Well i'd first of all make sure your child isn't a dickhead.
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Well i'd first of all make sure your child isn't a dickhead.
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Originally Posted by Maggz
anyway, you act like it is suprising your daughter gets treated like that. She is the one who chose to dress like a stereotypical goth so she has to be willing to accept some shit she may get from stupid people. You are right that visual apperance means shit, but the way you look is the way most people will judge you. Just like if your daughter dressed like a whore she would probably get harassed about that as well.
Also I think a lot of the people that dress themselves up to look gothic or counter culture like the attention they get from people who stare at them or even make fun of them.
i was a little punk in jr high and high school. i used to dye my hair blue and shit and think i was all cool. but i got lots of shit. when my red hair dye faded and looked pink i got all this homophobe jargon thrown at me from all these macho jocks and cool kids.
i think its gonna happen no matter what, no matter where. all the different groups and crowds either coexist or clash, i.e. hip hop kids, straight edge hardcore kids, punk rockers, student body nerds, jocks, stoners, etc.
it sucks, everyone talks shit!
Wow i really feel for you. I hate seeing prejudice in this world. People need to realize that its not about what you wear or how you look. Its all about whats inside. Now if she was rebelling against and refusing to cooperate then that would be a different story. But it seems to me that she is doing just fine academicly and thats all that should really matter. Don't let the school tell you that she is different or single her out in any way. The best thing that adults can do is let kids do their thing and choose their own path in life. As long as she is not hurting herself or anyone else then it doesn't seem to be a big deal to me. In my eyes you've done the right thing by letting her be herself. The worst thing a parent can do is try to change their child into something their not. Just try to teach her that it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. It will be those jocks that will end up like Al Bundy when they grow up while your daughter succeeds. Just remember, Bob Dylan once said "For the looser now, will be later to win."
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Dear Father of Daughter,
The problem is not that the kids are judging her by appearance rather than success in school. Its the fact that they are judging her in the first place. It is their problem. Atleast she is expressing herself through her appearance. Even though that in itself isnt really a good way to express ones self...in my opinion. But at that age, its ok because she is just thinking a lot, getting older, etc. You should teach her to forget about what anyone says, because only what she thinks is what matters...and those who care for her...Yes, doing good in school, and doing fine with work and money are good things that show responsibility in a person...however the fact that she is standing out from the "crowd" is the real point to focus on. Thats a good thing in a person...shows she is strong, independent, and has a mind and also is artistic. I would personally be proud if I were you....I know what the people say is just wrong, but the deal is you gotta ignore it the best you can. Fuck em man.....they can be stuck in that dumb excuse for a life.
it's good that your daughter continues to look and wear what she wants to, no matter what the dickheads say her life her choice. they are the ones with the problem they need to grow up, and the teachers need to shut up.
lets be frank. if you want to dress like a fucking eye sore, people are going to point it out. if your wearing all black and the whole get up, you should be prepared to be made fun of. plain and simple lady
Sadly, that is indeed the truth. People really are fucking dickheads, aren't they?Quote:
Originally Posted by Jeff Spicoli
Hi Frank! lolQuote:
Originally Posted by Jeff Spicoli
on a serious note im gonna be honest with you. u know the world you know people your an adult. im in high school and yet i even understand that the world is like this. if you go to get a job and ur at an interview are you gonna dress up like a goth? No fucking way in hell. your gonna wear nice clothes and your gonna act normal or else your not gonna get the job. thats fine if she wants to dress like that when shes at home or shit she can do it at school too but u need to let her know that if she does that the bad will come with it.
And on a further note,(no disrespect to you) you say that u let her be who she wants but it sounds like your the one that influenced her to dress and act that way. shes not being herself shes being you. im not sure how old she is but she will most likely grow out of it soon seeing as most kids that are close to their parents do eventually. anyways i say u sit down and think about this and then have a talk with her.
I know what you'r talking about. Just tell her to keep holding her head up and to be proud of what she looks like and her own acheevements. I know how hard being 14 teen is. And the sooner she gives a damn about what "strangers" think about her,the happier she'll be. They are probably just jelaous of her,being able to be herself. Many of us who roam this earth often look to others to find their faults just to feel better about ouerself. This is the way we have been against eachother for millions of years(cavemenn were no better) , and this is the way we always will be,prejudice.