survived he would never of walked again. There was a tumor on his spine.
Once he was in hospital and the pain was under control we started talking and growing close and i realised that he wasn't the miserable so and so i always thought. He was funny when he wanted to be and we started to become friends.
Then just as i was starting to feel close to my dad and was awaiting the day he'd be coming home from hospital. He died.
I've done alot of wrong things in life, none of which i regret. The only thing i regret is something i didn't do. And that's get to know my dad while i had the chance.
I'm adopted so I don't know any of my real parents. I grew up without a father mostly as well, until my mother remarried when I was 13. My step-dad is a miserable cantankerous old bastard.
i dont know my dad, no contact nothing, never had a birthday card of him but fuck it...if i saw the prick i would stamp on his head 32 times for every xmas and bday hes missed.
My dad was gone for alot of my childhood. Alcoholism, drugs, and then finally the divorce from my mother. but the last few years i've got him back. hahah, now we just burn together all the time. we're like good friends now, not really the whole father-son stereotype.
i never met my dad....i was lucky enough to get a dad later in life, and he is by all means, my father.....i did try to find my biological father and only learned that he had killed himself a year previous, and lived the town over from me almost my whole life...you seem to always carry this burden that you arent worthy of being wanted....
Well, I lost my dad when I was 15. It was sad and all that, but I've got his genes within me, and I can feel that. Everyone in my family always reminds me how much I look and act like him, and the more I grow up, the more I think my dad was the fucking man, because I'm turning just like him. :D
Gentlemen, your dads may not be with you physically, but spiritually, they sure fucking are!
i gotta give you the benifit of the doubt you only wanna stomp his head 32 times for missing those days for the family matter and not the presents...Quote:
Originally Posted by lil josh
but your post reminded me of a certain small group of people, and hteir main quarral with having a missing parent is "missing presents" their argument is usually the same "i never saw birthday presents from him, he's never sent me christmas money" and i sit there dumbfounded... like WTF?!
the last thing on my mind when it comes to my father is presents and money.. (he actually sent me a 100 bucks recently, and i told my grandma to keep it cuz i didn't want his money, and i still don't... he's trying to BUY his way back in my life and i don't fucking think so...) but some people, seem to only care about the missing material possessions...
if i could go back in time, knowing what i know now, i'd gladly give up every last present or money i got from my grandparents, just to have a decent dad in my life..... the emotional pain is much worse...
as surrey said.... "you seem to always carry this burden that you arent worthy of being wanted...." and that is hell.... pure undeniable hell....
i'll be honest, i'm not emotionally, financially, or mentally ready to be a parent... but i have no choice now... i will not let my son suffer cuz i 'screwed up' (don't get me wrong, i love him more than anything... but if i hadn't pulled the whole 'it feels better' thing, we wouldn't be struggling, i always wanted kids, but neither of us was quite ready yet) but anyways, it's not his fault he's here, he didn't have to be, so it's time for me to step up... and nothing will seperate us.. i will be a part of his life, no matter what it takes, i will be the one to raise him, and won't let him suffer the same thought process i had for years upon years, wondering why my parent(s) didn't want me....