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should i be like can we talk for a second...or just do it like in the middle of a conversation...i really dont have experience in this most of the girls ive hooked up with either made the move the first time or made it very obvious they wanted me...i was thinking about doing this like wen im drunk or something, but number 1 i hate drinking, so thats not so often, and number 2 like if we want to have a real relationship, do i really wana ask her out wen im drunk?
no no...asking her out when you're drunk is not a good idea. it presents many problems: you won't be enjoying yourself very much cause you don't like drinking; you may not be able to remember her reaction all that well in the morning, or how you presented yourself; she may be insulted that you're drunk and making a move like that; if she's drunk too and says yes, because you're both drunk it doesn't really mean much...it's easy for either one of you to say "oops, i made a mistake, i actually don't wanna go out with you" or something would backfire like that.
As a last resort, you could shoot her( or some other gruesome thing) and carry her around and have sex with her and just do all the talking for her.
sorry that was so gross, i couldnt resist
DIZ IZ WUT U DO.....FUCK EM ALL......SORRY DOGG BUT IT SEEMZ THAT SHE DOEZNT LIKE U CUZ THIZ IZ WUT HAPPEND 2 ME N IF U 2 GO OUT N BREAK UP U WONT B AS GUDD FRIENDZ AZ U USED 2 B...BUT I DONNO DOGG...I SAY U STILL GIV IT A TRY U NEVA KNO
Nah... Don't preface it with "can we talk for a second" - That takes the nonchalance out of it. We ladies know damn well that that is the man-version of "We need to talk." *shudder* *wink*
When you're just hanging out and mellow, toss it out there. If you can't find an opening, make one - Mention a couple you know who just started dating: "Hey, did you hear that Jenna and Mike are going out now?" That way your question will be relative to the conversation.
Yeah, don't do it when you're drunk or high. If all goes well, you don't want either of you to be left wondering the next day if it was the alcohol talking. And in any case, you're less likely to pull off the casual delivery if you're not on your game.
thanks for the advice guys...i wana do what u said mackswell, its just weve had finals this week so i havent seen her at all...so i saw her for a second 2day and she said 2 call her 2morrow nite, and im almost 100 percent sure neither of us have nething to do...so i wana be like do u wana go2 dinner with me? the thing is we do this all the time but she usually invites a bunch of ppl or i do...so i was thinking about saying do u wana go 2 dinner 2morrow nite, and then be like, i mean just me and u
Sure, you could do that.
If she insists upon inviting others, it could be she is sensing your wish to have a talk and is avoiding it.
its not that she always insists on inviting other ppl, its just that ive never actually said just me and u, and like her friends kinda follow her everywhere...also another thing is ppl always mention the fact that they think were basically going out, we both just always laugh it off...is that a good or a bad thing, like if she didnt want me wouldnt she say something like, "never"...but like i talked 2 her friends about it and they say she says that were too good of friends, but thats also wat i tell my friends...so i dunno...girls are confusing lol
I think you need to just 'screw your courage to the sticking place' and try the A B C advice I gave ya... That's the best I've got.
When i started to read this thread, more than 1 hour ago, i could not imagine that at the end of it you would not asked her yet... please man... DO SOMETHING! Dont be SO afraid... Or you will regret later...
I myself did like you... my history is pretty like yours, but i was a pussy coward to tell her i really liked her and wished something more then friendship... so the years passed, and i had to wait some 5 years till get a girlfriend cause i had wasted that one. And she was really beautiful...
So, all in all, is better regret what you DID than what you did NOT. Im the living proof of this. JUST DO IT, man!!!
Dont stall because you're afraid of a 'no'... the 'no' only exists if you ask her. And there is a great chance she will say 'yes'... so, DO IT, MAN!!!
If you knew you would die tomorrow, or the day after tomorrow, what would you do? Ask her, and enjoy what may happens, or die like a coward? Think SERIOUSLY about this... cause you dont know which is your last day... which can be today... we dont know... Death is just at an arm of distance... just stalking us... and waiting the time for touch us... so DONT WASTE YOU TIME WITH PETTY FEARS!!!
I really wish you take my advice seriously... cause i know what is live to regret my petty fears... be more a man than i was...
And always remember... Our Lady Mary Jane can keep you cool in the moments of need! :thumbsup:
Peace, and plenty of weed for all! :jointsmile: :rasta: