my current situation

np, but sumthing that might help... Still be with her, go back to living with your parents (So they can provide for you) and find a job ASAP, doing anything possible (maybe give plasma or seman?). As you get a job you give her all u got to help her, once stuff starts lvling out go back living with her. Because (no offence of course) You living with her is just using up her money to feed you and such right?

Just one quick solution.

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Originally Posted by Billionfold

I'm still waiting for the punch line.
Is this it?

All jokes aside, that's a messed up situation man. You can't just try to get a job, you have to get a job. It's either that or you get separated. A man has to do what a man has to do. You'll do it if she is "the one".

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He didn't say whether he might be responsible for the (possible) pregnancy.

This kid has to get out of there, fast. The woman is still married to a violent individual that is paying the rent for her and their children, and the reaction of the husband is not going to be pretty if he shows up unannounced. If sheâ??s pregnant by the kid, I wouldnâ??t even want to imagine what could happen. The husband lives in Arizona - where getting guns is easy.

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You make a good point, but if the man is in love then what can we say to stop him?

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He asked for advice?

The girl's husband lives in Arizona - where getting guns is easy.

I've survived enough crazy situations to last ten lifetimes. Sex is not worth getting killed for. Even if that wasn't a risk, and it may not be, this relationship is doomed.

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I didn't say your advice wasn't wise, I'm saying that if he truly loves this woman then there isn't much anyone can say to make him leave her.

Love will make people do things that would make others gasp or guffaw. I think he is looking for advice that would help him stay with her.

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Better that someone older shoots it straight to him here, and wises him up, than his having to deal with the possible alternatives that I mentioned.

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Originally Posted by Breukelen advocaat

Better that someone older shoots it straight to him here, and wises him up, than his having to deal with the possible alternatives that I mentioned.

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You are right. No doubt about it.

But the kid is in love and nothing we say will change that.

I feel for him.

mirvana: Good luck. You are going to need it.

mirvana, i have no advise but just want to wish you the best of luck buddy and hope everything works out good for you:jointsmile:

don't take this the wrong way but you have to realize that this "love" you have for her is temporary, maybe you're at the climax now where its hardest to get your bearings. its like being lost at sea with all the pot in the world. you would kill to be where you are but sooner or later you're gonna get the munchies for something else. when that happens you'll be much more eager to find solid ground.

if you're 18 then you probably haven't had very many serious relationships and while you think you can be as mature as you need to be to support her you will get worn out and feel cheated somewhere down the line.

look for something more promising. when you're 'in love' like that, consider yourself as blind as a tree, and you'll probably react as fast too.:D


sorry to be a downer. get your life together and things will be mucho better.

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Put out the joint, go back to your parents', get a GED, find a job, get an apartment and forget the girl.

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That may sound mean, but I agree with it 100%. Your only 18, I understand you love her, but sometimes that isn't enough. If you haven't even gotten your GED, you won't be able to many jobs. Most likely you will be washing dishes, waiting tables, fast food, store clerk, or some other crappy and poorly paid job.

Her kids aren't your reponsibilty and you are to young to be involved with a women who is still technically married to another man. Leave that to the men in there 30's. Not to mention he is paying for you to live with his wife! It sounds like a situation that can blow up at any minute.

My best advice is to heed Breuk, move in with your parents, get your GED, find a job, and than maybe meet with her for coffee if you so choose. I'm not saying it is an easy thing to do, but it sounds like the smartest...

Unfortunately if she is pregnant with your kid, you are in a different situation than the one above.

Sorry but,,, you just sound like you moved in on someones turf...

omfg i am dead serious this is the exact situation my uncles in to the T.. honestly it's like u are wrighting a book on him instead of the places where u said florida and ohio.. it's florida and newfoundland and she is 25 and he is 18 and she has 2 kids and a house that she might get evicted from because she cant pay the rent... oh my god lol.. theres only 2 words in your whole story that is differnt from my uncles situation.. (ohio and the other husband) even more ironic she did just get devorced from her husband b4 my uncle mooved in..

this is crazy lol.. he is dealing with it pretty bad to as he is trying to quit doing drugs.. and the kids she has are 2 daughters age 5 and 7 no joke, just tell me do your name start with a d ? lmao

this is incrediably insane.. it's like u r trying to wright a book :O