hiding who u like

It's simple. We're afraid of not being accepted. If we were 100% sure that they would say yes, then it would be a different story.

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Originally Posted by Az.

maybe people don't want the person they like to act differently around them?

Some people change when they find out someone likes them....possibly start showing off and such, if you dont want them to change the way they behave around you then dont tell them anything..

hahaha i might have completly missed the point.

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Yeah what Az said and they dont want that person to find out because it will just make them embarrased i suppose

I think it's really simple also, you are probably a bit shy, young and have a fear of rejection..
I'm sure everyone does but at some point you gotta realise, you may not have that chance again and it will be a moment lost forever....

It depends on the situation and people involved. When my wife and I got together, we kept it a secret because we worked together in an office with 150+ people. I'm a very private person and just didn't want my business in the rumor mill. That was the only reason, there was nothing else to hide...I got with the baddest chick in the office. Go me!

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Originally Posted by 3rdEyeVision

your just shy sounds like

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okay yoda

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Originally Posted by birdgirl73

I think it just basically has to do with vulnerability and a resistance to wanting to leave ourselves open to rejection. If we like someone and they know it, then we're more vulnerable to rejection if they don't like us back.

It's hard for folks to put their feelings out in the open and risk not having them reciprocated. So instead they hide those feelings from the person who might be the potential rejector.

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She nailed it!

ya i think bird girl is rite... plus i think that if the person finds out u like them and they dont like u then they will not be the same arnd u so uve lost much of ur chance already... but thats not always how it is just he fear

I don't know, I don't get that. I like to be open just so I can figure shit out before it gets serious. I don't want to be secretly obsessing over some guy to figure out they hate short girls or brunettes or something.

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Originally Posted by Big Blunt Boy

okay yoda

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i didnt say that :p

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Originally Posted by lagstronaut

i don't get it either...we like a person, we know being with that person will make us happy...so we hide the fact that we like this person.. maybe tell people but only until you're sure they like you back...fear of rejection? maybe. but this quote can help you figure out what you need to do maybe [from thom yorke of Radiohead]

"If you have been rejected many times in your life, then one more rejection isn't going to make much difference. If you're rejected, don't automatically assume it's your fault. The other person may have several reasons for not doing what you're asking her to do: none of it may have anything to do with you. Perhaps the person is busy or not feeling well or genuinely not interested in spending time with you. Rejections are part of everyday life. Don't let them bother you. Keep reaching out to others. Keep reaching out to others. When you begin to recieve positive responses, then you are on the right track. It's all a matter of numbers. Count the positive responses and forget about the rejections."

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Good quote. I think I'll save this somewhere on my computer. :thumbsup:
I was going to say the reason of hiding our emotions fear of rejection but I don't see a point now.