storm......storm...that was just...awesome...
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storm......storm...that was just...awesome...
princess
Polymirize's advice sounds spot on, personally. But you have to remember to take anything said with a grain of salt man, and don't sweat the small stuff.
And for that matter, he wasn't even being an asshole. At all. He suggested that you simply "sit down and think of honest reasons why a girl would spend time with you," not "there is nothing that wants to make a girl spend time with you." - - Read carefully before blowing steam - -
My own advice would probably be to put yourself out there more, in as many social situations as possible. Meet new people. Exchange phone numbers. Engage in deep conversation, maybe some dinner and sex, and see where that takes ya.
But PLEASE don't take that as me being an asshole. I'm not I swear. =)
You may have a problem with being in the just friends zone. If you like a girl let her know it and show it as well. Everyone hates to hear your just like my brother or vice versa for a girl. No one sleeps with there siblings so your stuck in the friends zone. When you approach a girl make it known that your single and looking for a relationship not just a friendship.
Actually, what he did was make an assumption about me that was completely inaccurate.Quote:
Originally Posted by Its a Plant
He read my first post in this thread and assumed that's what I say to try and pick up women. The fact of the matter is that when I talk to a woman the first thing I do is ask her name and let the conversation take its own course from there.
So, what Polymirize had to say is not relevant to my situation at all.
To everyone who tried to give me some advice without making assumptions, I appreciate it and I thank you.
I think he was just making you aware that this whole thing isn't anything new:
I mean, I'm sure you have had to overcome adversity and all that, but so has everyone else, and it's almost like you're trying to use that as a reason to meet a special lady. We get it though. You're a real catch and any woman would be lucky to have you. But everyone's practically in the same boat, so you gotta find a new way to seperate yourself from every other single guy.Quote:
I've accomplished things in my life that most people never even attempt because it's "too hard." I've endured my share of trials and tribulations. I've paid my dues a thousand times over. I've journeyed through hell on foot, and made it back out again
If you make things unclear for us, it's hard to help you out when all you write is some bland paragraph trying to name your good qualities. Maybe start things out a different way then, eh?
I still think you misread Polymirize's post, too, because he's not talking about just picking them up, but actually meeting women. What you do after that is up to you. ;)
What I was doing was telling you about what kind of person I am (I do believe I already said that before). I was making the point that I'm not a bad person to have around. And that's why it's a mystery to me that I can't get a girlfriend. After all, there are many, many men who are very bad people to be around, and they have girlfriends.
For fuck sake, even Hitler had a girlfriend.
That IS tough to swallow, especially since Hitler was a closet homosexual.
Oh well keep ya head up, but you gotta put yourself out there before anyone finds you, ya know? No use waiting all your life, because sometimes you have to meet halfway. ~
You're damn right it's tough to swallow.Quote:
Originally Posted by Its a Plant
That's why I don't think people should ever say "you have to be like this" or "you have to be like that" in order to get a girl. Because there are so many different personalities and characters out there, it's just ridiculous to think they will all be attracted to someone like you.
The truth is, I believe, that those of you who have girlfriends were just lucky enough to meet someone who is willing to put up with your shit.
hey city boy:
you sound like a nice enough dude. Sure maybe you get a little edgy too quickly and there are some self confidence things to work on...but....just be who you are and you will be fine....try to live life in the lights, camera, action mode if you can....try to seize your moments. i hate it when i leave someplace and i think darn i wish i would have done this or that...
you'll be fine...
I tell you what man, there is no such thing as a perfect human being. Sure, I have my faults, and so do you, and so does everyone else who has posted in this thread, and so does everyone who hasn't.Quote:
Originally Posted by RichieRich
Like I said, you're all just lucky you found someone who will put up with your shit.