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This man speaks the truth. Sure you feel less guilty when you don't lie, but parents can be fucking evil 'n turn that shit around on you.Quote:
Originally Posted by Skink
Kinda like that whole "tell me the truth 'n you won't get in trouble" bullshit.
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Originally Posted by GirLScouTs
I completely disagree with you, their are tons of fathers out their that act the same, and they are still good parents. As for the note, i would say make it shorter and cut straight to the facts you have repeated yourself many times and you dont want to do that you will lose the readers interest, tone it down a little and send it on its way... If the note does not change his mind dont give up, it takes time for some people to come to their senses. All i have to say is good luck to you, and i hope things work out between you and your father. And if your father did raise you right and obviously you love him, i doubt he will just shut you out of his life. he may remain cold twords you but it will ware off as he begins to notice that acceptance is the only way.
My father is a great father, he is just very old fashioned. But he has dealt with my older sister getting pregnant out of wedlock and my little sister being gay, both of which he finally came to accept after a little while. My main goal is to inform him rather than to change his mind. I have already told him that I've never brought it into his house or anything, I leave it in my car when I go home. I just want him to not worry about it because its no big deal.
You sure about those two times you use "hundreds of thousands"..?
I think Skink has a point, I've tried to change peoples mind on this issue and they are often too set in their ways. Prepare yourself for him not to suddenly change his mind over the issue. If he still wont accept you for it then just get on with your life, its important that you do what you think is right for yourself. Let him stew it over for a while thereafter and just keep offering suggestion that will dissuade him from being hostile towards you. Don't throw the fact that you do it in his face, but be honest about it. Show him that it's not fucking you up.
Just lie man.
"Dad, I'm clean." If he tries to drug test you, throw a fit about not being trusted and now you are disowning them due to the fact that they can't trust YOU.
Hug your old man, tell him you love him and bring up an old memory. Something really REALLY old about something you never talked about. That will break his heart and rebuild it in 30 seconds and you guys will be cool again.
Parents die. The problem is that we don't appreciate them until they are dead and we look at them in a box. Both of my parents are gone and I'd give anything to be with them for two hours. ANYTHING just to held by my mom again. Anything just to be near my dad.
We had a shitty relationship. Always fighting and yelling. It was a mess and I hate thinking about it. Yet now I can understand what they were bitching and complaining about. As a parent myself, I find that I am doing exactly the same thing. Kill the light, come home whe nthe sun goes down, don't run with the scissors, don't do drugs, don't hang out with those kids, do better in school. They only wanted good for me.
I was the rebel kid. I was in jail. I was in prison. I was under house arrest. I have scars from fights. I have prison tats. I've done every drug imaginable and ever tried to manufacture new ones. I've had VD. I'm overweight. I have an illegitimate son that I do not know.
Yet my brother & sister who were "The good kids" have never been in trouble with the law, only married once, no mental or physical problems and they did very well in school. My nerdy lil bro, who I kicked the ever loving shit out of on a daily basis and who only seen one girl naked (he married her) works for JPL in Pasadena. Also known as Jet Purplosion Labs or NASA. He makes 1/2 a mil a year, has 5000 square foot 6 bedroom house. Two new Lexus one for him and one for his wife. Lil Sis? Works for Chase Manhattan bank, brings in 750K a year and lives in NYC, married w/3 kids.
Took me 40 years, but I found out I was wrong.
I was the cool kid. The rule was "When the street lights turn on, you run home!" Bro & sis would run home. Not me, I was too cool for that shit. Homework? Ha! I was the cool kid when we were growing up. Kicking other kids ass, doing cool shit, drinking beer, having sex. Back then I was the champion of our city.
Now? Safe to say my little bro & sis won. Took a while. But they definately won.
Am I saying don't do pot? No.
What I am saying is, listen to mom & dad while they're around.
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both of my parents feel the same way that dejayou30's dad feels, but that doesn't mean that they're not good parents at all.Quote:
Originally Posted by GirLScouTs
i almost got kicked out of my parents' house when, after i had been smoking for a year, my parents caught me by making me take a completely random drug test because they thought my behavior was "suspicious". for a couple of days after getting tested and getting the results, the only communication i had with my parents was screaming and yelling. they threatened to kick me out and my mom made me read a bunch of bullshit "marijuana is bad for you" false information that she pulled off of the internet. i even wrote a letter similar to the one that you have written, and showed it to them. my mom grew up extremely sheltered, so i even kind of understand how she feels the way she does about it - she has been told nothing but bad things about marijuana her entire life. but, my dad did nothing but smoke pot from the age of 16 until he was 24 or so. and then my mom discovered that he was, and made him choose between her or pot. and he chose her :) but i was extremely angry (and still am quite upset) that my dad, after smoking for that long, was/is so adamently against my smoking.
my parents are wonderful people, just misguided about marijuana, and i love them with all of my heart. i fought and fought with them about this, but after several letters that i have written and given them, and much information i have printed off and given them, i have given up on trying to make my parents understand my choice. i hate to, but i lie to my parents about my smoking. they have no clue that i have been smoking for the past two years, because, in order to keep peace between me and my parents, and for me to continue to use cannabis responsibly, i have to lie to them about it (it also helps that i'm going to school 5 hours away from them) i hate that i have to lie to them about it, and i wish i didn't have to, but it's my choice and i'm responsible about it.
i think this is a well-written letter, and that you have gotten your point across well. good luck!!! i hope that you have better luck than i did trying to get my parents to understand my smoking :)
i said "probably" ok no need for everyone to go defend their parents.. my parents think the same but they're just uneducated.
If this dosn't work then don't put any more time into trying to change his mind. Just try to lie and if it dosn't work forget it.