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well if you're smoking with your buddies instead of being with her I think that's a justifiable reason to not want you to do it...I've been through that so much...
you're going to have to quit smoking pot or break things off and get a girlfriend that smokes marijuana...which makes the most sense in the first place...if you smoke pot you're likely going to have a lot more in common with a woman who smokes...
but i really like her...i'm in a bad spot
maybe ask her if she would eat some brownies with you. if shes worried about smoking because its hard on your lungs and shit, just make some brownies and let her try one. then if she likes the feeling slowly start introducing her to smoking herself. but never lie to a girl, i got into big trouble doing that with a girl. told her i quit then got arrested for it.. but now after talking to her about it, being open when i do do it, she wants to do it with me now. just be patient and if shes worth it, be open wth her. the sooner you tell her the better.
i hate people with that mentality that smoking cigarettes till you have lung cancer, drinking alcohol till your kidneys fail,poppin pills till you o/d is all safe but you take one hit of weed and all of a sudden your worried about your health :wtf:Quote:
Originally Posted by matthiasj
well we're really really close, and we both really like each other. We're totally honest with each other, everything is great, we have a good relationship. When i was smoking with my buddies and not paying her much attention she didn't like it, but she liked me enough to stay with me.Quote:
Originally Posted by OLDE ENGLISH '800
What happened was i was running low on cash from smoking so much LOL so i decided to cut back on consumption. Ironically my 2 smoking buddies got arrested just a few days later, and if i wasnt with her when it happened, i would've been with them.
So i decided i would quit and get my shit together, well i quit for a few weeks, and i was miserable, i didnt have her to hang out with during the week, and i didnt have pot to smoke so i had nothing to look forward to. So i told her i quit because it wasnt worth getting in trouble, i wanted to save money, and i wanted to better our relationship. Everything went according to plan, and i've got my shit on track, but i still want to smoke here and there.
We made a deal that if i was staying clean that she wouldn't drink and party while at college, which she hasent. I havent kept my end of the deal up, but she doesnt know that. I really want to be with this girl, and i just wish she would be a little more open, she just takes everything she hears bad about cannabis and thinks its fact, even though i've showed here documents that said it wasnt bad and stuff. mainly she doesnt want our relationship hurting because of pot, but i'm beginning to think there is no way to convince her that it wont if we dont let it.
give it time, make a point of doing it infront of her as opposed to away from her so she can see for herself that its just one of many ways u can relax and she can be included in that. IE break down her prejudices and show her your not a smackhead.
Ugh that mentality is running rampid in my area. I had a guy acquiantance who was drunk one night and told me that I wasn't "girlfriend material" in his opinion all because of the fact that I smoke weed. This asshole is out every weekend drinking his liver to death and has the nerve to say I have a problem.Quote:
Originally Posted by OLDE ENGLISH '800
Well...when I am in a jam, and I think others are to blame, I remember this piece of biblical advice.
Remove the log from your own eye before removing the splinter from your neighbor's eye.
This amounts to: concentrate on your own actions. What should you change? How can you make your actions speak louder than your words? Is she more important to you than weed? Or not? Sometimes we fool ourselves into thinking we value one thing when really, our actions belie our intentions.
This is a tricky one. My girl don't like me smoking, and yes, she says it changes me too. The thing is, it's true. I'm a lazy, uncommunicative bastard. So my advise: Don't smoke around her, try and keep it to nights when you don't see her.
Keep em separate if she dosen't already toke, and she won't try it.
I was faced with the same problem three and half years ago, and I just came out and told her "Hey I smoke weed and I know you don't approve of it but if you really like me you wont give me any hell cuz this is who I am and this is what I like to do." She cried for about a day and got over it and now we are happily married and she is just as big of a pot head as I am. Now my wife would like to tell her side of the story so I am handing the keyboard over for a few minutes.
First off, he was drunk and high, and we were instant messaging each other on yahoo. I asked him what he had been doing all day and his reply was, " drinking and smoking." I totally flipped out on his ass and he told me that if I didn't like it then to break up with him. Needless to say I didn't and instead I tried it myself and have been smoking with him every since.