Post about your current relationships

There is a positive to every negative;)
I see it like this, "weeding out" the negative elements in ones life is like a manual way of producing a positve environment. As human beings, our emotional intelligence, is the toughest to master, as it seems to interact inconsistently, in the brain.
Which brings me to my next thread::D "8 types of intelligence?" (checkitoutnow,funksoulbrother....:stoned:)


PS: Why cant it be fun for you to find a guy? The fun should be in the excitement that you're one step closer to finding the right guy for you, and having the pure freedom to be alone or with him, or him or even the other guy! I'm not saying be a whore, but being a beautiful person should make it easy to find men who would gladly take you to a restaraunt you've never been, or some other "fun" kinda date. I do give you props aswell for your attitude ie. forgiveness. Its never easy to look BACK with regret or grudge.
KEEP takin' care:D

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Originally Posted by Chronisseur

I see it like this, "weeding out" the negative elements in ones life is like a manual way of producing a positve environment

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I like this, it's like breeding out undesirable traits in a plant.

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Originally Posted by Chronisseur

As human beings, our emotional intelligence, is the toughest to master, as it seems to interact inconsistently, in the brain.

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Does it ever. Logically, it's a no brainer. Emotionally, it's a really hard decision!

Lol @ a restaurant I've never been to... I spend about 90% of my disposable income on my restaurant habit- total foodie- it's a serious problem!!!

I don't know, it just doesn't seem like fun to me because I'm so used to expecting a disastrous ending to a new relationship as soon as it begins!

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Originally Posted by stinkyattic

I like this, it's like breeding out undesirable traits in a plant.

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NO!...Stinky, keep it simple. YOU ARE THE PLANT!:D
But again, that reinforces my idea, well not MY idea but THE idea of it being so much easier, even with the seeming emotional attachment you have to the plant, to LOGICALLY do whatever is neccesary to create the BEST possible environment for her.


If that didnt make sense, sorry! Here: (ifIwereaplant) I'd rather grow alone, than get "BURNED" by Miracle Grow. If Fox(xy) Farm was introduced, I would be happy and well nourished;);)




...I entertain myself:D

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Originally Posted by Chronisseur

If Fox(xy) Farm was introduced, I would be happy and well nourished;);)
...I entertain myself:D

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You entertain me as well Chron.

my current relationship is with...

hey im only 18 and its no fun!!! i fucking hate it
i need somone new NOW! lol

I have a few irons in the fire..but I am moving slower than mollases...cause that is how I like to do it.

ive never had a 'relationship'

but then again I have. jst some other kind of relationships.

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Originally Posted by stinkyattic

You entertain me as well Chron.

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...Like a Jester;)

took a new girl to the drive in last night...it was cool...but she really is not my type

i'm 17 and a senior, so im pretty much goin nuts right now. throughout the mess of random activities meet-ups I've found a girl who is so much like me. keep in mind this isn't really a relationship, but just a girl and I who have gotten close. we go to different schools of our county, but we go to all eachothers school parties together so its great now. the first time we really connected was at a field party when it started pouring outside. we escaped into my suv, and folded in the middle seat to sleep, but we ended up not sleeping much at all haha. as a guy im not tryin to sound homo, but it was incredibly romantic, easilly the best night of my life. we're both blondes and she thinks is cute.

just thought i'd give my situation guys! hope all urs are goin great.

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Originally Posted by stinkyattic

Good one Grazi.
Would you consider your love affair with Mary more of a platonic, romantic, or agape nature?

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I love my sweet wife with an all-encompassing love, as I feel she nurtures me in all facets. There is no one form of love stronger than the other with her.. it all intermingles and competes, but none ever win out.

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Originally Posted by thcbongman

Anyway, I am not in a relationship, but in love with someone across the ocean! She was doing an internship for school, but the first day I saw her, I had the hugest crush on her, I thought she was so beautiful. Little did I know, she felt the same way. 2 months passed by, we were so shy to talk to each other, and didn't think we were interested in each other. With a little nudging from a co-worker, 4 days before she went back home, I just kissed her, and everything fell into place, I spent the best 4 days of my life with her. How everything happened, it's so magical.

We talk everyday still, and learning about each other more! It makes me fall in love with her more. I'm visiting her in 4 months, and I simply can't wait to see her!

