WHy the fuck

not all guys can come from handjobs or blowjobs, so if you can't that's totally fine- it's just how ur body chooses to do things.

but yea, if you feel the need to be able to come from a handjob, follow the other peoples advice and use lots of lube lube lube!! key ingredient.

ps: i totally agree with birdgirl when she says to sort of 'lead the way'...if more guys taught their partners exactly what they want, the world would be a better place! :)