Advice please

If this is an unwanted pregancy, don't get an abortion. Abortion, I think, should only be done in the case of rape. Any other time, if you can't keep it, then adopt it, please. There is blood flowing in the fetus after 20days, and a heartbeat after 24days. That is a life and an abortion will kill it.

I can't stand people who get an abortion because they made a mistake.

how much you wanna bet this asshole will try and get out of it by saying it's not his kid? Someone needs to kick him in the eye a few times. A guy like that doesn't sound like he'd make a good dad anyway.

and on a side note. it's complete unfair bullshit that some people who don't want kids have them like crazy, but people who are ready for one and really want one never get pregnant. Me and my wife were trying for over a year before we moved and didn't get shit execpt a lot of fun. I've heard of people spending thousands of dollars trying to get pregnant only to come up empty every try.

get her to put it up for adoption becaus she wont be able to give the baby any more than what it wants, she can always have another one but if she decides to keep this one thats it lol

Abortion is the last thing I would ask a stranger's opinion about. It's one of those deeply personal decisions that will affect her for the rest of her life. The droning voices of those that have not only read but memorized every anti-abortion pamphlet offer no help when it comes to the reality of the situation. It is a decision that she alone pays a price, regardless of the outcome.

abortion is not the wya to go. think about adoption. so many people would like a healthy baby that can't have one!

abortion=murder

but other people are right, this isn't really a question for this board, lol

First, I would like to reiterate my belief that in the 21st century, the word accident does not apply. There are too many option for preventing a pregnancy, ranging from condoms, diaphrams and pills to just keeping your damned legs closed if he won't wear any protection.

Second, abortion is not birth control. It is the voluntary termination of a living being. If you are talking rape or incest, that's different. But I gather you are not. But the documented psychological and physsiological effects of abortion can be brutal so it's generally not a good idea.

Third, if she really feels she cannot raise a child, (and she probably is not there yet since she was dumb enough to get knocked up in the first place, and at 26, like I said, there is no excuse) she should seriously consider carrying the child to term and giving it up for adoption to a good family that will give the child a life with 2 parents. There are even adoption programs that will allow her to stay in the childs life. Statistically speaking, children who are raised by a mother and father tend to fare better in the long run of things. This is not a sexist statement but rather a documented fact.

Fourth, if she does choose to raise the child herself, then she should pursue the idiot who knocked her up and take him to the cleaners for support.

Fifth...for heavens sake...don't marry the bum just because she's pregnant.

PS: Lemonboy is correct, this is not the best place to be asking for advice.

Accept responsability and let the innocent baby live.

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Originally Posted by likemclever

first off you don't need a man to raise a child. You just need them for the first part and then you can just get rid of there worthless asses.

It just floors me how SOME guys can just have the attitude of "not my problem" and just take of like they are leaving you with the dinner check. They abandon there own children without a care in the world. Itâ??s a good thing that men are not responsible for the survival of the species. This is not a total dump on men cause believe me there a quite a few dirt bag mothers.

I was 26 when I had my child and your friend will be OK. My advice would be to have the child. And document everything about the fatherâ?¦document every single dollar he gives her, every phone call he makes to herâ?¦.everything. Typically what happens is that the looser guy goes and lives his life as he pleases without a care in the world until that child turns about 5 years old or so. Then they come to the realization that their own children despise them because of the abandonmentâ?¦.then all of the sudden they want to â??playâ?� father.

Document everythingâ?¦.go to court and get sole custody.

Just another thing I bet this guyâ??s parents donâ??t know about the childâ?¦.maybe someone should tell them.

Most parents would be furious to know that their son is a coward who is running out on their Grandchild. His parents may want to help support their grandchild even if their son doesnâ??t.

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Your post wreaks of prejudice...

She should know who she opened her legs for...

What does she want to do?
Is she still together with the father and what are her plans with him?
Is abortion an option for her - I mean psychologicaly or whether her beliefs allow it?

Raising kids is very very hard work. If she can rise willingly to the challenge its one thing - otherwise she might feel resentful and trapped and that will cost the child too!

It's a life decision and she needs to make it... How much can her conscience handle??? If she aborts she looses a part of her that she will never get back,can she live with that???