Even though she's not here, and I miss her, she makes me feel alive and strong. I never been so happy in my life.

It really sounds kinda dumb, but it feels so right!

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Hell yeah dude thats some awesome shit right there.. movie material, wheres she from??

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Originally Posted by BlAzInIt4:20

IM single.. and i feel very lonly at night when i ly in bed alone..

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That is the only way of sleeping that I know.. maybe thats why I dont sleep.... and why I sleep with weapons all around me. And why I will wake in an instant with them ready to go. My sweet Mary knows how to put me to sleep though... at times. I usually try to stay away and enjoy her as much as possible because when she puts me out, she puts me OUT lol.

^^sleeping on the floor doesnt help eithr ;) LOL

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Originally Posted by 420MissHighTimes420

^^sleeping on the floor doesnt help eithr ;) LOL

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haha who knows? If Im sleepin by myself Im not really sleepin anyways lol... I dont even know if one medium is better than another. Now if Im sharin the bed with somebody... thats a different story.

Well I been with my woman now for a solid year as of this friday. We've had some great and bad times. She also helps me grow which is a plus. I dunno its been cool still havent decided yet if she is the one.

I also have two ex's who stay in contact like waiting for this relationship to screw up cause in some weird twisted way their still obsessed over me which I dunno why in all seriousness but hey guess we'll see what happens

congratz on yuor one year!

I've been with my girl for a little over 3 months now. We hit it off pretty much instantly and, although we've only been together for a few months, we have had a LOT of good times.

I wanna be in love...but at the same time I wanna have fun and not be in a monogamous relationship...I figure when that special girl comes into my life it will happen and I will know it...then we will just take life as it comes to us...I just wanna girl that is into having fun, going places, spontaneous but at the same time responsible...loves life and the creatures upon this earth..some other stuff that I cant think of...cause I just drank some whiskey...yuk..smoked a few bowls of some mids that has no name...and my mind is a scramble right now...maybe it will be better in the next post...then I think to myself maybe this girl is in my life and I do not know it...that would definitely be interesting.

I just want to be alone and with friends.

Does that make sense?

Single, and lovin' it.

good for u girl. Now dont break too many harts.

Well, mine just officially ended moments ago...

Stinky weren't you dating the yeag....Iv been gone for a minute.

i just got married at the end of march
we are happy especially since our house will be done next week

Been married 22 years this year. Looking forward to at least as many more.

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Originally Posted by birdgirl73

I'm married and have been for 23 years, almost 24. It's a good and loving relationship, and it's gotten better and easier over the years. . . . . I haven't been as attentive a wife as I wish I had been in recent weeks, and I feel guilty about that. This has been a strange summer for me. Dave, if you read this, I love you very much. Thank you for putting up with me!

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In three weeks, we'll have been married for 24 years, and I'm looking forward to 30 or 40 more. I can't imagine my life without you, baby. I love you more than you know. Thank you for putting up with me.

I love the Birds (Byrds?)... you guys are great. Happy anniversary!

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Originally Posted by Dave Byrd

In three weeks, we'll have been married for 24 years, and I'm looking forward to 30 or 40 more. I can't imagine my life without you, baby. I love you more than you know. Thank you for putting up with me.

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Feelin' the love:D


Congratulations on a beautiful relationship!:thumbsup:


Hey Stink! How'd you sneak that post in FRONT of me?

Super powers....

Are YOU stalkin' ME? Or am I stalkin' YOU?:wtf:

...lol Chk.ya'mail:D

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Originally Posted by Delta.9

Well, mine just officially ended moments ago...

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What happened?:(

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Originally Posted by Chronisseur

What happened?:(

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It's a long story, but I ended it because it had been 2 years and we weren't meshing. I don't want to be in a serious, committed relationship with someone if we're not working out. :(

I wrote out whole long post in another one of my forums, and would be glad to post it up here, but I don't want to steal the spotlight away from this thread.

Really bummed though because I love the chick, she loves me, we both know this, but we just aren't compatible. :rolleyes:

This thread is FOR you to "POST ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIPS":thumbsup:

Go ahead and post it! Maybe someone could give you a helpful view of things.

Well...if you insist.

