I'm sick of the bullshit.

i used to think like gandalf, and it got me no where and with no pussy and fast. lol i met this girl that lived close to my cuz and i fell in love with here. and i was 12 and i did everything i could think of to get her attention. and she would'nt even respond. i mean i didn't do crazy shit or nothin but i'd write her love letters and slip them into her locker.. and mail her cards and stuff like
that.

and she hung out with people like me not like she was some great thing but she was to me. and i kept that up ti'll i was 20. i never dated anyone and yes i was a virgin. and never had a girl friend i mean i had girls askin me out alot of them. cause i did hang around sum fine girls but i was (in my mind anyways lol)saving myself for this girl.

so when i was around 16 i had saved my money and my dad and i went to colorado and i bought sum land up in the mountains. and was gonna stay there but i fucked up and moved back to where i was cause i thought i'd have a chance with her. and when i got back she was with this loser of a guy. and she looked rough lmao and i was like fuck i wasted my whole life waiting on this girl for nothing....then i went out and found sum pussy....it was good...i like...lmao

I just wanna say, most of you girls are alike. You all go for the total low life asshole guys, but the good guys, the ones who will treat you right are usually sitting there with you listening to you vent about this type of shit in real life, listening to everything you say. Look around.

Not all guys are like that obviously, but that sucks. You'll find the right guy soon enough, just keep looking.

Another problem is I keep giving the same ones chance after chance... I'm a sucker for a sweettalker/asshole.

You should just ignore them completely after you break up with them, with time you'll forget all about them, especially if they're huge assholes which is what it sounds like.

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Originally Posted by baisez le monde.

Another problem is I keep giving the same ones chance after chance... I'm a sucker for a sweettalker/asshole.

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A man who treats you nicely, while also being an asshole? That's me alright. Some of that stuff is funny though, and just all in good humor. You should have known what you were getting into with me. Perhaps I am a typical guy? I could accept that, because only when I do so can I begin to learn and grow from it. Not only do I want another chance, Kayla, but I need another chance. I'm throwing myself at you and all you do is doubt me. Let me show you that I can love unconditionally. The weather wont always be sunshine, but at least we can be for eachother's sake.

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Originally Posted by baisez le monde.

Another problem is I keep giving the same ones chance after chance... I'm a sucker for a sweettalker/asshole.

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It's me she's talking about! Someone around here is bound to know of a few good qualities I possess, along with a few unwelcome ones that I don't.

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Glad it works for you, just wait until you realize your with her for the rest of your life, or what if your not sexually compatible? Props on it working for you but for about 95% of males it doesn't. Call it shallow, childish, and living in high school but it is embedded in the male brain to reproduce and have many sexual partners for the growth of the species. Learn human nature buddy.

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I dont really know how old you are, but I would guess youre still in High School. If youre gonna be so bold as to speak for 95% of the male population, go ahead and add some references to back your statistical data up.

Learn human nature? From what Ive gathered of Gandalf after reading many of his posts, he has quite the dynamic and intuitive grasp on the nature of the human being.. its habits, thought processes, and psychological traits. While you on the other hand seem to think that 95% of the male population on this planet think exactly like you.

Now who needs to learn what?

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It's me she's talking about! Someone around here is bound to know of a few good qualities I possess, along with a few unwelcome ones that I don't.

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I know you want to be built like a ninja lol :p but nah from what Ive read of your posts and all, I think youre a good dude. All men can be assholes, in the same way that all women have quite the ability to be a bitch from time to time (or more often, depending..).

That being said, I really dont know much at all about the relationship, but I dont think you fall into the asshole/jock/mindless POS category at all.

girl ALL u need is a fuck buddy, a good dog and a fat bag o weed. has worked for me for years.

I am nice a nice guy but Im telling the truth as it is and expressing how I feel. If you wish to call me an asshole then go ahead. I'd rather be an asshole and not be taking advantage of then to be a really nice guy and having them walking all over me. And truthfully I am kinda getting sick of being a nice person. Sometimes I wish I was an asshole.

Some girls are great!!! Fun to talk too and being around, respectful and always helping you out with any problems that you have BUT those are the rarest girls I ever see. I run into more bitches than the kind hearted and I believe thats not cool.

NOW.... with the topic that baisez le monde posted, yes some men are assholes too. I know of many that would hurt there gf's feelings by cheating on them. Fucking them and saying bye bye while that girl is willing to be in a serious relationship. Thats what gets me so angry because the ones that are assholes get the girls and the ones that are really nice and careful end up getting rejected and feeling hurt.

I'm still sticking to my tried-and-true method of being a nice guy and having a clean conscience so I can sleep at night, even if it doesn't get me any sack action.

it's funny to me how most of the guys are saying that most girls choose assholes. like we do it on purpose LOL.

i can only speak for myself, but i've never purposefully gone after a guy who treated me like shit. but some guys are like wolves in sheep's clothing. they'll make you think he's the most perfect guy on earth and then turn around and fuck you over like it's nothing.

like what happened to me: the last guy i made the mistake of dealing with was honestly, let's just say...not very attractive and people would always be like, "why are you with him you could do better..." but i didn't care b/c i thought he was one of the good ones and i became attracted to him through his personality. little did i know that he was faking the whole nice guy act b/c he thought it would get me in bed. it didn't (i play the waiting game too!) so he ended up doing a complete 180 and turned into this asshole and talking shit about me all the time just because he didn't get what he wanted.

all i'm saying is, if half these dudes showed their true colors from the beginning, they wouldnt be getting anywhere. they do the old bait-and-switch and by that time the girl is probably already madly in love with him when he shows her what he's really like.

so because of that bad experience should i change my whole personality and become a "bad girl" so i'll never experience that again or chalk it up to another life lesson and move on, knowing that people get what they deserve in the end?

