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Man, I cant think of a worse feeling. I am so sorry you have to be the adult. The deal is ADULTS dont go around kickin ass, they find solutions to live with. Juvie wouldnt get you anywhere, and thats the only place violence will take you, it wont solve your problem, although I do understand it may make you feel better at the moment.
I used to be a foster parent and have seen this crap up close and personal, I truly wish you the best.
Thats why men and women are different 40 posts of mindless violence from men then a female comes along and says something that makes more sense.Quote:
Originally Posted by ladyM
You should be on a talk show, "The World's Most Resonsible Children". That takes a lot out of you i'm sure. Keep on keeping on, man. If your cousin doesn't back down after your ass-whooping, tell him you got some gangsters in Houston ready to bust a cap in his mark-ass. Fucking crack-heads.Quote:
Originally Posted by DjSkizzle
Dealer sells. Buyer buys. Eliminate need and eliminate supply. Methinks you've been watching too many propaganda ads to be so quick to jump on a "dealer".
It's more like the difference between 11 year olds on message boards and the rest of society.Quote:
Originally Posted by Whos Carl
It's his fucking cousin, man! If your cousin was selling meth to your mom who would you take it out on? I know I'd beat the shit out of my cousin. He should have decency to respect his cousins wish and not feed his mothers, obviously out-of-hand addiction. Don't get me wrong. His mother needs some stern punishment, too. Pimp slap her. That should get the message across...hopefully.Quote:
Originally Posted by lemonboy
I agree with LadyM, but also here comes my masculine side saying you should at least hit in the face! :p
I don't think anyone would blame the dealer if he was a 40 year old half dead man cooking meth on his P.o.S. stove in his trailer.Quote:
Originally Posted by lemonboy
Such is not the case.
His COUSIN, is selling METH, to his MOTHER.
Since you're teaching us basic supply and demand skills ((in a very assholish manner I should add)) I'll teach you some basic math skills.
COUSIN - METH = MOTHER + METH
COUSIN + HANDLING_THE_SITUATION = MOTHER - METH
If his mom doesn't have any other place to get meth than his cousin who is clearly willing to take advantage of anyone ((including family)) for personal gain, than stop the cousin from dealing the meth to his mother. It could be a simpler solution for kid taking care of his mother than trying to put her in rehab so that he can end up in a foster home.
Or did you not think?
:)
But it isn't a child's job to take care of a parent like that. They don't have the capacity to. If this isn't her first time using then obviously something didn't work out the first time she quit. Get her somewhere that has experience dealing with addiction.Quote:
Originally Posted by ADaisyChain
As for the cousin, he is still a dealer who's primary goal is to make money. I don't know any dealer... black, white, poor, rich, fat, skinny, purple... that would turn down a customer with money. I don't see how he is taking advantage of anyone when everyone goes home happy. To spin it otherwise is a bit hypocritical considering this is a drug site. The relationships are semantical.
My "assholish manner" was directed at the guys advocating beating people with baseball bats. Otherwise I think it is a sad situation that should be handled by professionals.
Your right I suppose, at least in the sense that it's not a child's place to take care of his parent. Sadly, this is already the case with him. I think it's better he take care of his mom than have someone with no love for him taking care of him.. especially since he's already had to fill those shoes, it becomes hard to take them off. ((it's hard to take away a person's freedom when you've already given it to them))
As for a dealer never turning down a customer, that's why people here are advocating baseball bats ((though too extreme)) because when the cousin realizes that he will be beat within an inch of his life if he ever sells to the kids mom again.. he'll learn how to turn down a customer with money.
He said his mom was mentally ill, and she has a kid. Everyone may go home happy initially, but the kid will not be happy. And professionals don't know how to handle situations like these sadly, I'm not sure anyone really does though. In most cases they just remove the child from the inadequate parent even if she was loving. This is a big mistake in alot of cases. They should impart help and stuff like that for the parent, but not just remove them from the kids life as too often happens. ((okay I can't really say too often, but this is what happened to my friend dan when his mom and step dad got caught making meth in their truck. He was forced to live with his real dad and not see his mom, and while his real dad isn't a meth-head, he's an abusive drunken asshole living in a dirty 1 room apartment.. dan was doing alot better with his meth addicted parents.))
Anyway, violence probably isn't the solution, I'll give you that. There's probably a way to find the same results without it anyway. Threatening to rat him out could do the trick, and teling him that if he does anything stupid he has friends who are all willing to rat on him as well.
I just think the cousin needs to lose a customer.
professionals? fuck that shit i am the mo fuckin' professional, and i thank everyone who replyed to my post.. it is now 11:01am i have just woken up, and now to start my day of smoking weed and beating up crackheads = )Quote:
Originally Posted by lemonboy
no dont take her to AA. the success rate of AA is actually only 5%. guess what the success rate of quitting with out AA is, yep, 5%. It is a waste of time.Quote:
Originally Posted by trentonpolk
Um. Two guys said that before her, and at least one female agreed with the violence.Quote:
Originally Posted by Whos Carl
Owned. :cool:
Ok going down and kicking his ass if a bad idea. Why? Well easy, he can just retaliate. You could end up getting a bigger beating then you give him. Besides it was your mothers choice to buy the stuff in the first place so get pissed at her, you cousin is only the middle man who sells it. Oh and btw you can get into so much shit for putting your mother in lockdown. Lets see you stold her car her atm her credit cards, yep not looking good. Your better off talking to her about it and if she don't listen...well you have a few choices to make, call the cops on her or learn to live with it. I'd be pissed to, so I see why your mad but think of the outcomes of your own actions, don't fuck your life up because your mother and cousin.
Although A former foster parent, I do not advocate the childrens services agencies. I would hope there is at least one adult somewhere that you could trust to help you. Foster care is not always the answer, but unfortunately that is usually the results especially if violence is involved. Is there anyone you can turn to that will help you, not just call child. & youth serv. ? Getting an adult addict help is a hell of a lot harder than it is said! The relationship with your mom is obviously important to you, stay out of trouble yourself so you can be with her. You are a minor, like it or not and no matter how much responsibility has been dumped on you. It is the hardest thing a preson can go through to watch someone you love slowly destroy themselves. Please let reason prevail! I cant say it enough, keep your ass out of trouble and youll be able to stay there and help, kick his ass and youll end up in juvie and foster care where you cant do a damn thing.
I have had you on my mind since I read your post yesterday, I hope you can maintain, man. My thoughts remain with you.