Bullies!!!

i used to get tortured everyday on the way to school
the gangsters who would recruit kids would beat my ass

I think you did the right thing man. My father always taught me to never lay down to bullies, and I never have. I plan on instilling the same values in my kids if I ever have any.

it sounds like you did the right thing. just make sure that when you take him out for ice cream he knows its because he stood up for himself not becacuse he won/ was in a fight. You might even want to remind him that he should try to use words first and if that doesnt work then its ok to use his fists. It sounds like you have a good kid.

I'm not saying you did the wrong thing in telling your kid to stand up for himself, but what if he did and got his ass kicked. Not only has he gotten a beating that could have been avoided but he would also be tormented by the other kids for it. Sometimes all you can do is fight, but fighting is always the easy way out of a situation. There are other ways to stand up for yourself without fighting.

homeschooling.

good job junkyard....my dadd told me the same thing when i was younger and i got into a fight.....and i also am friends with the kid these days..sometimes u have to fight someone to learn to respect them and to gain respect.

I agree with the majority that says you did the right thing junkyard. I'm teaching my 3yo little girl the same thing. There's a little boy at the school who you can definitely tell is going to be a future bully. I was watching him at a birthday party and he'd go around yanking toys out of the other kids hands, and then toss them away. He didn't really want the toy, he just got a thrill from taking it away. he also tends to go around hitting the other kids, my daugher included, etc etc. So I tell her "if he takes your toy, you take it back" and "if he hits you, you hit him back". Sure they're only 3yo's, but the principle is the same and I figure now is the best time to teach her confidence and how to deal with bullies.

I think what you did was the right thing to do just be prepared to deal with any non bully related fights with the iron hand. Not to say he would but it has happened.

yea u did the right thing, i mean ui gotta handle your own sometimes u feel me? i mean in that case there really i'sent any other way to handle it. i mean it wasent that longf ago that i was his age. and bullies jus do things cuz they think they can get away with it. and u know sometimes u gotta knock them out for them to realize what respect really is. i mean u did the right thing. at least your son won lol. ur a good role model man good job.

Hell yeh...i would of said the right thing.
i have never let myself been pushed around...if someone fucks with me. i fuck with them. thats just karma...(i know how to fight too sooo...no im not a redneck)
but its weird how you become buddies with people you fought with.

and by your posts... it looks like you are a good father.