what is wrong with me??????!!!

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Originally Posted by dziendobry4

getting married at 18 is asking for disaster

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Sure got that right.

Listen, I got married at 20, and lemme tell you. If you aren't truly committed to this, you'll end up with a big mess on your hands.......you become one...not only in soul, but assets and liabilities. I married solely out of love without thinking of the consequences, and it was rough. This is a woman I still hold fondly to my heart. Our entire relationship was ruined because we moved through it so fast. You don't want to do that. Slow and steady wins the race.

You both are seriously too young. You need to spread the seed before you settle down. You gotta have fun young, you can't be tied down. I lost a year of my prime to marriage. Bleh.

Yes I agree with my friend above! I think 18-24 is too young. I think you might not have a good sense of time bc your going to be together FOREVER FOOOOOOOOOOOOOOEEEEEEEEEEEEEVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVEEEEEE EEERRRRRRRRRRR
Well Invite me to the wedding and best of luck. I'm in no way against love I feel that two ppl getting together for a long time is great, but as long as there aren't any feelings of regret.

Lol why did you propose then or say yes??

Its because of your age your not ready for it

and you have to tell her, its the right thing to do.

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Originally Posted by birdgirl73

^^^ I gotta agree with that opinion above. You're way too young to be getting committed and trying to be monogamous right now, and I agree that that's a challenge even under the best of circumstances, especially for men. You're right at that age where the urge to be with a variety of women is completely normal. I hope you have enough courage and honesty to tell your fiancee that you're not ready to be committed or married right now so you don't make a mess of that. It's a heck of a lot easier to stop the commitment train now than to get married too young, make each other's lives a living hell, complicate things further by having kids, and then tearing that family apart in the end because you got married too young. Marriage is hard enough even when you wait till you're older and you've sewn all your wild oats beforehand.

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Birdgirl, didn't you say in one thread that you got married at 22?

too young.. you havent explored your options yet. i'm in some similar situation, afraid of comitment because it might end in marriage. already? i mean long temrm things scare me!
its the same thing with work, the seniorities are leaving making me the seniority and i feel like i have to commit my life to work now that they're gone.. its scares me. i feel like i have a responsibility and a end of a bargain to live up to. scary!

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Originally Posted by cannabis=freedom

Birdgirl, didn't you say in one thread that you got married at 22?

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Yes, that is how old I was when I got married. And it was WAY too young. I should have waited another 8 or 10 years. I wasn't nearly grown up enough at 22, much less four years earlier. That's why I urge others to give it longer and spare themselves the pain of having to grow up and go through all those changes once they're already married. I speak from experience. It's much easier to just be a kid for a while longer!

Yeah, 18 is kinda young. 10 the people I graduated with are married/preggers, and all of them are miserable... Think about it...