young parents irresponsible?

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Originally Posted by notransfer

' now you want me to speculate about what you do...'
- max cherry, jackie brown

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yeah but im from the rez an my tribe gives its members money (revenue from tha casino) minors get $3,000 every 3 months and once i turn 18 or get married i'll be gettin $2,500 every 2 weeks

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Originally Posted by notransfer

howd you buy a house at 16..? im just wondering...what kinda bomb job did you have?

but in regards to the thread i agree with slip..some young are much better than some old...subjective

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I talked to his mom and got her to put it in her name. we took care of the down payment and all monthly payments. we also added an addition to the back of our house and built out the master bedromm and re did the whole kitchen, she just got our mortgage increased. we all agree the house is ours so well change the name when we get around to it.

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Originally Posted by Chronic Chrissy

I talked to his mom and got her to put it in her name. we took care of the down payment and all monthly payments. we also added an addition to the back of our house and built out the master bedromm and re did the whole kitchen, she just got our mortgage increased. we all agree the house is ours so well change the name when we get around to it.

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thats basically exactly what i was going to do, but if we get married we're both getting $2,500 every 2 weeks instead of $3,000 every 3 months and i can actually put the house in my name instead of getting sum1 ta put it in their name

I think there are probably 15-year-olds in existence who can be very responsible parents, just like there are 15-year-olds who can be responsible babysitters or students or employees. But in the case of parenting, they're definitely usually at a disadvantage just because they're not as emotionally mature, intellectually developed or financially secure as they will be later on. I've seen kids make very irresponsible decisions that result in their becoming pregnant and having a baby before they're ready who then become very responsible parents after the child is born.

It's been my experience that the most highly responsible 15-year-olds of all are usually wise enough to either postpone sexual activity till later or take the necessary steps to prevent accidental pregnancy in the first place.

I think there's a time in your life when you're just...ready..but no specific age, because like birdgirl and others, it depends on the person. But in most cases, a young mother thinks she is ready and is not, and is then overwhelmed and gives up on things that seem out of reach and require a lot of work and shit. BUT then there's mommy's like chrissy who come along and show us that with a little effort (and maybe some good luck?), you can get far and accomplish shit.

I dunno, my high ass is rambling I guess.

that rez thing is SICKKKK

I think young parents can be responsible. My sister had a kid at 15, she takes good care of him and all, but every since she had the kid, shes been a total bitch. I think it has alot to do with her boyfriend though. Ive beat the bricks off that mofucker twice for runnin his mouth to my moms. ANyways, responsible, possibly.

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Originally Posted by BabyFacedAbortion

I think there's a time in your life when you're just...ready..but no specific age, because like birdgirl and others, it depends on the person. But in most cases, a young mother thinks she is ready and is not, and is then overwhelmed and gives up on things that seem out of reach and require a lot of work and shit. BUT then there's mommy's like chrissy who come along and show us that with a little effort (and maybe some good luck?), you can get far and accomplish shit.

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I pretty much agree with BabyFace. While there will always be cases of exceptional young mothers, I would imagine that the vast majority of young (15-17) mothers are simply not preparared. I know what I was like when I was 15 and ther is no way in hell I could have been a good parent at that age. In fact, my wife and I waited until I was 34 and she was 31 before deciding to have a child, simply because we wanted to wait until we were both emotionally and financially capable of giving a child the best life possible.

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Originally Posted by birdgirl73

It's been my experience that the most highly responsible 15-year-olds of all are usually wise enough to either postpone sexual activity till later or take the necessary steps to prevent accidental pregnancy in the first place.

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I was pretty much thinking along the same lines birdgirl. I would think that getting pregnant at 15 is a good indication of a person's responsibility or, more specifically, lack of.

Despite my general opinion of 15yo mothers, there are two key points I should make

-While I may think it's irresponsible for a 15yo girl to get pregnant, I think it's just as irresponsible for a 15yo guy to get a girl pregnant.

-Irresponsible parents come in all ages, shapes, and forms. There is nothing saying that a 25-30yo will automatically be a better parent and there are plenty of examples out there of older people being crappy parents too.

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Originally Posted by JeenYuss

thats basically exactly what i was going to do, but if we get married we're both getting $2,500 every 2 weeks instead of $3,000 every 3 months and i can actually put the house in my name instead of getting sum1 ta put it in their name

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Thats crazy? WHat tribe?

as far as teenage mothers go... i think generally the majority of them are irrisponcible... altough like some of you stated there are exceptions...