21-Year-Old Virgin - Normal?

Also currently a twenty-one year old virgin. Also used to have poor social skills. I think the wait was probably good for me - I know who I am, and I know what I want, which means I'm not going to waste a lot of time bouncing from girl to girl trying to find the one that's "right for me". I don't think there's really a limitation on one single girl who'll be "right" though - people change, chances are after a few years we'll move on to other people. Who knows, I haven't even held hands with a girl so I'm basically talking out of my ass on this.

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Originally Posted by slipknotpsycho

the ONLY reason i think sex might be best only when you're married/serious to the person is becuase that person will be on your mind for ever.... literally... it should really be someone special.... not some chick you hooked up with at the bar..

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A few people I know who screwed around a lot have said that it's good that I'm waiting for someone special. Of course, when I asked if they'd change their past if they could, they said no. Mixed messages and double standards don't do much for me.

Hm, I'm cynical tonight.

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Who cares lol? Gonna die and be forgotten anyways.

I was 20 when I lost mine. Im 22 now and have had 4 under the belt. It should be much higher, I have a very nice Physique.

I would say you are Abnormal for not having sex yet, so was I. I knew it. I was ashamed of it. But then again, take your own time.

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I completely disagree.

it should be with someone special, and that can only be determined through time
there's no need to rush into something like this

it'll make everything a lot better when its with that right person rather than having the memory of someone else

take your time

not to downplay the 'someone special' thing, b/c it definitely is important to have sex for the right reasons. but my advice would be don't get TOO caught up on finding that precisely right person. what i mean to say is... my first time was with a female, my girlfriend of 3 years (though i don't remember at what point in those 3 years when we first had sex...) and we had a good sex life.

Since her I've had several other girlfriends, and, to the surprise of many people around me, a boyfriend. And the thing about that FIRST person I slept with is that, even though it was a very nice memory, and even though it was a very good experience (i thiiiiiiiiink i lost it on Valentines Day?) i don't look back on that 1 first time and decide that it dominates my sex-life after that.

Perhaps my view is different because I don't tend to have one-night stands. I usually only screw around with people Im dating, but to be honest I remember the one-nighters as well.

So basically what I'm here to say is, don't fret over it. but don't make too big of a deal about it. Just let it happen when your body and mind are ready for it. In the meantime, maybe try finding yourself a girlfriend.

i would like to point out that most relationship books and magazines say that the first person you have sex with you aren't likely to end up with. this definately isn't true for everyone, but i took this advice and it served me well. I also recommend only losing your virginity to ONLY another virgin.

the virgin thing is interesting, if you know the person well and have built up a good relationship with them then it is the best way, its how i lost mine (16) yet if its someone you are just with just because they are a virgin, then it might just double the erm awkwardness. i dont think the previous person sexual history should matter, cus we all have pasts. she might be a little dissapointed if she doesnt know before hand, but then if she knows then she can help and make sure you are at ease. plus then she gets the added bonus of moulding you into a decent lover. not just a wham bang theres you lot love, kinda kuy.
the only reason you give to being a virgin is your social skills. well thats probably where you want to start. get a hobby, join a club volunteree. meet some new people and improve them. social skills are just that, they take a bit of pratise for some people. but u will get better with time. but just dont feel like you have to get on with everyone or be a door mat if u feel indebted to people.
be yourself and enjoy yourself
the rest will come

peace and progress
snowblind

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Originally Posted by Candnloveweed420

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I completely disagree.

it should be with someone special, and that can only be determined through time
there's no need to rush into something like this

it'll make everything a lot better when its with that right person rather than having the memory of someone else

take your time

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lol now you sound like a Female. Trust me, fuck someone Insignificant so that when you have sex with a girl that you like not only physically or mentally, you can rock her socks off.

Theres nothing special about your first time, its not magical, Its sweaty, sticky and fun all at once, fuck the romance.

You have the rest of your life to be Romantic with your wife, just get er done :rastasmoke:

I was a 21 year old virgin, but out of choice. I actually lost it about a month ago to my current g/f of 2 months. I have had other oppurtunities, but I really care about my gf, and thats what really matters. fuck people with their "It aint special", but also fuck people that make too big of a deal. Your first time will be fun, but not amazing. Dont hold out forever, but dont rush into it. pace yourself, and when you find a girl you care about, go for the gold.

There's alot of virgins at that age. Some of my friends are. It's nothing abnormal about it. You are just shy =)

I didn't lose my virginity until I was 19. Take your time, and find someone special to do it the first time.