then that is why you made this thread, you know what im talking about;)Quote:
Originally Posted by slipknotpsycho
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then that is why you made this thread, you know what im talking about;)Quote:
Originally Posted by slipknotpsycho
Lucky you :( My and my wife were dying to have kids till we moved down to FL. Now I'm waiting for shit to settle back in before we start trying, but I'd love to have a kid. I think I'd make a good dad and I know my wife would be an excellent mom. I just have to wait and hope i'm lucky enough to have one.Quote:
Originally Posted by slipknotpsycho
bong - yes having a kid made me realize how fast my days are passing me by, when i say it seemed like yesterday i smoked my first joint, maybe it seemed like a year ago, when i say it seemed like just yesterday i had my first fishing trip, maybe it seemed like 2 years ago, but when i say it seems like just yesterday my nearly 1 1/2 year old son was born, i mean it seems like just YESTERDAY.... and now that i have a kid, all the days and all the weeks just seem to kind of 'merge' i have to check the calanders, just to know hwat day i'm on now... i don't even really know anymore.. everything has just kind of merged.... three days into one, one day into three....
ben, i really hope you know hwat you're up for, those first few months (which i practicly was the only one seeing to his needs during those months) are hell, and i mean literally hell.... no sleep, built up frustrations, both normal life and sexual between you and your wife/gf.... it's just hell..... i've wanted to have kids since i was really young (8-9?) but i was never prepared, and nothing anyone can tell you will ever truely prepare you for parenting...
You will... where there is a will, there is a wayQuote:
Originally Posted by benagain
First part of being a great dad you got dailed............you are there with your wife. Sound like a big hart too
Yes you do. The thing you have to realize about that, is it's impossible not to be living in the moment, or living "for" the moment even. You're always just living out the reality of your life, and it's not something that you can really do "wrong." The philosopher William James said, "What is mistake but a kind of take?"Quote:
Originally Posted by potsmokingnome
Of course, what you say about looking back and having regrets, that just describes everyone's life. Everyone is in the same psychological boat you know? We all have the same problems, with wishing we had done certain things differently, it's probably the most common feeling human beings have, besides anxiety about the present and future. But even when you're not feeling it, you can't get outside of the reality of the moment that you're living. You can't escape living the moment, so all you have to do is forgive yourself for all of the past and for all of your foolishness at thinking you weren't living in the moment, because you were.
R.D. Laing said "the self I have been searching for is the me that does the searching," or something like that. So... when I look back and think about what I missed out on, when I think about my "unlived life," I realize that my unlived life is really just the life I have been living all along--it's me sitting here right now thinking about the things I did wrong in the past. So each moment is a choice, to just drop any thoughts and any worries, just because you can anytime you want to.
slip remeber the first like 3 weeks with the baby home, sleep deporvation. I was like crying and laughing in the same Minute. it was a trip.
Yea, I know the first what two, three months, I'm expecting maybe an hour total sleep. Just knowing that all that hard work is gonna produce a happy healthy intelligent person just makes me smile. I've got a friend who had a kid early in life (I'm basically the godfather behind his parents). I was there when he was born. There for his 1st birthday and christmas. I've got to watch him grow from a little infant and now he's walking around calling me uncle ben. It's killing me. Everytime I leave thier house to go home I get a little sad. Both to be leaving him and knowing that I don't have anyone like that waiting for me. Someone who lights up just seeing you come home. Knowing that you're the only person that can make him happy at times, and getting to teach him all the things my dad tought me. I know if I'm lucky it'll happen. When we do start trying again, I'm going to the Dr first to get checked out then my wife (guys problems are a lot easier to fix than a girls). If we're both lucky we'll be able to get it done.
good luck Ben.......
I can't wait til im an old man because hopefully by then i'll see why theres any point of us being here. I mean, all we do is destroy the planet and kill animals and kill each other. Dos'nt seem very promising. Does it? ;)
yea thanks. I know I'm gonna need it. Now that I work from home it's even harder to not have one now. Free day care is rare to find. I can be home all day and work the night shift and still be around the house if needed.