Problem. Mostly looking for Ladies opinions.

i would suggest an appology. the not knowing her statement was a harsh and painful one. be gentle, and sincere. tell her that you love her and that you want to make her happy; then she may be more apt to talk...

Your suggestion makes sense for a normal girlfriend. But my special lady will say if you want me to be happy then leave it alone. She looks for every turn around point to try and get an issue she doesn't want to talk about dropped. But how can I let her carry this on her own?

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Originally Posted by 1chronic

Your suggestion makes sense for a normal girlfriend. But my special lady will say if you want me to be happy then leave it alone. She looks for every turn around point to try and get an issue she doesn't want to talk about dropped. But how can I let her carry this on her own?

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I have my own painful childhood issues.... and it took a LONG time for me to open up about it (even now, there are only a small handful of people that know). Point is this: As badly as you want to help her, you simply can't even she isn't ready. This is her issue, and wanting to share it with her is extremely kind, but it's her decision that you need to respect and try not to take it personally.

If you see that her life is suffering in anyway because she won't open up, perhaps she would consider talking to a therapist in private... someone who doesn't know her.... that will be confidential..... and she can start to gain strength that way?

I'm sorry that she is going through this.... whatever happened has left her feeling embarrassed/angry/scared/ashamed...... or something... so she needs to first take the blame off of herself whatever the case was.

I wish you both well...... good luck. :)

Thanks. I don't think she blames herself, I think she just wants the hurt to go away on it's own and it won't. But it's still a tough decision.

i wouldnt push her to tell u anything, but what ever she thinks about pot isnt the problem, its most likely her way of putting a hate on the situation, talk to her tell her its not the weed thats the probelm its the person using it.

Chronic.....I think you need to learn to listen. And once you actually hear her NO (again!).....respect it. Not to sound too harsh, but I honestly don't see you doing either one.