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my sister inlaw allways over stays her welcome, she turns up in the morning and leaves late evening, she has a 2 yr old who is into everything and wants all the attention,and as i won't smoke in front of the child i end up spending all day in the kitchen,whilst the rest of my house is overtaken,i feel she uses us for a baby siting service and last weekend i told her so, she hasn't been round since, sometimes you just have to tell people if they don't take the hint.
same shit with my uncle. except not by a few hours, by weeks. shows up unexpectedly, consumes SO FUCKING MUCH for one person (mainly soda and tons of food, leaves the lights on all around the house, even during the day). he stays for a month and a few weeks usually. it's the only reasons i dread the holidays, a chance that he might show up.
I had a friend like that. I met her at a "good" time and she later became a real drifter. After a few days stay when she'd done her laundry and over-ate all my munchies and her massive dog had left massive shits in my garden I just wanted her to go. She had a hard life and I had a difficult time telling her to piss off. She eventually settled down and sorted herself out and now I don't hear from her.
Most people who over stay their welcome at my house just get the straightforward "Look, I love you but you have got to go." It doesn't happen often but so far it's always been understood.
thank you, this is the real truth, i try to live by this rule myself, i used to not have anyone over at my house do to the fact that it was a wreck, so i used to bum around and go to everyone elses house, and for the first few times i did i would hang around maybe a little longer than we should have, but i got used to it, for i never really went around to peoples houses till after i started smoking when i got a large base of friends, and now that i have my room clean i have people up and we chill, and luckily ive had very few incidents when people have overstayed their welcome, only once has there been one when it was unbearable, i actually started to fall asleep while i was talking to them i was already laying down too. But its all good they live down the street, so its not like i even cared, cause i dont care if people stay longer, so long as they know that i may fall asleep, just dont fuck with my shit if im not paying attention, and you can stay till i wake up, but its not the usual case.Quote:
Originally Posted by NextLineIsMine
Damn... that sucks. I'd be like "get the fuck out of my house... I'm hitting the sack... peace out." Straight up. It's my house, I'm not going to sit there and let someone else make it their own, you know? That's just rude of them. Next time, don't stand for it.
Of course, if they need a place to stay or need an ear b/c their going through hard times or something that's a different story. But if they're just sitting and staring... that's fucking creepy to be honest.
My timing is eerily precise.
and then there's the opposite end of the spectrum... being asked to stay longer than you'd like.
last night i went to chill in the Bronx with some kids from work, and we didn't start really chilling until like midnight, cuz it took us like over an hour to get there.
so we basically just ended up chilling all night, i got back to my house around 7am, but the thing is, i was ready to leave by like 4. but they kept goin "oh let's cook somethin, oh let's just go out for one more blunt" and i was like.. damn, i have like an hour commute back home and you want me to just get smacked in the face by this blunt lol all right if you say so
i mean, i guess that's not a bad thing, i was just hellllla tired
I'm a pretty blunt person so if someone is just hanging around my place with no where to go or be I'll just tell them:
Hey, I have to go pee. So either leave or help me get the charmin.
Usually people are so startled they leave...
or they stay even longer haha
And then you have a whole new set of problems haha
Twenty minutes of silence between host/hostess and company is sad and depressing unless your watchin' a movie,playin' chess,etc...Sounds very awkward man...Quote:
Originally Posted by Terps
When that happens I always feel like at any moment a tumbleweed should blow past...