Coming out of the closet...
Was an unhappy lesbian. She "experimented" with heterosexuality and became pregnant. She had a daughter. Eventually she decided she wanted a sex change- she wasn't a lesbian, she was a person trapped in the wrong gender body. He has now gone through his change and is now a successful speaker for the trans-gender community.
To put it mildly, his oh so Catholic mother was NOT happy with her child. (This woman has 3 foot high statues of Mary and Jesus in her living room- just to give you an idea!) Even after the operations, Mom called him by his former feminine name and introduced him as "my daughter". That was about 5 years ago. Mom has since relented and calls him by his masculine name and introduces him as "my child". She's still not very happy, but is now accepting her son. I kept telling her that it's what's in the package (spirit/soul) that is important, not whether it is wrapped in blue or pink paper (the body)!
Actually, my friend's child accepted it the best. She calls him "maddy" (Mom/daddy) and just refers to him as her parent. She is quite at ease with the whole situation.
Me, I filled in as the "other-mother"- I gave my friend the support he needed and listened a lot. I guess I did OK, since he is far happier now than he was as a lesbian. Parents may not be accepting at first, but eventually, they will come around. If you do come out, find a good, non-judgmental friend who listens. They can be a lifesaver! You may have to wait for years, enduring your parent's disapproval, but a parent's love is (or should be) unconditional. My kids are both straight-edgers, while I'm an old hippie, wiccan, pothead--but we love and accept each other anyway.- Granny:hippy:
Coming out of the closet...
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Originally Posted by Storm Crow
Was an unhappy lesbian. She "experimented" with heterosexuality and became pregnant. She had a daughter. Eventually she decided she wanted a sex change- she wasn't a lesbian, she was a person trapped in the wrong gender body. He has now gone through his change and is now a successful speaker for the trans-gender community.
To put it mildly, his oh so Catholic mother was NOT happy with her child. (This woman has 3 foot high statues of Mary and Jesus in her living room- just to give you an idea!) Even after the operations, Mom called him by his former feminine name and introduced him as "my daughter". That was about 5 years ago. Mom has since relented and calls him by his masculine name and introduces him as "my child". She's still not very happy, but is now accepting her son. I kept telling her that it's what's in the package (spirit/soul) that is important, not whether it is wrapped in blue or pink paper (the body)!
Actually, my friend's child accepted it the best. She calls him "maddy" (Mom/daddy) and just refers to him as her parent. She is quite at ease with the whole situation.
Me, I filled in as the "other-mother"- I gave my friend the support he needed and listened a lot. I guess I did OK, since he is far happier now than he was as a lesbian. Parents may not be accepting at first, but eventually, they will come around. If you do come out, find a good, non-judgmental friend who listens. They can be a lifesaver! You may have to wait for years, enduring your parent's disapproval, but a parent's love is (or should be) unconditional. My kids are both straight-edgers, while I'm an old hippie, wiccan, pothead--but we love and accept each other anyway.- Granny:hippy:
Interesting, glad it worked out great and everyones happy. =D I'll smoke one right now to that. :)
Coming out of the closet...
Coming out for me started out really difficult, but I just slowly let some people know subtlely by commenting on a girl or joking about having a girlfriend and some people got it and either accepted it or never brought it up.
I'm okay with people knowing I'm bi, just let you're self get comfortable with it first...
It's not as bad as you think it might be.
