choking and hair pulling

Crazy? Hardly. I've been thinking a bit about this.
I like my share of kinky games- okay, a little light bondage. I like a man who can dominate me and yes this translates to "who could potentially hurt me"... but DOESN'T. I'm not going to get into the specifics of why this is here; it's a bit personal. But to me one of the functions of sex in a relationship is a reconfirmation of the trust that the partners have between each other.
I know this sounds wholly clinical and unsexy but having been in realtionships with men who didn't know how to dominate without breaking that trust and inflicting pain, both emotional and physical, I find it very important to know that my partner does know and respect those boundaries, and understands instinctively when I start to feel uncomfortable.

your damned if you do and damned if you dont
its either you get lucky with a horny psychopath
or you get lucky with innocent zombie sex

Well if you enjoy it.. Personally, i think it's called loving because you shouldn't be choking people.

Like Ned flanders says in the simpsons movie, something to the effect of:

Choking? Well that's not really good for anything.

HELLS YES. Choke fucking rocks. It turns me on tremendously to be with someone I trust so much that I will literally put my life in their hands. Mind you, I will not do this with everybody. In my long and promiscuous (fuck skink HA!) career, I've only done it with 3 guys, one of whom I am married to.

BDSM isn't for everyone, and it isn't for every situation. It requires a tremendous amount of trust, and it's the trust that provides the ultimate turnon.

Thanks for the responses...I really dont feel wierd about it and it dosent freak me out at all..it is what she likes and I am down for it..I know boundries and I know when I am hurting someone and when I am not..I have great control of my strength. I do like domination but that has been strictly more with role play and stuff. holding hands over head..rough sex, dirty talk, hair pulling..but I only do that stuff when it is requested..I am open:jointsmile:

if a girl asked me to choke her while doing the deed, my response would probably be to stop midthrust, cock my head to the side (my melon head, not my darth vader head) close one eye slightly and lower an eye brow in my best what the fuck look. i would probably say what with a slightly bewildered tone mixed with a little bit of mistrust. her response would probably warrant a very slow i see. then it would be wicked akward and i would finish up and leave, hmm..maybe i wouldnt even finish...

i dunno thats kind of one of those things that now that i think about it is like a question like what would you do in combat....you never really know until that very moment and you do what it is that you do.


basically to make a long story short. choking has no place in my bed.

Well I have done the hair pulling thing and that's cool and all. Mild BDSM is great!

But the choking thing is a little beyond my limits. Not my thing.

Haha, the kinky stuff is cool I guess. But I met this one chick who wanted me to beat her up. In her words "I want you to give me a black eye.":wtf: I can see it all in my head, I give her a black eye, and then two days later the cops are at my door with an arrest warrant. "I swear officer she told me to!" too wierd man.

(and Stinky, I am sincerely sorry for the other post, I didn't realize. ;) )

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Originally Posted by geonagual

How many other girls like this?

What do you think about it?
A girl that I like that I just recently met, was telling me that she likes this a lot..So, I was doing some of the choking last night while we were kissing, kind of as a tester..it seems pretty cool to me..she was getting turned on by the way I was doing it. So, thats cool:jointsmile:

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Don't get too carried away buddy, or you'll have a cadavern on your hands! By the way, is that the school teacher?

Heh, yeah, don't you guys know?! It starts with choking and leads to necrophilia! ;)