Help me transcend...

It takes time, and everyoneâ??s body is different. I can smoke bowl after bowl and just be high and enjoy it where my gf can smoke bowl and pass out and go to sleep. I do smoke more often so I think that is key that you need to get passed what I call the "giggle" stage sort of. After this youâ??ll be able to relax with it more so. Like said above try smoking less. My friend gets the shakes and throws up if he smokes way to much. Again everyone is different. So give it time and try a little less.

Thanks all for the thoughtful and helpful replies!

I agree with those who said that if I don't like it, I don't have to do it. The problem with that is - if it's not this, I have nothing available. I would have a really hard time doing absolutely nothing while my boyfriend does. I think I would be okay not using anything if I were single or with someone who didn't do any substances, but because he does I would like to have something I can enjoy too. Up until now alcohol is what did it for me on the weekend but now I would really like to eliminate it.

I will try smoking less when I do and take longer between hits. I think that I may take too much at once and then get all the bad effects. I may have to do it more frequently too in order to adjust.

Are there any strands out there I can look for which you think might be easier on a beginner? I know the stuff he has is really strong but I don't think that's what I need right now. Are there any of them that produce more of the quiet and calming effects and less of the harsh anxiety and shakes effects?

I was thinking that maybe if I got a bong it would be more mild than out of a pipe but my bf said he used all sorts of equipment (except vaporizor) and none of them make much difference.

And he's not a wimp per se... like many men he can't take much physical discomfort :). When he gets a cold, it's the end of the world!

Thanks all!

Maybe you need to try eating it. A total different high and very fun.

I think you need to reevaluate your need to do what your boyfriend does... Just do what feels right for you...

Some one suggested you eat it. I would highly advise against that. I think eating it would only magnify the bad effects for you.

Aside from simply giving up smoking if it isn't enjoyable, I will try and help with making the experience more enjoyable.

1. When your mind wanders while watching t.v., embrace it. You will be suprised the crazy shit you think of when your stoned.

2. It helps if you are comfortable in your enviornment.

3. For me however, I enjoy my high much more when I am out doing anything. Even if it is just going to Walgreens to pick up a prescription. Sitting in my house isn't as enjoyable anymore unless I'm playing video games.

In other words, try and find an activity that goes well with when your high.

It will all come down to if you enjoy it in the end though. If you don't than smoking isn't for you and their is nothing wrong with that.

On top of that, if you really think drinking will affect your life and don't enjoy smoking, but feel the need to use something when your boyfriend smokes... You may need to have a serious talk with him. I don't see that being very healthy for the relationship.

I tried responding to this last night, but was stoned and couldn't formulate a thought. I sometimes get to where I can't function very well either.

You also may want to simply smoke less. Sometimes a light buzz is much better than getting really high.

As for strains, it will be nearly impossible for you to track down a certain strain on the street. Unless you know a grower or grow your own, you will have a lot of trouble. A lot of dealers will label their weed with a pretty name to make it move faster. Unless it comes straight from the grower the person you get it from will likely not know what the strain is.

yea smoke less, take longer between tokes etc. and stop when it doesnt feel good. it's not quantum physics.

pills.

Definately get either a bubbler or a bong. Put on your favourite song.

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Originally Posted by Skink

I think you need to reevaluate your need to do what your boyfriend does... Just do what feels right for you...

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agreed, youre getting into a wonderful thing for the wrong reasons, good luck with discovering cannabis:)

Yeah I dunno what to tell you. I don't know if your motivations are in the right place to begin with at this point. Smoke because you want to realize the potential of cannabis and benefit from its many effects rather than because you don't wanna feel left out with your boyfriend or because you don't wish to drink.

Also, I dunno if anyone suggested this, but maybe you're not physically smoking correctly. Are you sure you're inhaling the smoke into your lungs? This is a problem amongst many new smokers. It took me three different smoking sessions to finally take proper hits and get high. Try different smoking methods? Blunt, joint, bong, bubbler. My suggestion is to get your boyfriend to roll you your own fat joint or blunt and then you can smoke it at your own pace. Take a hit.. relax.. take another couple hits. Maybe put it out and spark it up again in 10-15 minutes and take a few more hits. You'll also be able to determine how high you are more easily you know? Like you can reach a point where you're feeling the effects take another few hits and be pretty high and then take a few more and be as high as you want...

I also dunno if you've got your head into it yet. I mean you're not gonna ever get truly high if on the inside you're worrying about it being bad for you or socially unacceptable...

Put on some relaxing music. Embrace the high. Smoke less.

It was like that for me the first few times I smoked, and I didn't like it. Now I can handle it and I love it. It's different for everyone. Some people smoke a shitload their first time, get incredibly high, and love it. Others aren't like that.

I say keep trying, but if in the end you don't like it, then that's fine. I'm not sure you boyfriend will mind if you're not high when he is.