okay, my boyfriend is a complete MORON and I like to think of myself as relatively intelligent but I love him to death. Plus, you don't seem stupid girl.
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okay, my boyfriend is a complete MORON and I like to think of myself as relatively intelligent but I love him to death. Plus, you don't seem stupid girl.
well thank u bfa ...
we ended up chilling a lot this week ... we didnt do shit though ... im gonna go visit him up at school in 2 weeks ... and illl do stuff with him then. it was nice being with someone who was a guy that actually likes me and didnt have to get with me to be around me
First thing U need to work is how not to belittle yourself...
Looks like he wants a piece of your ass. Be careful......See what happens....
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Originally Posted by gabee42ee
Remember what we were talking about on that other thread, Gabee? About waiting a little longer to put out sexually until you really have an opportunity to see whether there's a friendship there or anything in common besides him just wanting in your pants? To not allow yourself to be used but instead to hold out and see if indeed the guy's interested in you as a person and not just a conquest? That's why people, especially lovely, perfectly intelligent young ladies such as yourself--particularly girls who tend to underestimate themselves--need to wait a little longer before becoming physically intimate to let some friendship intimacy develop first. That way you won't underestimate your worth to a guy as a friend or romantic relationship by selling out too soon as only a piece of ass. That's how you end up with that regretful, used feeling we were discussing in that other thread.
Now's your chance to try the hold-out technique. And I promise, it's the one technique that's guaranteed to keep him coming back so you can allow the time to let more than just physical attraction develop. Guys will keep coming back if the challenge is still in front of them. But once they've conquered that challenge, especially if you've given in so fast that there wasn't time for any type of relationship to develop, he'll be onto his next conquest fairly quickly. (Which is when the light bulb, until now, has gone on over your head and you've realized you've put out too soon and been used.)
Newbie's warning to be careful/wary about potentially being only a piece of ass is right on. Guys know these techniques better than anyone. "Oh baby, I definitely want to hook up with you." And "You are SO beautiful" are appealing and flattering things to hear. But if you listen between the lines, you're not exactly hearing, "Hey, I want to know about you." Or "C'mon and let's go to dinner and a movie so we can talk." You're actually hearing young-man parlance for "I want in your pants ASAP."
Keep up the holdout a little longer, OK? If you really like him and you like yourself enough to believe you're worth a relationship and not just a couple of hookups, just keep holding out on sex till you see if he's really worthy of your company, much less your body. You would probably benefit a lot from a book that's helped many young women called The Rules by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider. Do a Google search on The Rules and just read a bit. There's another book I've heard my single friends talk about, too, called He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth To Understanding Guys by Greg Behrendt that's a good one for girls who tend to fall into the pattern of hooking up with the wrong guys. Good luck!