I'm a 22 year old virgin

You need to acquire that 'fuck it' mentallity. If she turns you down, fuck it, who cares. If she says yes, fuck it. If life throws you a curveball and gives you hairy nipples, fuck it, you could have downsyndrome that'd be worse. I got laid a couple times when I was 16 from this chick who was friends with my buddys sister, and after that I didn't get laid again until I was 18 and that was with some chick I met at the bar. I get laid from time to time now, especially now that a girl who's been a friend of mine forever has begun to fool around with me, but I have never had a girlfriend, I don't think I have asked a girl out since I was 17. I am short 5'6, I am pretty built physically, but not toned. I am your average short built like a rock italian goombah. But I got rejected by the first four girls I ever liked enough to ask out and that has ruined me ever since. Sure sex is nice, but it comes in spurts, no meaningful relationship behind it, no love. It makes you feel hollow when you don't have someone to connect with. What sucks even more is when everyone your best friends with has a girl and when you all go out your the loser trying to pick up chicks. That is why I acquired the 'fuck it' attitude.

go meet someone you like not because of what they are but because how you like them doesnt matter what anyone else has to opinion. be yourself dont be kind or smart around her be stupid and weird. im stupid and weird and i make jokes every 3 seconds but i make people laugh but i do have a bad joke once in a while.. she should know you by the way you are and love that person if she doesnt then find another girl that will. its no problem the time will come..
nervous? yea we all get that.. i have this thing that when a girl touches my belly or a little lower i get goosebumps.. not dick but surrounding areas.. i dono i try to get over it everyone has something..

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Originally Posted by whisky

go meet someone you like not because of what they are but because how you like them doesnt matter what anyone else has to opinion. be yourself dont be kind or smart around her be stupid and weird. im stupid and weird and i make jokes every 3 seconds but i make people laugh but i do have a bad joke once in a while.. she should know you by the way you are and love that person if she doesnt then find another girl that will. its no problem the time will come..
nervous? yea we all get that.. i have this thing that when a girl touches my belly or a little lower i get goosebumps.. not dick but surrounding areas.. i dono i try to get over it everyone has something..

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That's cool man, I actually have a pretty good sense of humor too. I can tell a joke off the fly based on the current situation and have everybody in stitches.

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Why wait to get the hair lazered off? Just wax it

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Great idea man, I'm gonna try that actually.

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You need to acquire that 'fuck it' mentallity.

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Right you are! I got some medication for just that.

lol at telling yourself you have an endorphin rush!

PERCEPTION is the most important thing in the physical world,
Get your mind thinking your a ladies man!

i'm 19 turning 20 soon and am in the same shoes. after about age 17 i started becoming really nervous and shy around everyone. i blame a bad xanax addiction for fucking up the chemicals in my brain but whateva...the damage is done. i see at least 1 cute girl every day when classes are in session but i still haven't talked to one. i try, but it's like my brain and mouth freeze up. i somehow forget to breath in the middle of all this and i'm pretty sure i look retarded as hell or something when i do that. this thread has a lot of great advice but it's nothing i haven't heard or read before. i dunno, i guess some of us are just hopeless. i know i'm a pretty good lookin guy but i lack confidence so badly. blah this is just bummin me out typing this.

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Originally Posted by reprisler

i'm 19 turning 20 soon and am in the same shoes. after about age 17 i started becoming really nervous and shy around everyone. i blame a bad xanax addiction for fucking up the chemicals in my brain but whateva...the damage is done. i see at least 1 cute girl every day when classes are in session but i still haven't talked to one. i try, but it's like my brain and mouth freeze up. i somehow forget to breath in the middle of all this and i'm pretty sure i look retarded as hell or something when i do that. this thread has a lot of great advice but it's nothing i haven't heard or read before. i dunno, i guess some of us are just hopeless. i know i'm a pretty good lookin guy but i lack confidence so badly. blah this is just bummin me out typing this.

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Hey man I'm kinda in the same shoes (I'm shy around women) I think that some people are outgoing enough to transfer there confidence to everyday things like picking up women. Hey I know what boat I'm in and so do you just let shit fall together but don't let time pass you buy. Peace and Good luck.

as far as picking up girls, go ahead and throw yourself into uncomfortable situations its not healthy to avoid them. Afterwords you always feel better, even if turned down. your stronger cause u tried.

Go to the bar drinka couple beers for that back than mack on some ladies. youd be suprised on how many are down to get freaky

You can read all the adivce you like but it wont get you any where. Get yourself in some situation where youre around girls on a daily basis, persay a job. The concept of working game is stupid, just interact with them.

Dont procrastinate on it and tell yourself it just isnt the right moment to approach a girl and find reasons to justify it. The grim truth is you aint getting any prettier and the longer you go without interacting with girls the more alien theyll seem to you. Dont wait for fate, do it

My advice: apple pie.





But seriously, the only thing I can think of (and thats kept me not so self conscious about myself... not that Im dirty or anything like that, I clean my teeth twice daily, wash my face twice a day, use some nice aftershaves now and then) is that a girl will always like you for their personality. If they dont like my body, then they can fuck off, cos theres gonna be a girl somewhere that will like YOU, for YOU.

Edit - use chatrooms to practice talking to girls, that way only your personality comes out and you can swap pictures after youve built a friendship up :)