Everyone Else Has Had More Sex Than Me

[QUOTE=ermitonto] but I've never been the kind of guy who changes his physical appearance just to conform to the newest standard of cool (which is admittedly probably part of my problem, but I don't want a woman who only wants me because I look cool enough and besides I have had girls compliment me on my hair before).
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Listen bro, I know it sucks ass, but you really should cut the hair.

The reason girls compliment your hair is because they have similar hair, and you probably keep it clean and straight, which some girls just can't do.

What it comes down to is this: What's more important? Getting laid, or maintaining your "I dont do what other guys do" attitude? Think about it. You think I like wearing nice clothes and getting pretty to go to parties? Hell no, but I do it because girls notice.

And to be perfectly honest, girls are shallow. Guys are too, but so are girls.

Remember this - Attraction will reel a girl in, but personality will cause her to stay. And I don't care if you're the ugliest dude ever, if you're confident in yourself and you can make them laugh here and there, you should be all right. I'm a pretty ugly dude but I have nailed a few hotties with jokes and confidence. (And grey goose)

And Encatuse is right, I was stuck in the "friend zone" for a long time, and it's pretty hard to get with chicks like that. You don't have to act like a real jerk , but you do have to act like your shit don't stink a little bit.

I dunno, maybe I'm wrong, but that's all the help i can offer you right now.

To sum it all up, conformity is scary, but you have to at least fit the mold for a good looking guy. Short hair definately helps.

Also, here's one last question for you to ponder because I'm baked -

How many short-haired girls are cute? not many right? Unless you're talking cameron Diaz...

How many long haired guys are attractive? not many, either.

that's all for now. Encatuse, feel free to enlighten me with more wisdom, you seem like you have been around the block a few times. (Are you gay though?)

RIPODB is dishing out the serious and truthful advice! Don't change yourself, IMPROVE yourself. :)

*puts away notepad*

haha, ive learned more today then i ever have

very useful info..erm, cut that hair man. sorry but it has to go.

anyways, gl man

later

Dont cut your hair if that what you like.Dont change thats just silly because as soon as they see the real you they will dump you.Be yourself and eventually you will find someone that is attracted to you for the way you are.I dont know about the whole pretty boy thing hmmm i dont like those pretty boys i prefer a man who looks like a man and is a bit ruggard looking but thats just me i guess.I havent seen what you look like i dont look at peoples pics unless i see them in a thread that i am replying to.From what these people are saying it seems that maybe you dont take care of yourself i dont know.Maybe women are different over there as i hate cocky men who think they are hot shit.Actually every woman i know dont like those types of men.Take there advice as it seems they know best.

Thats it. I'm moving to Australia.

Hey man im almost in the same situation as you are. Well im actually starting to come out of it. I was really shy all thorough school. I went to only a few dances and they weren't ones that you go out first. I havent slept with any girls at all. Ive only kissed one girl twice and that was because she was pretty much making all the moves on me. Ive never had a real girlfriend. There was this one girl i was kinda seeing and i would put my arm around her and shit when we were watching a movie. Anyway after a few nights of hanging out, i knew i had to make a move on her and kiss her cause i knew she wanted me too, but me being very unexperienced, i didnt. I just let myself like her too much and i got too nervous. Well after that, she kinda lost interest with me and we stopped talking. Its just like encatuse said "You can't be 'scared of losing her', or else you've pretty much already lost her." Its true. Meeting girls and talking to girls in a way that makes them interested in you doesnt happen over night. You gotta work at it and slowly you become attractive by talking and acting. One thing that ive done first of all, is never let myself like a girl too much. I try to say things that might make me a little nervous cause i know im kinda shy and that helps me out. Ill flirt with girls at my work by saying stuff. Theres this pretty hot mexican girl at my work and sometimes ive said hasta luego bonita. In case u dont know spanish, thats like saying see ya later and calling her pretty too. I dont know. I just try to think of stuff to say and do. Girls like to be tickled. Then if they say something like stop with a smile like they arent mad, id say something like "you know you like it". If you ever use bit torrent, download the book 'double your dating' at www.torrentspy.com. If you dont use it, get it at www.bittorrent.com. all you download is, is a reader that will open a .torrent file. its kinda like the same way acrobat reader works. I downloaded the book and it really boosted my confidence up. Seriously when you read the book, you will feel like a different person. It has boosted my self esteem up more than anything anyone has ever told me. Anyway just be confident and dont be shy at all. Girls dont like shy guys too much. Well all i can say is u should get that book. It will help u out.

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Originally Posted by ermitonto

By the way, here's that picture of me...I'd take a better picture of me but I'm too lazy at the moment.

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Dude, is that some sort of quasi-mullet you are sporting there? If so, for gods sake man, get it SORTED!!!!

I'm in partial agreement with what I've read. What I would say is that if you meet a really cool chick, then you could look like a giant arse and she'd still sit on your face ie if she see's you for what you are and likes it, then mullet or no mullet, you'll be ok.

Dude, Don't cut your hair bro. The issue here isn't the hair at all. He hasn't get laid yet coz' he has long hair and he magically won't get laid if he cuts it. The thing is YOU have to make the effort to meet girls if you want to get laid. A girl isn't going to come knock on your door and fuck you, unless you pay her. Find out where these parties are, go there smoke some herb and start talking to girls. You can take even simpler steps if you set goals for yourself, say, ok today i'm going to get 3 girls phone numbers/ email addresses and then do it. You'll be suprised how easily girls will ahnd out their number and email. If they say they don't have email then come back with some comment like "do you have electricity.?"

Also talking online to women is great practice. Whoever said get that double your dating book knows what he's talking about. In that book it tells you to use the C & F technique which is cocky and funny, the two work wonders together. I can tell you're a funny guy you just need to work on your confidence. It's already been said but girls love to be teased. for example if you're at a party and you see some girl wearing like nothing for a shirt, Walk up to her (she'll be thinking, this guys gonna compliment me on my shirt because i'm shallow) and say "what, can you not afford a real shirt?" Cocky and funny comments like that will keep them off guard and confused, while making them more attracted to you.

Don't go up to gilrs and give them compliments, buy them flowers and all that wussy stuff because that won't get you anywhere. Think about being a hot girl for a second, imagine how many guys advance on her in one day. All giving her some bs line, trying to be a "playa" You have to be different, girls see that you're different and not like all those other guys. I'll give you an example: I was at this party once and this hot girl was talkin to these guys and she had got her hair done and everone of these fools were complimenting it, saying shit like omg you look so hot, i love you... I walk over there, and say "nice hair (satirically) and walk away. And then one of the wussy guys did what i expected him to do, he goes "don't listen to that guy i love your hair." Long story short, i got laid that night, they did not.

Cease the day, go out and talk to girls, make the effort, download that double your dating book if you can. Good luck.

Take all the advice listed in all posts above and you'll do fine. :D

(or move to Amsterdam)

I seen you and i think your hair looks great and im serious.My son has a mullet (little different to yours) but thats very cute to me.I have had a boyfriend who looks alot like you but his hair was much longer and i just thought he was the greatest thing ever at the time even though everyone thought he was a slob.He was not and his long hair was beautiful and clean and i loved playing with it.He was too much of a bad boy for me so i dumped him lol.