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shit happens in life some for the worst and some for the best but it seems like every time we all are in a shitty time in our lives we say this sucks it is never going to be better or the same...........but in a few months everythings back to normal things to unfold the way they should in a weird way...sometimes not the next hour but slowly and surely.
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well I dont get all of it but from what Im reading you have to stop drinking alcohol and stop binge drinking.
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you should just try to win your parents back. i think that if you just show that your on a path to improvement then they will help you. it will not be easy but if you dont do it then you might just keep going down a darker hole
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thanks everyone :o you dont know how much i appriciate it.
i do have a serious problem and i know i do. and i want to change .... badly. im taking all of your advice. im going to go to aa and na because i have problems with a lot of different things. i need to stop all contact ith the 'friends' who arent good for me because even though i am in controll of own choices (clearly i have no self control though) being around a friend who isnt going to tell me to stop or keep giving me the things that they know i shouldnt be doing, isn't ok. and thats not a friend. i dont have any friends really. except this one guy who just took me in. im stayin on a futon in his place and its not too bad. pretty close to where i lived in the city before, and he doesnt want me doing any thing other than pot. i went over there and he listened to me sob, told me neither of us are going to do anything bad. ate a brownie and chilled out.
i am also going to go into a lot of therapy because i do these terrible things because im unhappy. hating myself as much as i do is a problem.
and i shouldnt hate myself. im young and attractive and i had a lot of opportunities and i blew it. i also want to go to college because my job isnt working and i really need to better myself
thanks to all of you agian. like i said i only have one other person who will give me decent advice and you all helped a lot. im goign to get better.
and although i feel like im at rock bottom i know it could get a lot worse, but i hope things only improve.
peace and love everyone thanks.
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oh and there was a little ray of sunshine in all of this. a man called my house yesterday and said he found my purse in a bunch of bushes. my wallet and digital camera were missing. but he was a nice guy and wouldnt accept a reward so i dont think he took it. at least i have the purse its self and my shitty cell phone which wasnt good enough to steal lol. thank god for that. oh and the first thing i did in the a.m. was cancell all my cards.
thanks again for lisitig to my rant and helping
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thanks to all of you again. like i said i only have one other person who will give me decent advice and you all helped a lot.
First step you need to take is with the friend who can give you decent advice. Ask this person to be your accountability partner, some one who will talk to you daily in person or over the phone and ask the hard questions about your issues, and someone you can call when you get tempted and talk it out. All the rehab in the world isn't going to help if there is no accountability. This was the first thing I told my patients when I was a rehab nurse.
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^^ yes. ive been to rehab once before and i went for my family not for me. which is why it didnt work. you cant force someone to get better. i didnt want to get better than, it was about 2 years ago. i relapsed after about a month not even. this time i want to get better. i dont want to be how ive been anymore. ill end up dead. after that night im honestly lucky to be alive. if it wasnt for the cop that arrested me i would be, or at least rapped.
im living with the one good friend. thank god he took me in. i need someone to support me. i hope this is the right thing.
im so ashamed of myself
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[quote=420MissHighTimes420]^^ this time i want to get better.
If this is true than you can! I went to rehab a couple different times and they didin't work because I wasn't ready. When I was ready I didn't even need rehab, I got clean myself. As prevoulsly stated, you have to have accountability. You also need to get humble. I was that rich kid and I have totally changed, I got humble. Getting clean was the hardest thing I have ever done, but by far the most rewarding. You can do this too.
GOOD LUCK!
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Sweetie, if you have had that moment of clarity that tells you it is time to make real changes in your life, that is GREAT! If you have hit a bottom, that is GREAT- because it means you are ready for a new path. I had a moment like that 22 years ago, and I quit alcohol and drugs and cigarettes- and didn't need rehab to do it- AA and NA work! You just have to show up and ask for help. If I can quit that way, so can you- I was just as messed up and scared. I have so many wonderful things in my life now that I would never have had if I hadn't quit.
After being clean and sober for nearly 10 years, I allowed marijuana back into my life and ditched the Prozac...and so far no problems. To me, that is the test of whether something is good or bad for us- if it brings bad experiences, it is bad for us. If it brings positive events, keep doing it:thumbsup:
I don't know much about you, but I care about what happens to you. I was where you are now, and I was lucky to survive.
You deserve a good life. If you surround yourself with good people who support you- it will happen. Please don't settle for less! No excuses anymore- time to put on the big girl panties and get tough with yourself. You can do it:thumbsup:
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I agree with Demeter here.....she's got the right idea absolutely. It IS an opportunity...and you ARE capable.....believe it. If the problem is alcohol then I don't want to hear one more fucking word about self-control.....because that is NOT what addiction is about and that kind of thinking will keep you down on yourself rather than seeking the right kind of help. Please PLEASE do not listen to idiots who tell you that all you have to do is "learn to say no" because they do not have ONE SINGLE clue what's going on.
Go to the meetings. Grab onto the people there. They are TERRIFIC. I glued myself to those folks for MONTHS after rehab.....I was terrified to be by myself because I was so afraid I would go back to my old lifestyle. They LITERALLY taught me how to live sober in a world I hadn't seen that way for 20 years.
Do it. It IS worth it. And so are you. :thumbsup: