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A witness can call the cops too. She may not press charges, but it will be an eye-opener for him to be hassled by The Man. He needs to know that that sort of thing is unacceptable to society as a whole, even if his girlfriend IS currently too scared to do anything about it personally.Quote:
Originally Posted by napolitana869
Sorry to burst your bubble, but I've been in that situation before too, and I actually LEFT the dude. Make sure she understands the escalation of violence in domestic situations, it started with name calling and took me right through to 2 black eyes and a deep gash through my eyebrow to leave him. When I finally DID leave, I was an emotional DISASTER, cold and hard, but inwardly questioning my own strength.Quote:
Originally Posted by lagstronaut
Don't try to be her boyfriend. It will not be good. If she thinks you wanted her to leave him for selfish reasons, (which she will if she has a brain), she's going to resent you. Try your best to be a purely supportive person who just wants her to be safe.
Ive been in your same position, not really much advice, just do what you think is right. But also rember you are setting yourself up to get hurt if you let your feelings keep growing. Its a dangerouse game but I hope you get the girl bro. No woman deserves to be mistreated like that.
if I wrote an autobiography, that would be the fuckin tagline man. my feelings only usually get involved in situations where I'm bound to get hurt. i wonder if i do it to my self?Quote:
Originally Posted by Blitzed
Yup. It's not a terrible thing, and certianly nothing against you, but something that you need to deal with BEFORE you will ever be able to have a healthy relationship. It's akin to women who always seem to end up back in an abusive relationship- the problem is within. Gotta love yourself FIRST, man. I'll bet you feel for this chicklet as a kindred spirit.Quote:
Originally Posted by lagstronaut
First off, if you EVER see him hit her again slug him, then slug him again for me (I have serious issues with guys who hit girls, and girls who hit below the belt...)
Second off, keep being her friend, always be there for her. She should wise up and dump him, or he'll dump her, and maybe she'll realize that you've always been there for her and presue a relationship with you.
Well your in a good spot and this can also be the death spot... She seems like she really digs him... Chicks dig dicks somtimes. Its all they know or they just don't think they can do better. there are honestly 1 million reasons. Some people love what they can't control. Some love to be in control.
you could tell her how you feel and Magic will be in the air and she will dump him and fall in love with you and live happily ever after but I don't know...
You could tell her how you feel and make things akward for both of you, Or she might be like thats sweet then use it to her advantage. Its hard to say.
If I were you I would just keep being that faithful friend BUT TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF,,,, try not to get too attatched or even envolved in the relationship. Cuz what will happen is you will become her crutch. you will be what she is missing in her other relationship. So she will have no reason to leave the Jerk cuz she can bitch and moan about it to you. You'll think that your making some leeway in helping win her heart but really all your doing is prolonging the Hurt that is there..,.
thats my personal experience. I got all caught up then let down in the end. And funny enough when I said fuk it and stopped waiting and starting playing with other girllies. She got really jelious and said Quote "Girls want what they can't have" She knew I wasn't feeling her anymore cuz I was there so many times and she just kinda used it to fill the hole that she felt.
I'd be lying if I said I wans't a little hurt but in the end it was ultimatly better because I learned and became a stronger person for it. At first I felt like I was kinda letting her down, Not answering calls and trying to avoid her etc. But it was worth it in the end. I found somone else she found out she missed out on me and we both moved on.
Being friends is cool too... theres nothign wrong with lving your friends.
GO CANADIAN ROCK!!!!!! I can't rember the name of the BAND NOW.... but its an awsome song.
hope it helps some...
kd
yeah man, just stay there and be a genuine friend... eventually she will leave this dude and realize your a better guy, dont be afraid to give her some hints though.
also, dont ever let a dude hit another chick though, even if they can defend themselves, it's just not right. one time a party we saw a guy hit his girlfreind who was freinds with a few of my freinds. My freind whose house it was walked up punched him in the jaw, my other freind in the eye, and we carried him to the doorway of the house tossed him outside and made his drunk ass walk home while she stayed the night....
Well you had your chance, when he hit her in the face you should have stepped up.
Next option, have some girl hit on him and give him her number. Then have her set up a fake date and tell his girlfriend. The decoy could go as far as to tell him to meet her somewhere at such and such time and tell the girlfriend, only to have her confront him with the camera crew from Cheaters.
Note option 2, not very mature but I hoped it made you laugh!
Option 1: I didn't get a chance to get to him before the crowd of other guys did. I was the furthest away who still saw it happen so by the time I ran down the street it was a crowd of people, me, and her, so i just sat next to her.Quote:
Originally Posted by FakeBoobsRule
Option 2: lmao you don't wanna know how badly i'm considering it