How Long did it take you to get over A breakup?

ive found that its easiest to just cut them out for a few months, and then if you want to be friends restart a friendship. but jumping from relationship to friendship is tough.
good luck and remember the world has billions and billions of women.

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Originally Posted by higher4hockey

in my experience, i've never gotten over any of the girls i've loved. im single at the moment and there have been two girls that i have been in serious relationships with. i've moved on and i dont think about either of them that often, but every once in awhile something will come up that reminds me of one of them, and i'm reminded that i still care deeply for both. i read a line in a book once that i think is relavant. "lost love is still love, it just takes another form."

the first girl that i was serious with, i honestly thought i was going to marry. when we parted ways i was crushed for a long time. i eventually moved on, but i don't think i'll ever get over her....but then i think to myself, at least i shared something special with her. i see so many people in my day to day experiences and i never get to share so much as a happy moment with 99% of them. but to have been able to share so much with that girl is great, i may not share these things with her the rest of my life, but at least i got the chance to for a little while. 'don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened'

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amazing responce... what book did that come from?

tuesdays with morrie.

Like physical wounds, if serious enough the scars could last a lifetime.

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Tell her the friend talk shit has got to stop...

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Originally Posted by RobPA

Thanks for the advice. The hard part is she keeps saying how she wants to remain friends, but I am finding it extremely hard. Just stupid shit like seeing her myspace status as "single" and taking everything about me out of it.. Its like I dont want to be soem pathetic guy and let her walk all over me but she keeps tellin and calling me saying she still wants to be friends and stuff. The hardest thing is shes from Jersey right over the bridge and We goto a ton of the same concerts so its going to be almost impossible to avoid seeing her.

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ohhh man..oh man. after reading that i gotta say my hearts going out to you, my girlfriend is/was pulling the same thing although it really is my fault and its enough to go crazy over, i think my girls gonna come around soon enough but if you dont get that lucky then theres always someone better out there i suppose, if she can "fall out of love" like that obviously she isnt the right one. its such a ridiculous proposal, you cant just love someone and go right back to friends! its like seeing and then losing your sight or losing your arms in an accident because you just cant function like normal after it. its kind of insulting to me also, i cant put my finger on the exact emotion but its something like embarrasment/hopelessnes/shame, fuck it. dont feel pathetic, or anything bad about yourself, its not your fault..and the most i can offer is whenever you start feeling upset, sit in a dark room and clear your mind as best you can. its what i do and it really helps with the lonieness and the longing. you need to take care of yourself before you take care of other things right now, so give yourself that time and try not to beat yourself up over it. its a bad situation, i know right now all you want is her, and honestly the only thing you can do about it is learn to move on, find someone else or take up a hobby and release the feelings through that.
hope i helped,
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Originally Posted by RobPA

Long story short, together 4.5 years, engaged, close, girl says she fell out of love a week after new years, been bad last couple months I guess with fighting and all. How long does it usually take to get over somthing like this?? im 25, and this was my most serious relationship honestly and was never planning on getting back into the "dating" game...

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I totally know what ya mean..My wife, and I just broke up almost 2 months ago (I know sometimes thats all i talk about, sorry) and I'm finding it really hard to get over and to move on, but then again I don't want anyone right now, I need to focus on my life, and rebuild it in a sense. I personally say just focus on yourself first and forget about the dating game for now. I've allways found that true meaningfull relationships happen when you least expect them. But yeah it takes a long time to get over someone you have been with for a long period of time...and the whole stayin friend's thing can be difficult as well. Amazingly me and my now x wife are being able to be civil towards each other, hell I've somehow managed to stay living here since we broke up,(money issues) but I'll be out in May 1st. but yeah anyway, wish ya luck, and hope you can get through your break-up, and be able to move on.

was woth a girl for near six years and was dumped with hardly an explanation, am with a girl now for 3 years and never knew what I seen in the last girlfriend, the first few months are tough but you gotta get up brush yourself down and get on with it (even if you dont feel like it) trust me mate, their is always a light at the end of that tunnel.
See that just wanna be friends shit, it dosent work imo and it will never work, its just her way of allieviating some of the guilt she feel, out of sight, out of mind.

its been 3 years i still miss her,we was together for 15 years,ive got custody of our kids had loads of other girls but no one matches her but life goes on and you have to make the most of it,i dont think we ever get over someone we truly love we just deal with it,keep your head up dude:thumbsup: