its weird... today im like angry... just generally pissed shit turned out this way... i shot my gun out the window... i threw the garbage cans around... cant stop swearing... shits fucked up
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its weird... today im like angry... just generally pissed shit turned out this way... i shot my gun out the window... i threw the garbage cans around... cant stop swearing... shits fucked up
hope u r feelin better
Probably you're too young so far to have read much about grief or death and dying, Haze, but there was a very famous book by a woman named Elizabeth Kubler Ross more than two decades ago that first gave names to the stages of grief, which she may have listed in a different order from the way I list them here:
Sadness/depression - self-explanatory
Anger - ditto
Bargaining - thoughts like "Maybe if I take good enough care of her and make sure she sees this doctor, she won't die."
Denial - denying that someone is as sick as she/he really is or wondering if perhaps they didn't really die
Acceptance - where finally you feel at peace
People who are dying and people who have lost loved ones go in and out of these phases at different times during the grief process. Actually, people who are divorcing or going through other types of losses experience these stages, too.
Anger like you're having today is just natural and expected. You just have to make sure you don't take it out on others who don't deserve that anger. But you do have to go though that and feel it, just like you have to feel and express the depression and sadness, too. It's even natural to feel angry at times with the person who's dying or has died.
The good things about these phases is that they change, so you don't usually stick in one too long. Eventually, if you allow yourself to move through the other phases, you reach acceptance and mostly stay there, but you still feel sadness periodically, too. I'm trying to keep this all in mind as we deal with my sister's terminal illness, too, as is she.
damn
that explains it
im gonna go hit my punching bag
man
i cant fucking stand it
i miss him so much
im so fucking pissed off man
wtf did this happen for
he never committe a crime except the occasional 130 in a 55
i mean dick cheney has had 4 massive heart attacks
jesus fuckingc christ
im done with life
good bye
Ma nish ta na darlin.Quote:
Originally Posted by da haze meister
You are more then welcome my little mensch. (hee hee hee)
I hope this day has been just a little bit gentler on you and yours.
Ima gonna say it again in case you missed it in your sorrow. I'm here anytime you want to talk to somebody who went thru this same tragedy years before you. ok?
I saw earlier that you had the black button/ribbon on, you have torn it by now yes? Make sure you save it. Get a small box for "that stuff" like the kepah, ribbon,,,,,,etc.
Then, this is hard but, go to his closet and pick out something that you will still have years later when your settled down with your own family. A favorite shirt, sweater, vest, pullover and then pick out, with your mom and brother, the piece of jewlery you going to keep and pass down. Watch, ring, cufflinks...if he has an office, that's the next place to pick a memory.
You understand where I'm going? These are things that will be passed from gen to gen. ok? Take your time on this ok sweetie?
Remember....if you ever need me......just say so. (that goes for Jay too)
((((((((((hugs))))))))))
Kimmy
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Originally Posted by da haze meister
It's ok Haze. There are stages.
Right now you are at the anger stage.
It's perfectly "normal".
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No hon.........You're not done.Quote:
Originally Posted by da haze meister
You know that.
I know how hard it is. I've been through what you are going through and I STILL AM going through it.
It doesn't stop overnight.
This is the single hardest thing you will ever have to face. (At least til you become a parent)
I wish I could help........................:(
who cares.
shut the fuck up you bitch made douchebag.Quote:
Originally Posted by mojoke
there got that out.