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it's funny to me how most of the guys are saying that most girls choose assholes. like we do it on purpose LOL.

i can only speak for myself, but i've never purposefully gone after a guy who treated me like shit. but some guys are like wolves in sheep's clothing. they'll make you think he's the most perfect guy on earth and then turn around and fuck you over like it's nothing.

like what happened to me: the last guy i made the mistake of dealing with was honestly, let's just say...not very attractive and people would always be like, "why are you with him you could do better..." but i didn't care b/c i thought he was one of the good ones and i became attracted to him through his personality. little did i know that he was faking the whole nice guy act b/c he thought it would get me in bed. it didn't (i play the waiting game too!) so he ended up doing a complete 180 and turned into this asshole and talking shit about me all the time just because he didn't get what he wanted.

all i'm saying is, if half these dudes showed their true colors from the beginning, they wouldnt be getting anywhere. they do the old bait-and-switch and by that time the girl is probably already madly in love with him when he shows her what he's really like.

so because of that bad experience should i change my whole personality and become a "bad girl" so i'll never experience that again or chalk it up to another life lesson and move on, knowing that people get what they deserve in the end?

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Why do men pull that whole "bait and switch?" Could it be that women rely on sex so much that they sort of drop out of the entire relationship, and think to themselves, "he only wants sex?" It's probable. You ladies say it all the time, maybe you all just started believing it? I'm not going to keep a woman around just for sex. You fall in love with a guy by what he does, either for you or general behavior (personality). I make an effort to be as sweet, caring, and nurturing, because my love deserves that. I couldn't see my love turning sour. I wouldn't let my thoughts take hold of my passion to impress with forever love.

Douchebagness - noun - 1. someone who cheats and expects no consequences; an asshole or liar

Folks, I had to do some cleanup up above. We had a post that communicated some expressions of violence, and that won't fly no matter who those expressions are directed at, men or women.

Easy on the sweeping generalizations, those of you who've made those or had those in your posts that were deleted. Anyone with sense knows that one gender or another isn't all bad or all good. Individual people come in all types. Please make sure you acknowledge that fact and avoid posting "screw all XXs/YYs" type of sentiment.

I will now let this thread proceed, although I confess I'm beginning to have reservations about doing that. Don't make me sorry I'm leaving it open.

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Individual people come in all types. Please make sure you acknowledge that fact and avoid posting "screw all XXs/YYs" type of sentiment..

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Uh oh!!!! YY? The genetic offspring that would result 25% of the time if you crossed 2 MALES? :D hee hee hee

Hello Birdgirl..thanks for cleaning up that mess...all i got to say about all of this is...I dont know...hopefully one day I will..I just want a cool, down to earth lady that I can be open and communicate about anything, one that I desire and want and one that wants to go places and do cool shit with me...
Who knows where the hell I was going with this...

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Uh oh!!!! YY? The genetic offspring that would result 25% of the time if you crossed 2 MALES? :D hee hee hee

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That was a bad genetic slip of the keyboard, wasn't it?? Unconsciously made. But funny! My apologies to the genetic accidents of the world and to haploid and diploid chromosomes everywhere. . . .

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That was a bad genetic slip of the keyboard, wasn't it?? Unconsciously made. But funny! My apologies to the genetic accidents of the world

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No problem, I forgive ya....:D

Have a good one!:jointsmile:

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Hello Birdgirl..thanks for cleaning up that mess...all i got to say about all of this is...I dont know...hopefully one day I will..I just want a cool, down to earth lady that I can be open and communicate about anything, one that I desire and want and one that wants to go places and do cool shit with me...
Who knows where the hell I was going with this...

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You're going to meet her, Geonagual. She's out there, and she will be totally blown away by you when you find her. I'm certain of it. I can think of few people I know who're more deserving of such easy communcation, affection, and common interests.

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The opposite sex.

Can't live with 'em, can't shoot 'em.

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Sure you can......shoot 'em that is. :D

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You're going to meet her, Geonagual. She's out there, and she will be totally blown away by you when you find her. I'm certain of it. I can think of few people I know who're more deserving of such easy communcation, affection, and common interests.

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Birdgirl, I love you:)

I swear, what would we do without her

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I just want a cool, down to earth lady that I can be open and communicate about anything, one that I desire and want and one that wants to go places and do cool shit with me...

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Hey, just keep on doin' what yer doin'. Cool down to earth people will always find others like them. It's simply a matter of time and circumstance.

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Hey, just keep on doin' what yer doin'. Cool down to earth people will always find others like them. It's simply a matter of time and circumstance.

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I can't wait till I find her, cause I miss her already..but I am not settling for shit this time..I will definitly not be a loveless marriage again..life is way to short..

I love you too stinky....thanks for everything..
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