I'm usually the one giving advice on relationships, but obviously I wasn't taking my own advice. If I had been, I would've ended things a lot sooner with her. After 2 years of on and off "relations" I finally threw in the towel on Tuesday. I still love her, but I had to end things because I was not accepting the fact that we just weren't compatible...we were toxic together. The thing that sucks so bad about this is that we both love one another, without a doubt. It's just that we are not compatible. It's like two positively charged magnets who want to be together, but can't.

I'm really bummed about this and just wanted to get it off my chest. I knew this day would come, but was delaying the inevitable. Now that it's here, I have to deal with it and I'm not too happy about it. I could always reach out to her and try to work things out, but I know deep down that it never will. It's hard to keep myself from reaching out to her. I know it's only been a few days, but numerous times I've had to stop myself from calling, emailing, texting...

We are compatible in many ways, which is why we were able to get so far into a relationship. But, (and this is my opinion alone, doesn't make it true or right) there are 2 main things that I feel compatability comes into play with. The first one is that persons interests, hobbies, likes dislikes etc. The second is her personality, how she handles situations, is she realistic or emotional, is she open or closed to accepting other perspectives. With my ex, we were highly compatible in the first sense. But when it came to the second we never could see eye to eye. She is VERY emotional and reacts off of her emotions. I am an emotional person too, but I don't react off of them (with few exceptions) and like to analyze things from a realistic and logic perspective. Therefor, when we would argue, our perspectives were completely different. Not that that in itself is a bad thing, but what made it impossible to deal with was her stubbornness. She would dig her feet in and would absolutely be unwilling to see anything other than her own perspective. I tried on many different occassions to talk her through this, very carefully, without any hostility or nastiness and it would always end up turning into an argument rather than a discussion.

The only thing that really bugs me now is that if she really cared about me as much as I know she "could" then she would take down the wall she has build from all of the trials and tribulations from her childhood and past. She had a fawked up childhood and as much as I empathize with her on that, there comes a time when you have to grow up from that stuff and stop letting it affect yourself as a person. She won't even admit she has issues, which is a BIG red flag to me. God damn stubborness!!!!!

I tried to work with her on the things she doesn't like about me and my dislikes with her. But when it came to sink or swim...well look where I'm at now. I did what she needed, she couldn't give me what I needed...stability and openness. Now it's just a matter of accepting the way things are which is really hard to do. I'm not looking forward to this...

Thanks for listening to my ramblings

Well, be thankful for the knowledge you've displayed in your post. Being able to see those fine lines and then deal with them accordingly, shows you how you DIRECTLY control your life. It is a gift, many are not blessed with to differentiate emotion from logic. Stay strong, and I'm sure you'll find a woman to "justify" this down the road!

(good post, well worded~!)

Aww hey Delta9, you gave it the best you could it sounds like- and you have learned a lot about yourself, relationships, your needs too I'll bet.
Chin up.

Thanks Chronisseur and stinkyattic. I am glad to "see the light" but I'm really sad and miss her a lot. She was my best friend and we did everything together. It's not the end of the world and I'll be ok, I just hate dealing with the aftermath of relationships. 99% of them come to an end at some point and there is always the pain and loneliness to deal with. I almost feel like the saying "it is better to have love and lost, than to have not loved at all" is untrue. :(

I understand COMPLETELY!
I hate to sound arrogant but being me and single hasnt been easy in the past but before my last relationship of 4-5 hellish months, I had decided to be alone for the rest of my life. I went from 21-24 entirely alone, learning about myself and feeling better off than having to worry about the end of another relationship. At this point, still, it would take an AMAZING person to make the potential heart-ache, worth it!

Ugh! I swear Chron, things just aren't the same as they used to be when our parents were growing up. Back then, there weren't so many distractions and opportunities to keep people from giving 100% of themselves to someone else. I have an old soul, yet I'm only 25 so it's hard for me to put up with this crap. And to be honest, I really don't. This girl was an exception up until recently. I guess my point is that it was easier to devote ourselves to our partner because relationships, honor, respect, dignity all of that stuff was held in higher regard. Nowadays it's "what are you gonna do for me?", "how can I benefit from you?", "I think I'll cheat on him for this guy because...", etc etc. I think you get the point.