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my boyfriend influences my eating habits a lot, but i think it's a good thing for the most part. his family is super pro-organic and healthy, so he has got me eating more organic foods and more fruits and veggies. if we ever break up i hope i keep up with my current diet, cause im a little bit of a junk food addict!! :D
I have lost 15 pounds this semester at school, because I started swimming regularly.
I now weigh 165 on my 5'4" frame, but quite a bit of that goes into my boobs (38F). However, I do want to lose another 15 pounds or so.
My boyfriend tells me all the time that I look perfect, and that he loves the little bit of extra meat on my bones. However, he also understands that I just feel healthier when I weigh less, and helps and supports me.
Oh, and Mrs. Greenjeans - such good advice, and good for you to have that strength. Its amazing how ugly pounds leave with the (emotionally) ugly man.
I'm too slim right now, but even when I'm a little "fluffier," as my husband calls it, I'm not sure that I have a great body image. I tend to be too self-critical and look in the mirror and wish I had bigger boobs or slightly shorter legs or a rounder butt. It's always something. I hate it that this is a struggle for me and so many other women. Guys dont struggle with this issue nearly as much. And I recently read that women of color don't either. Wonder where we get this? Is it from our mothers? My mom was the same way--overly hard on herself. My younger sister's theory is that we three girls inherited it from her. If I were able to look at myself without the poop-colored glasses (a term from a friend of mine who's about to become a practicing psychologist), I might be happy with the fact that I'm tall and reasonably proportional and have a fairly nice face. But instead I see the flaws.
Interesting BG. I'm biracial, but was raised with the white side of my family, and I have body image issues. I wonder how differently I might have felt had I been raised with the black side of my family? I might not mind my comparatively chubby thighs. I might not have gotten a breast augmentation to "even" myself out.
I dunno. I retired from stripping last year, and if there's one thing I've learned, it's that all men are different. I weighed 100 pounds of lean muscle when I retired, and for every man who thought that my body was perfect, there were two who thought I was too skinny, and at least one who thought I was too fat. You can't win.:p
Now I'm 20 pounds heavier, and I feel like a voluptous sex goddess. Even though when I wear corduroy pants you can hear me walking down the hall. :S2:
I'm sure you're beautiful! I'd like to add 20 pounds. I think women are much more attractive when they look like women and have curves. I used to have those, and I felt more comfortable like that, even though it wasn't runway skinny. Of course, in the days when I was that way, I worried about being too fat. Frankly, at the end of my pregnancy almost 21 years ago, I WAS fat. Like I said, it's always something.
I've been thinking about this all evening. I even called my mom. She said she definitely had what we now call "body image" issues when she was young. She was very pudgy as a teenager and then got obsessed about it and lost a lot of weight when she went away to college. She said "I feel pretty certain I had a mild case of anorexia, but this was the 50s, and so there wasn't a name for it then." That sorta opened my eyes.
i just want to say i was over weight for years and i hated myself for it, i wouldnt go anywhere, talking to a girl was out the question, i lived im my own misery.
i finally just went to the gym and basically lived there, i beat my body so bad some days i would almost be in tears from walking but after 15min of cardio they numb right up to be abused. it took but 6 months to lose 65lbs and my body feels a lot better than it did ever.
eating is nothing more than a weakness, find something better to eat like chicken and if you have a grill just grill it plain with no skin. there are tons of great veggies and a million ways to prepare them, you will lose weight faster eating better rather eating less believe it or not.
just motivate yourself and make yourself feel guilty for not working out.
i wish i did it sooner.
now i have 2 sons and a daughter on the way so maybe i should have stayed fat :p
I got rid of the 260 pound abusive ex-wife two years ago. I haven't lost any weight but I feel more limber. The kids and I laugh much more and wrestle. I am much more likely to sit on the floor with them to play a game or watch tv then back then. Maybe I lost emotional weight? Either way, I feel much better just knowing the kids are safe and that I did the hard thing for the right reason and it's worked out best for them. I probably look my full 46 years and then some, but I like myself and feel so much better about myself.
- Slow -
hah, i do. i think i'm extremely fat but in actuality i'm not close to as big as i think i am. being tall makes it worse b/c if you have any bit of extra weight you start to look like a linebacker. i'm always on a diet. i either barely eat at all or overeat. i'm "curvy" but i hate that, i wanna be skinny!Quote:
Originally Posted by birdgirl73
BINGO! You've hit the nail on the head. Good for you Slow, for getting yourself and your babes out of a bad situation.Quote:
Originally Posted by slowlickitysplit
Folks, life is too short to spend it with soul sucking vampires. Remember, it is better to be alone than to wish that you were.;)
good for u samwhore!Quote:
Originally Posted by Samwhore
i have problems bc i think if i look perfect always guys will want me and stay with me .... but i have learned the hard way that no matter how flawless i look it will only get a guy to bang u not to be there for u wen u need him
i have never worn much makeup but i was always reallly into my clothing and being dressed just right but recently i have stopped giving a shit ... and its made like a lot easier ... and i have more moeny ... now i just have to stop smoking so much and ill be rollin in cash