My own son would rather live on welfare than live with me...

It's really hard to move from everything you've known your whole life when you are that age. It's kinda scary. I got kicked out of my house when I was 15 and had to go live with my uncle, then grandparents in the country where I was in the middle of nowhere and knew nobody. It sucked balls bigtime but now 7 years later I cant stand the city and all the traffic and congestion. Having lived in the country for awhile i grew to love all the things I first hated about it and now I embrace it. It's hard to make him realize that it's the best thing for him. Believe me I know but he really is missing out and hopefully he will come to his senses and make the move for a better way of life.

mom must have better buds :(

How old is he? Why doesn't he want to live with you? Tell him he can smoke weed freely if he does and he'll come :D.

haven't you seen his views on underage smoking already? yeah i really don't think he sees that as an option

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Originally Posted by moorephened

Listen, I donâ??t know if Iâ??m the best person to offer parental advice but I do remember being a teenager. Those are some really messed up years when your relationship with your parents changes and your not always sure about the best way to handle it.

I think most boys go through a period where their relationship with their dad getâ??s a little testy. My dad and I used to fight every night, and one time when I was 16 I spent a week living on the streets rather than come home.

But hereâ??s the thing: We got through that, and I love my father more than life itself now.

My advice would be to stay as involved as possible in your sonâ??s life, be the best father you can be even in tough circumstances.

This too shall passâ?¦

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I was having alot of problems with my father too, so we went on a road trip to try to fix our relationship. Our trip was cut short though, when he had a heart attack, then another one, and then another one, and passed away July 13. RIP. Keep your parents close, theyre all you got.

I didn't meet my dad until I was 13. Even then he didn't even believe I was his son until it was confirmed through a DNA test. After that I went to see him every 2 weeks until I was 18(almost a year ago). I never felt comfortable around him. I truly think he didn't care to have me around, and I think he just felt obligated (sp?) to have to have me around. I really wish I could have had a dad from the start who wanted me around and wanted to be a part of my life.

What I'm trying to say is don't give up on trying to be a part of his life, if he wants to live with his mom let him but at least give a shot at being a dad, or a best friend, to him. I'm sure you're doing that as we speak but you know...

Bright side, worst case your offer will be some leverage with moms: "_________ or I'll go live with Dad!" Then it's just a matter of time. 13 is a lot of teenage years left.

Offer to just have him over for school breaks or over the summer. Boy's can be attatched to their mother's especially around 13. See if you can't change his mind :-D

i never had a dad...a couple asshole moms bfs and one time a voilent drunk stepdad for a few years...but never a dad :p


so uhh why doesnt he want to live with u?

The child has a mind of his own... if there is discipline on one side believe me a child will pick the opposite,I would of... I hope you live long so you have a chance to hook up with the adult son...

not to mention mind manipulation on the part of separated parents...